Letting it go... Does it ever really come back?

[b fold the truth]

They have that old saying that you should set them free and if they come back then it was meant to be...

Anyone EVER have a positive experience with this?

Do they ever leave and really come back?

B True

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

still waiting....

 

[fistfullofsteel]

They have that old saying that you should set them free and if they come back then it was meant to be...

Anyone EVER have a positive experience with this?

Do they ever leave and really come back?

B True

Honestly brother, sorry to say, "No, they don't." Well not for me anyway.

 

[Ceebs]

Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't.

And sometimes something even better comes along.

 

[big_bad_buff]

if they do come back they come back child bearing

 

[Mandinka2]

Yes they do , but it never is like it was the first time and it's dead then.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

Yes they do , but it never is like it was the first time and it's dead then.

Good point. If they did come back, I could definitely see that happening.

 

[NoDaddyNo]

Yes. We went back to each other after 3-4 months and haven't been apart much for well over a year. We went from not speaking for months to being completely in love with each other again. Actaully this morning we were kind of bummed out because he left at 6am, I have to leave for school tonight before he'll get home, and I have class til 10. I think this is the longest we've been apart since being back together.

me and sean34 are the same way

 

[Raina]

Yes. We went back to each other after 3-4 months and haven't been apart much for well over a year. We went from not speaking for months to being completely in love with each other again. Actaully this morning we were kind of bummed out because he left at 6am, I have to leave for school tonight before he'll get home, and I have class til 10. I think this is the longest we've been apart since being back together.

 

[vixenbabe]

This phrase reminds me of people who divorce then re-marry one another for a second time!

 

[TheProject]

This phrase reminds me of people who divorce then re-marry one another for a second time!

My mom did that with her first husband, then divorced him again.

B Fold, shoot me an e-mail, let me know how the interview went.

 

[vixenbabe]

My mom did that with her first husband, then divorced him again.

New phrase: " Glutton for punishment" ?

 

[TheProject]

New phrase: " Glutton for punishment" ?

Yeah, probably...course, this was a long time ago, and single parenting was a little more frowned upon than it is now, and I'd guess that had something to do with it.

After the second divorce, she met my dad, and they've been happily married for over 20 years.

 

[decem]

New phrase: " Glutton for punishment" ?

old phrase: "the demon we know is better than the demon we don't know"



b true.. no.. i didn't.. i was the one that left time after time.. (or "was let go".. however you want to phrase it).. and the only thing i can say is that if i was ever truly in love with her.. i never would have been able to leave.. not once..

 

[jerkbox]

i had a cat that we let go outside.....one day it left. It came back 3 years later.

does that count?

 

[NoDaddyNo]

i had a cat that we let go outside.....one day it left. It came back 3 years later.

does that count?

Sounds like that cat had a drinking problem.

 

[from zero]

Still waiting.

 

[velvett]

Yes, they come back.
















Unfortunately for me it was long there after I never did feel the same way about them.

 

[decem]

Yes, they come back.



Unfortunately for me it was long there after I never did feel the same way about them.

it's my contention that even if you did.... he/she would have left again anyway...

 

[velvett]

it's my contention that even if you did.... he/she would have left again anyway...

AGREED.

 

[velvett]

Love is mostly fickle - not always - but mostly.

 

[Scarlett33]

well I hope in your case she comes back,because you seem like one really nice guy : }

 

[pitbullstl]

Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't.

And sometimes something even better comes along.

this is what happened to me.....^^^^^^...........

 

[fistfullofsteel]

well I hope in your case she comes back,because you seem like one really nice guy : }

well he is one of the nicest guys on the board and seems like that outside the board and that's why he probably gets pissed on.

 

[Mandinka2]

well he is one of the nicest guys on the board and seems like that outside the board and that's why he probably gets pissed on.

And thats a big Amen to that.

 

[brian747478`]

i'm thinking bout u bro

 

[theoak01]

sounds like you may have some tough choices to make bigman, Im here through email ,pm,or any other way you need to contact me bro.

 

[Shak]

quote:
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Originally posted by Ceebs
Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't.

