lesson in life: love yourself, learn to love yourself...if you can.

[revexrevex]

Happiness seems to be loneliness. And loneliness killed your. world. How could you guess, when you're only thinking of yourself? How you look to other girls?

 

[sermon_of_mockery]

now your singin' my tune hi.

 

[Fonz]

Wow.

Totally unexpected post.

Good luck.

Have to BUMP this.

I get the distinct impression HI has some big thick emotional blocks when it comes to relationships.

Being hurt sucks.......(Well it must).

Fonz

 

[casavant]

Right on, bro.

Straight shootin' shit.

Best of luck with her.

 

[Daeo]

This post is going to sound dumb coming from the persona that most on the board believe that I represent in life. But I realized tonight that the biggest problem in my life is that I do not have much love for myself. I have spent the last seven years of my life perfecting an image of how I would like people to perceive me. I have bought the best clothes, drive a nice car, basically transformed myself into what I think people enjoy. In creating this image I have taken great risks with my health and life.

And why because deep down I am a very caring person, will loads of empathy and always opening my heart up to be hurt. I learned overtime to hide this gifts, for pain will always be present if you bear you sole. Deep down I am just as scared as anyone else in life, especially with women. I may come across in life as brass and confident but in reality I can be quite shy. I fear this shyness because over the years I have found few women who embrace shyness, empathy, caring as traits the find sexy. Maybe it’s the women I have dated but I try to cover these up with an amour of muscle and cockiness. I guess it all boils down to not loving myself deep down, something I am not sure will ever change. I guess I wonder who else deals with this challenge in life?

"It is my soul that calls me by my name"...

 

[Anarchist]

We all seek companionship. Some more so than others. I'd guess you're in the right-hand side of the spectrum. You need companionship to be happy.

weak.

if you need companionship to e happy, youre already fucked.

 

[Mandinka2]

This post is going to sound dumb coming from the persona that most on the board believe that I represent in life. But I realized tonight that the biggest problem in my life is that I do not have much love for myself. I have spent the last seven years of my life perfecting an image of how I would like people to perceive me. I have bought the best clothes, drive a nice car, basically transformed myself into what I think people enjoy. In creating this image I have taken great risks with my health and life.

And why because deep down I am a very caring person, will loads of empathy and always opening my heart up to be hurt. I learned overtime to hide this gifts, for pain will always be present if you bear you sole. Deep down I am just as scared as anyone else in life, especially with women. I may come across in life as brass and confident but in reality I can be quite shy. I fear this shyness because over the years I have found few women who embrace shyness, empathy, caring as traits the find sexy. Maybe it’s the women I have dated but I try to cover these up with an amour of muscle and cockiness. I guess it all boils down to not loving myself deep down, something I am not sure will ever change. I guess I wonder who else deals with this challenge in life?

I do the same thing Bro, screw em. Like it or not , an asshole will get more flange than anyone else just like a good looking chick will be more likely to behave like an asshole cos she can get away with it.

 

[Zander1983]

weak.

if you need companionship to e happy, youre already fucked.

Its human nature, not a weakness.

Nice honest post, HI.

 

[WODIN]

learn to place your sense of happiness and well being within yourself not in others or in any situation in life. That's a tough nut to crack but well worth pursuing

 

[Y_lifter]

I as well, constantly worry about how others see me, instead of how I see myself.
I try and act as I think I should, instead of acting how I really feel.

As to the comment regarding women not going for the sensitive
caring types, I compare this to the B.S. that all men want the slut party girl type.

Sure, we think about how great it is to have this fun party girl around us and all.
No worries, not lecturing, not rules, free wheeling and fancy free.

The truth is, GENERALLY we would Grow tired of this type of relationship long term.
It is more a fantasy than what we really want in a relationship.

We men, as we Grow Up and mature, want stable, commited, "Partners" that are inline with us morally,
emotionally and have the same level of commitment we have.
They should also be fun to be with even when doing simple mundane everyday chores.

Yes, almost all women will all try to change us into acting less like Men sometimes, even if they don't admit it.
In some small way they will try.
We must accept this and overlook it and even try to change a few small things to make them happy