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Sugar, just lie outright to set the pace. You dont want to actually want her to stick around, do you?
Honestly, if she asks the question no answer will be right. You can say 3 and she'll have a billion questions in the back of her mind.
If you feel the need to tell her, then just say it was more than a hand full or if you feel spunky just be completely honest. don't make up a number cause i guarantee you 20 years later she will ask you the same question and you will be forced to remember that lie.
If you feel the need to tell her, then just say it was more than a hand full or if you feel spunky just be completely honest. don't make up a number cause i guarantee you 20 years later she will ask you the same question and you will be forced to remember that lie.
slat1 said:
WHAT??
A number is a number. So, if she is 4 that's better than 50.
If you don't give a damn about her if she is #65, you are not going to give a damn about her if she was #2. Everyone has a past. You are in your 30's, surely you have had more than you fair share of ladies.
What matters is today and tomorrow. Not who you slept with in 1994.
foreigngirl
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nycgirl said:
agree 100 %
KillahBee said:
Whore
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UA_Iron
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Pelvic_Fuzz said:
meaning that you'd be in a really bad situation if she asked how many men you have slept with
NJjuice22 said:
I'd be pissed off if my partner was pissed at me for how many people I'd been with or other things about past relationships. So why would I turn around and do the same to them? The last thing most people want to think about is the person they love sleeping with other people.
If you ask and want to know, then be ready to deal with the answer. I've always been an open book if someone asked but I'm not sure it benefits in any way for a couple to discuss their former sex lives. That's not generally the most comfy topic.
And I was up until 9 last night thank you. I was up at 5. Some people are morning people and some are night people.
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UA_Iron
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Pelvic_Fuzz said:
lets get some tacos instead.
NJjuice22 said:like i said..they are perfect here. perfect!
Yes we are
Don't you wish you were an EF lady?
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UA_Iron
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Evil_Frisky said:Yes we are
Don't you wish you were an EF lady?
I think the internet for woman is like them drinking 5 smirnoff ice's. Lose inhibitions, say stuff they wouldnt normally say, flirt with people they wouldnt normally flirt with and entertain ideas usually seen as taboo.
I'm sure they'd be the same exact people in real life too
KillahBee
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UA_Iron said:I think the internet for woman is like them drinking 5 smirnoff ice's. Lose inhibitions, say stuff they wouldnt normally say, flirt with people they wouldnt normally flirt with and entertain ideas usually seen as taboo.
I'm sure they'd be the same exact people in real life too
word motherfucking up
UA_Iron said:I think the internet for woman is like them drinking 5 smirnoff ice's. Lose inhibitions, say stuff they wouldnt normally say, flirt with people they wouldnt normally flirt with and entertain ideas usually seen as taboo.
I'm sure they'd be the same exact people in real life too
There are just as many EF men that bullshit their way around here, lie to chick cause they don't have the balls to say the truth, suck up, flirt to a pt that its disgusting, Make up a perfect lil ol life and how great they are..
and of course, they all have 9" flacid cocks and can fuck for hours on end and shoot their jizz across the room.
But yea, I'm sure that they are just like this in real life too
KillahBee said:
Um, I don't think I implied that we are not a product of our past. I was implying that he should not have to pay for something he did in the past. I fully well know the past can not be forgotten and erased.
That said, the present is just as important and defines us even more.
StickFigure
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KillahBee said:
Preach it Killah! I couldn't agree more. I found out too late that my first wife was quite the "Get Around" in HS and it bled over into the rest of her life. To this day she is still cheating on her current husband.
I'm the same bitch here as I am day to day in my real life. Anyone that knows me has met me etc knows this. If I say it to you here, bet you pinkie toe i'd tell you face to face. I'm not two sided
KillahBee said:
Just as long as it wasn't my momma, or brother than we are all good
StickFigure
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Raina said:
The TRUTH spoken right here people!! And she didn't even charge for it! Get it while it's hot!
Props!
KillahBee said:
WHO THE FUCK said a word about watch out, dont' cross me, .. blah blah ?
Sheesh you fucking men are worse than women.
Just because someone is a bitch doesn't mean they are 'tough'
Its that they are a bitch... Just like you are being now. A crabby Bitch.