And sometimes something even better comes along.
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"this is what happened to me.....^^^^^^..........."


me too...

 

[pure_player]

Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't.

And sometimes something even better comes along.

This is a great outlook.

My continuingly optomistic view is that things will always work themselves out with time. How they'll work out we'll never be able to truely know.

 

[RottenWillow]

But beware of players! They will often come back when you give up chasing them. Since they're insecure they try to regain control of you when they feel like they have lost it. If you "let someone go" and they come back after a while you have to ask yourself some hard questions about why they came back, but be very honest with yourself. Dont allow yourself to be someone's fool.

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

But beware of players! They will often come back when you give up chasing them. Since they're insecure they try to regain control of you when they feel like they have lost it. If you "let someone go" and they come back after a while you have to ask yourself some hard questions about why they came back, but be very honest with yourself. Dont allow yourself to be someone's fool.

that is one true quote.

 

[decem]

I like the line in the movie LIER LIER, where Jim Carrey's movie son asks him if the statement "Beauty is only skin deep" is true and he responds "Thats something we say to ugly people to make them feel better".

There are lots of them like "Absence makes the heart grow fonder"....

The statement regarding 'letting go and they will come back' is something we say to cry babies who recently lost someone so they will artificially be filled with hope long enough to stop crying for a little bit and making the rest of us feel uncomfortable.

lmao..

true though

 

[Generic MALE]

I like the line in the movie LIER LIER, where Jim Carrey's movie son asks him if the statement "Beauty is only skin deep" is true and he responds "Thats something we say to ugly people to make them feel better".

There are lots of them like "Absence makes the heart grow fonder"....

The statement regarding 'letting go and they will come back' is something we say to cry babies who recently lost someone so they will artificially be filled with hope long enough to stop crying for a little bit and making the rest of us feel uncomfortable.

 

[big_bad_buff]

in your case the gym came along

this is what happened to me.....^^^^^^...........

 

[pitbullstl]

in your case the gym came along

Nope it was always here....and let me add, that at times it has been my ownly true love.......but what I was speaking of was my beautiful little girl, and the wonderful woman who helped bring her to me.....my wife of 4+ years........until I met her I was still waiting on that someone to come back......and ya know what, that girl did come back.......but after meeting my wife.......I could have cared less.........

 

[b fold the truth]

I guess that things are supposed to be difficult and confusing.

She can't make it here...she goes back home on Monday. I can't afford to go there at the moment.

Hopefully, God and fate willing, we can be together again after 6 months or more.

Both of us go nuts if we don't see each other for a day...not sure that we can imagine 6-12 months.

B True

 

[TC2]

9 words to live by "Never invest yourself completely in anyone or anything ever"

Sounds harsh but in the long run it is best.

 

[bigschweeler]

Love is mostly fickle - not always - but mostly.

I think you mean romantic love, right?

 

[-SD-]

9 words to live by "Never invest yourself completely in anyone or anything ever"

Sounds harsh but in the long run it is best.

Best advice ever. Also, dont invest what you cant afford to lose in either emotionally or financially.

 

[flexygrl]

I guess that things are supposed to be difficult and confusing.

She can't make it here...she goes back home on Monday. I can't afford to go there at the moment.

Hopefully, God and fate willing, we can be together again after 6 months or more.

Both of us go nuts if we don't see each other for a day...not sure that we can imagine 6-12 months.

B True

B,


You too love eachother. 6-12 months is nothing. When you are married your going to look back on this and laugh. 6-12 months will fly by. You too were meant to be. I can tell by the way you talk about her. It will take a lot of work, but it can be done.

 

[Mandinka2]

B,


You too love eachother. 6-12 months is nothing. When you are married your going to look back on this and laugh. 6-12 months will fly by. You too were meant to be. I can tell by the way you talk about her. It will take a lot of work, but it can be done.

6-12 months is an eternity when ur feelings are that deep - 1 of u will have to compromise , she's shit rich , right? You guys should hook it up and screw being practical.

 

[Buffy Beffy]

9 words to live by "Never invest yourself completely in anyone or anything ever"

Sounds harsh but in the long run it is best.

