Little Sister's New Boyfriend...

[PolishHammer1977]

B-Fold

After reading what you write now on a consistant basis, you seem to be a very realistic individual. You know that you will handle this situation like a gentleman.
I know you want to fuc* this guy up. It would be wrong to do it before anything materializes. Feel it out like everything else. I think that the kid may look at you and try to emulate you. If you are good in the ways that you are drug/alcohol free. He would look up to you. That would be interesting wouldn't it?

 

[SofaGeorge]

:I'm trying to spend some quality time with him but he is scared to death of me. What a piece of shit.

You just made me spew coffee on my monitor.

 

[Citruscide]

You can either break him, or get Sinbad to drive him in a convertable like he did to that kid in houseguest and scare the hell out of him.

C-ditty

 

[THeMaCHinE]

I think that the kid may look at you and try to emulate you. If you are good in the ways that you are drug/alcohol free. He would look up to you. That would be interesting wouldn't it?

Or, more likely, he'll just continue to be a scumbag (if that's what you've determined him to be) and your sister will get hurt (overtly or dragged in) in the process. Pray to God he doesn't knock her up.


P.S. Sorry if I seem harsh, I am in a mood today.

 

[SofaGeorge]

B-fold, I don't know if this will help much because I'm a bit of a newbie to the 'parenting' thing - but I'm taking care of a 16 year old girl. She definitely comes under the heading of 'boy crazy' and seems to have a crush on a different kid from her school every couple weeks.

I sat her down day one when she was interested in one kid. The topic: HOW SHE DESERVED TO BE TREATED AND WAS GOING TO BE TREATED. I talked to her about the aspects of self respect that come into play in dating, that you set your standards... and you don't hope to get them... you get them. Period. I told her that if she wanted to date someone... he was going to treat her with respect. I told her if she wanted to date someone... she was going to look at the kind of person he was. Did he treat others respectfully? Did he respect himself? Is he someone she and I could consider trustworthy and have confidence in?

Losers can be charming and funny in an asswipe sort of way. If a girl has low self confidence or low self esteem... it's pretty easy for them to be flattered and swept away that ANYBODY pays special attention to them - even a loser.

The only way any kid avoids dating losers is for them to truly understand and believe that they deserve better. Talking to her about it will plant that seed.

 

[Y_lifter]

Sit down with the boy and have a serious discussion about your protective feelings for your sister..

As you said, he respects you, and if he is looking for just a fun time with her he will leave rather than risk injury.

If he is just a young kid experimenting with smoking and really likes your sister for who she is, he will keep your talk in mind and respect her as well.

Your sister is Old enough to see him for what he may be in time, and your talk with the boy will ensure her safety until she does.

 

[Warik]

If you don't like this guy for her, you have to let her know about it in such a way that it won't upset her, but that she won't toss him because of what you say.

But wait, why should I tell her I don't like him, but want her to stay with him, you ask? Because if you say "I don't like that kid" and she forgets about him, she'll never be sure that it was the right thing to do.

The same thing happened with my sister and I. She was dating the most pathetic loser. No car, no school, shitty job, dad had him on lockdown, never paid for a date, etc... I wasn't subtle, I was blatant: "That guy is a loser."

She finally left him after realizing he was a piece of shit. The good part? I knew it, but she didn't want to hear it. In the future, she'll know that brother probably knows best.

-Warik

 

[THeMaCHinE]

Good words SG and YLifter... Go with that.

 

[Bulk32]

TAKE HIM OUT!!!!

 

[-SD-]

Some mistakes should never be made, and its negative impact far outweighs the lesson it may provide. Decide if your sister should or should not make this mistake. It may take a long time, but she will thank you many times over for it.