Little Sister's New Boyfriend...

[minion]

Well, my little sister is 19 and a freshman in college. This past weekend she starts talking about this guy who is dating one of her friends at school and how they are going to the movies together on Saturday night because his girlfriend couldn't go with him.

They go to the movies and come back here and he stays the night. She sleeps on a couch and he sleeps on another.

Sunday rolls around. I get up and run some errands and drop by to see a few friends and when I come get home and walk in the door he is softly scratching on her foot.

Monday gets here and she tells me with a smile that Matt has broken up with his girlfriend (one of her GOOD friends) to go out with her. She was so excited...so I tried to be for her. They talk on the phone for a tad bit under 10 hours that day...grrrrrr....

Tuesday...still on the phone with this character.

Wednesday...today...I finish my test and walk out of the building to meet my sister and pick her up and take her home when he is waiting outside my building for me. He is looking for my sister to say hello to her (he didn't know where she met me at on campus).

1) He was smoking when I saw him.
2) He hid the cigarette JUST before he got close enough so that she could see it.
3) He cussed about 20 times in about 3 minutes while walking with me to pick up my sister.
4) He hadn't shaved his face in about a week.
5) He has purple, brown, and blonde hair.
6) He walked like a goober, or like a white guy trying to imitate a rapper and doing it badly.


I don't like this guy for several reasons.

For the first time in my life I am protective of my sister and I realize how my mother felt when she saw me with a girlfriend and how happy I was...even though she knew that it wasn't the right person for me (hasn't happened in a LONG time though). She knew that I was going to get hurt and probably messed up a long the way too...and she couldn't stop it.

I still think I could scare this guy so bad that he would never talk to her again...but that...in turn...would hurt my sister very much.

Ideas welcome...

B True

Forget that assclown, what's up with your sister dating one of her "good" friends ex's???

Where I'm from that's foul and scandalous. Even if your friend gave their blessing. Its a test and your sister failed.

My suggestion is to go at this from the above angle and talk with your sister.

 

[Fonz]

I have not and will not do anything to him...I know this. I suport her.

My sister is also learning disabled and this guy gives me the creeps. There are some people that you can just be around for a few minutes and get the creeps...he is one of them.

B True

Hmm...that puts an entire different spin on things.

Talk to her. Now.

Fonz

 

[TEXgrl]

all i can say is that at that age, all you can do is give her time to see who he really is....the more you fight against her seeing him or say bad things about him, the more desireable he becomes. you get that whole "its us against the world" feeling and you dig in deeper to that person. try to be there for her, but not be negative. i speak from experience.

 

[Saizen]

Ok mister! I am a little sister, and I know how I always felt when my brother tried to interfere in my love life. It didn't hurt me....it just pissed me off! Don't you dare mess with this relationship! Let her make up her own mind. Maybe he's not the right guy for her....that's up to her to decide. Not you. She's got to make her own choices and mistakes in life. Let her do it. I know you're a big brother, and you want to protect her. I know what that feels like since I have lived through it. I love my big brother for trying to protect me, but he better let me live my own life!

PHATchik said it best...stay out of it. Not your decision to make. I would stay close to her; I would be supportive of her choice and be there for her ( IF she need or asks for it though) Seems to me that men are always trying to figure shit out and find solutions for women rather than sit back and listen or be supportive.

Funny how all reponses on this thread are from men except for two.

 

[PolishHammer1977]

walk up to him, nice and friendly, grab his shoulder, and give him a taste of the captain of crush grip - not injury level, just to the severe discomfort point. then hold it and tell him that's a 1 on a 100-scale if he gets out of line. hold 10 more seconds, for effect. he'll get the idea.

and I agree with project - she'll see what you see pretty quickly.

Were you a bully when you were younger? lol

 

[Austin316]

bah ur doing ur duty man, as a broher, ur olooking out whats best for her...first off, don't listen o the girls here, they dpon't understand this feeling...secondly, its a crock of shit rleationship nyways, if somone dumps your good firend you don't get with them, what a btrayal oftrust and nice foundation that makes...I never in my life flrit with, date, etc any of my firies ex's, it's wrong unless the ex doesn't care...I wouldtell him very quietly, seriously that if he ever hurts he you will snap him in half, then wlak away and let it run its course

 

[ConstantChange]

Austin, you drunk or are you and your keyboard not getting along?

 

[biteme]

That sux. Both of my sister's married dumbasses and they both got divorced. It's hard not to get involved.

 

[Austin316]

Austin, you drunk or are you and your keyboard not getting along?

this keyboard is old as fuck and I feel like shit lol..so a combo of the two

 

[b fold the truth]

The little punk is over here now...grrrrrrrrrr...

Think I should invite him to do events with me tomorrow??? Then accidentally drop an atlas stone on his head? Hmmm...

She seems to like him but she must have the "love goggles" on and can't see him for who he is... I guess that everyone can change though...right??

B True