Man, that was my outlook for a really long time, but a relationship I was recently involved in helped me change my views on that. It really does hurt when you give everything you have to someone and it all blows up in your face...you tell yourself that you knew better, but really, I guess there always was that chance that it may have been something really good...if both people let it, ya know? As bad as I was recently hurt, they were worth the chance. Now I just have to live on.

 

[big_bad_buff]

yep, I understand man, I was heart broken for months after me and my girl broke up, but something better came along. always does...unless you married for a long period of time, then you can't upgrade, just replace them,

Nope it was always here....and let me add, that at times it has been my ownly true love.......but what I was speaking of was my beautiful little girl, and the wonderful woman who helped bring her to me.....my wife of 4+ years........until I met her I was still waiting on that someone to come back......and ya know what, that girl did come back.......but after meeting my wife.......I could have cared less.........

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

BFTT,

Most of the time they do not come back. That is why it is Special when they do. If they do come back then you know you have a once in a lifetime. Sometimes you might have to find them and tell them you still love them before they come back...they may be waiting to see if you will try to find them.

Godspeed

 

[Bikini Mod]

I have heard of cases (TWO) where that is EXACTLY what happened and the couples ended up "happily ever after"... after all stranger things have happened.

I know how hard it is B... believe me, I KNOW.

But everything happens for a reason. Maybe now is a good time for the both of you to see if you truly WANT to be together for the long haul. Please don't think that I am being trite because I feel the same about MY particular situation at the moment. On the one hand you feel almost powerless, but on the other hand YOU KNOW that everything is playing out the way that it should.

I'll try to call you once more before I leave Sunday night if you like.

I don't have any answers though, big guy. I wish that I did. Just try and take this opportunity to perhaps see the world and wait to see what life will bring to you.

 

[Pamela]

Yes most of the time they do come back.

But never the same..


So eveyone's different!

 

[decem]

BFTT,

Most of the time the do not come back. That is why it is Special when they do. If they do come back then you know you have a once in a lifetime. Sometimes you might have to find them and tell them you still love them before they come back...they may be waiting to see if you will try to find them.

Godspeed

i went back to her 3 times.. yet i assure you it was not a "once in a lifetime"..

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

i went back to her 3 times.. yet i assure you it was not a "once in a lifetime"..

I can't imagine how she could resist your charm and wit. She must be a loser.

 

[b fold the truth]

Just FYI...she didn't leave me and we are not seperating... She has to go home to work. Her government paid for her schooling, she needs a new VISA, and she has no job here.

It looks like I may be crossing the big pond in a few months to join her...

B True

 

[Mandinka2]

Just FYI...she didn't leave me and we are not seperating... She has to go home to work. Her government paid for her schooling, she needs a new VISA, and she has no job here.

It looks like I may be crossing the big pond in a few months to join her...

B True

Good stuff,great choice, really hope it works out for ya Clint. How does it feel to be a kept man? (jealous)

 

[Bikini Mod]

Just FYI...she didn't leave me and we are not seperating... She has to go home to work. Her government paid for her schooling, she needs a new VISA, and she has no job here.

It looks like I may be crossing the big pond in a few months to join her...

B True

DO IT!!!

DO IT!!!

DO IT!!!

I think that someone like you would do quite well on this side of the pond.

 

[gorilla_girl]

Just FYI...she didn't leave me and we are not seperating... She has to go home to work. Her government paid for her schooling, she needs a new VISA, and she has no job here.

It looks like I may be crossing the big pond in a few months to join her...

B True

Good luck B- shes a very lucky girl...

 

[JBRIII]

Been There

B,

Been in your shoes. It's what orginally brought me to Murray. Couldn't stand the seperation either. My now ex-wife was going to finish school at Murray St. She wanted to be close to home and didn't like Uof L anymore.

Even though it didn't work out in the end I wouldn't have traded that experience for anything. By working for Mattel for two years I was able to return to Louisville and double my salary. So it didn't work out personally, but it definately did professionally.

I say follow your heart and do what feels right for you.

Good Luck Man,

John