MaGilicuti's Theory on why guys have more friends then girls.

[toga22]

I have found that is sometimes hard to find girls that just want to be friends and are not looking for some personal gain out of the friendship. Guys on the other hand, don't seem to have any other motivation than just having fun.

I am very laid back, and easy going....and I have enough complications in my life without having to create more. I would have to say that I have far more male friendships than female ones. A possible reason for this is, I really try to avoid gossip, and I am very against people that enjoy talking behind your back. Another thing that I have noticed about women friends is that they are sometimes nosey...wanting to know everything about your business...and guys most often tend to have the attitude of "if you tell me great...if you don't that's fine too..." And for the most part guys are more easily satisfied, in terms of going out....they can be happy pretty much anywhere...as long as they have ESPN and a beer. (lol)

I think one reason that I hang out with more guys than girls too is the fact that I am athletic.....I am on many co-ed sports teams which is rare in this area. So a lot of the guys I hang out with are also "teammates."

And as far as guy friend only being friends with me because they "want to get in my pants" as Milhouse says......I really never thought about that, and it is hard to believe that it is true.


~toga

 

[Milhouse]

I have found that is sometimes hard to find girls that just want to be friends and are not looking for some personal gain out of the friendship. Guys on the other hand, don't seem to have any other motivation than just having fun.

I am very laid back, and easy going....and I have enough complications in my life without having to create more. I would have to say that I have far more male friendships than female ones. A possible reason for this is, I really try to avoid gossip, and I am very against people that enjoy talking behind your back. Another thing that I have noticed about women friends is that they are sometimes nosey...wanting to know everything about your business...and guys most often tend to have the attitude of "if you tell me great...if you don't that's fine too..." And for the most part guys are more easily satisfied, in terms of going out....they can be happy pretty much anywhere...as long as they have ESPN and a beer. (lol)

I think one reason that I hang out with more guys than girls too is the fact that I am athletic.....I am on many co-ed sports teams which is rare in this area. So a lot of the guys I hang out with are also "teammates."

And as far as guy friend only being friends with me because they "want to get in my pants" as Milhouse says......I really never thought about that, and it is hard to believe that it is true.


~toga

If thats your bod in your avatar trust me hun they think about getting into your pants at least 5 times a day. Dont take it seriously though because just because we want to doesnt mean we will or we wont treat you like a bud. But to think that we dont think that like a alot of naieve bitches do is just plain dumb(not you but the majority actually think the guys doesnt want to show them thier monkey)

 

[supersizeme]

So much truth regarding this topic has been spoken already...Milhouse nailed most of it. I have this one female friend, actually an ex-girlfriend who would have her picture next to the "drama queen" entry in a dictionary. Always some shit going on with her, be it that she's sick, one of her ex's is stalking her, she's fighting with one of her female friends, whatever. She's a very attractive girl and over the years I've always taken note of the level of hotness of her female friends and how these friendships pan out. The ones that are on her level or maybe even a little bit better...these girls are her best friend in the entire world for about 6 months to a year and then some ridiculous drama will go down and then they hate each other. And it's always something the other girl did, not her. The friends she makes that are not as attractive as she is, these friendships tend to last longer because there's no fighting obviously because of no competition between the two of them. The less attractive girl knows she'll get noticed more in the presence of the uber-hottie, but she's not utterly shocked when the guys don't hit on her first because she acknowledges her place in the food chain. Whereas if her friend is on the same plane of Hottiness and one of them is paid more attention to, the self esteem of the other is blown out and thus she is transformed into catty bitch and drama ensues.
Guys we just like to chill and hang with each other. We drink, play video games, talk about who we'd like to insert our penises into, and fart on each other. There's none of that complicated bullshit of "oh you're a better looking guy than me, now i'm going to hate you." We work together in the common quest for ass. It's a brotherhood of homies. That's why I've got male friends of over 10 years and they've got other friends of 10+ years, but I don't know that many girls that have the same.
In regards to my female friends...I've got ones that I want to sleep with and ones I don't. But even the ones I do want to sleep with, I don't chase after like a madman because of fear of it going sour and ending up with a busted friendship. Sexual tension is a good thing...it increases your self-confidence and at the same it's all harmless. When you go and make that first move on a friend though, then you've opened up a whole new ballgame and shit gets complicated.

 

[Trance]

I think you're talking about a very specific breed of girl. I really don't feel that most women over 21 have the need to compete with one another and act superior. Most of the women who act like that do it out of insecurity, and these are the same women who judge their self-worth by the number of digits and ass-grabs they get at the local meat market.

I think that the high-schoolish catty mentality fades once you've matured a little.

But I was like this in high school, I suppose. I was the stereotypical cheerleader who got pissed if someone used the same shade of lip gloss that I did. LMAO

Ten years later, I could care less. I try to stay away from drama queens.

 

[Milhouse]

Supersizieme nails it right on here too.

One thing I would always find funny when I would have a girlfriend in the past I would point out to these gf "yes he is your best friend but he does want to fuck you" they would freak out and say something along the lines "oh your being jealous"

Nothing further then the truth but it was true these 'best friend' guys would be just waiting for me to piss off the chick so they could say "its ok dear yes he's an asshole" while thinking (she will repsct me and want to fuck me sooner or later)
In fact in 2 cases I married them off to the 'best friend' after and trust me those guys are more miserable then I was as they had no clue what they were getting into after once it changed from 'best friend' to hubby lol.

Better them then me when I look back
these days I am 32 and inthe past up until a few years ago I would apologize for that shit when they freaked. Npow I dont give a fuck and sometimes have to catch myself when apologising for my stance on the issue. Now I could give a fuck what they think of my opinion which is why I will prob never be married or stay married a long time unless I meet some chick who thinks like I do but I aoint holding my breath nor do I give a fuck either way.

Like what am I gonna do. Start making a shitload of money, meet some braod I have to spend most of it on only to get fucked over or fuck over in the end only to go back into debt again? No fucking way. I will hook up most likely and kick em out before the courts recognize us as common law lol.

If I ever marry after what I have seen heard done the past year and a half it will be when I am 70-75 on my last legs, rich, dont give a fuck and she will be 18-25 years old and can take me for everything cause I am gonna die soon anyways.

I prefer having my freedom and going and watching sports and shit when I want with the boys and coming home and not answering to anybody.

which reminds me of something else I realized yesterday...but thats a new thread all together.

 

[Sassy69]

I have to agree w/ Milhouse as well -- I have mostly guy friends - I grew up with 2 brothers and have been educated and worked in male dominated areas (computer science) and I also spend a lot of time with both bb and ocean / fishing / scuba diving folks - where most of the usual mixed company decorum is tossed out the window - I"m comfortable with that because the guys generally say what they mean and don't waste time gossiping, being cute, etc. I got used to the typical "guy" stuff - nasty talk, comments about the girl in the thong in the boat that just went by, etc - I can tell raunchy jokes with the best of them. And most girls just don't want anything to do with "dirty" things like ripping the head off of a lobster during season or sweating in front of a bunch of people they dont' know. Its kind of second nature to me.

Then you throw in the cattiness of most women in a competitive setting (basically any social setting). I dont' have time for the mind games because i basically dont' know how to play them anyway. I've also found that I can't stand being around girls who can't do anything for themselves and either have to have a boyfriend to do it or spend their time trying to find a boyfriend to help them do it. I'm very independent and I basically like to be able to keep up with the next guy (as was expected of me, growing up with 2 bros).

The drawback to having mostly guy friends is that both the single and married ones want to get into my pants. That's just gross (esp for the married ones). And then I rarely get a chance to meet their wives/girlfriends because of the jealosy factor - I"m very comfortable w/ these guys as friends and that freaks out the other girl. So in some cases I"ve lost the chance to make friends w/ the s/o AND had to back away from the guy so that his s/o doesn't get jealous.

I sort of have the best of both worlds right now --- my best friend is a gay guy.

Despite the number of male friends that I have, I am constantly asking , Can men & women really be friends.... so far everyone of my male friendships has proven the fact that they can't *truly* be just friends. There's ALWASY some sort of sexual undercurrent there.

 

[MaGilicuti]

I think men can't deal with competition, especially if they work out.

i don't compete with my friends at all. atleast not intense competition where it gets sour. all the guys i know have a couple male friends. i think your case is different one but for the majority guys have more friends i think

just for the record the number of friends doesn't show how good a person you are or how social you are.

 

[Trance]

just for the record the number of friends doesn't show how good a person you are or how social you are.

Very true.

 

[supersizeme]

Trance will you be my friend. I swear I won't try to get into your pants. yes i will

 

[Trance]

I'll be your friend, but only if you let me paint your toenals at slumber parties, and borrow all of your cool clothes.