KillahBee
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Evil_Frisky said:WHO THE FUCK said a word about watch out, dont' cross me, .. blah blah ?
Sheesh you fucking men are worse than women.
Just because someone is a bitch doesn't mean they are 'tough'
WHy do I bother
StickFigure
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NJjuice22 said:
shhhhhh!!! I'm workin' here!
KillahBee said:
We aren't talking about college or highschool students. Or people in their early 20's. He's in his mid-30's . . . what number is too much? Everyone on this board knows about the people he hung around with and some of the things he has done. I hope she does too. She has to assume that he has slept with more than 5 people. That said, she has to some trust in him that he has let that go and will be committed and faithful to her.
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UA_Iron
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Evil_Frisky said:There are just as many EF men that bullshit their way around here, lie to chick cause they don't have the balls to say the truth, suck up, flirt to a pt that its disgusting, Make up a perfect lil ol life and how great they are..
and of course, they all have 9" flacid cocks and can fuck for hours on end and shoot their jizz across the room.
But yea, I'm sure that they are just like this in real life too
True, I dont give out the shocker as much as I'd like - I always overplay that one. The neck punches are also a fantasy
The only clique I belong to on EF is the math/physics/engineering/nerd one and we even think we are better than the other. Truth is we're all averagely hung.
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*MissFit*
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i give a range but never lie
I am liek Pelvic and raina.. i don't aska question im not willing to accept the answer too
but never lieI am liek Pelvic and raina.. i don't aska question im not willing to accept the answer too
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jenscats5
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Here's your response to the question:
"Are you writing a book?? Then leave that chapter out!!"
And as NYCgirl said - what matters most is that you are disease free and, if in a relationship, not sleeping with other people.....
"Are you writing a book?? Then leave that chapter out!!"
And as NYCgirl said - what matters most is that you are disease free and, if in a relationship, not sleeping with other people.....
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jenscats5
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KillahBee said:
I really don't care who my husband slept with before he met me........he was married for 18 years anyway & his ex-wife & I are kinda friends - so I know at least 1 person he slept with. I'm not jealous of the women he slept with in the past at all..........why would I be?
Oh and I'm mostly just grouchy.........most of the time....
KillahBee said:
Would I want to know if this person has a criminal record?? Of course, that's why I run a google check and use other sources.
Would I want to know if they have done drugs in the past?? Yes, because for me that's an issue. I won't date anyone that has done something more than weed.
How many people he slept with?? Isn't an issue to me. Maybe at 19, yes. But, as I get older, and hopefully he has sowed his oats & is now ready to committ, it doesn't matter.
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KillahBee said:
All righty then!!
SoreArms
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the people that it seems to matter to are those that are either hypocritical and judge others despite them having a stained or similar past, or to those that live by what they consider "high standards" that they expect their SO's to fit into. Or the prudish.
I have not been a perfect person in my past, nor am i in the present. So the past is something I really don't care about to judge a person. Similar to what NYCGirl said, who are they today and how do they make me feel about tomorrow, because that is the way I want to be judged. If they can't deal with it, then that's not the type of person I should be with anyways.
I have not been a perfect person in my past, nor am i in the present. So the past is something I really don't care about to judge a person. Similar to what NYCGirl said, who are they today and how do they make me feel about tomorrow, because that is the way I want to be judged. If they can't deal with it, then that's not the type of person I should be with anyways.
KillahBee
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Pelvic_Fuzz said:
Once again, I judge people on what they have done, not by what they might do. I try not to judge people much based on things that have happened far in the past, particularly if they are clearly a different person, but I would be beyond ignorant to ignore someone's past. Just my opinion. To each his own. I wish I could not care about it, but it doesn't make sense. To me
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KillahBee said:
Well then, it's nice to know that, based on my personal "past" you'd probably shoot me on sight......even tho I've changed considerably and am nothing now like what I was 20 years ago.......
I am not here to judge anyone
Judge and be judged, and I am no fucking saint. I've grown, matured and I see things now that I didn't see when I was younger.
don't judge me for who I was, look at me for who I am.
and KB....... you bother because you
me fucker
Judge and be judged, and I am no fucking saint. I've grown, matured and I see things now that I didn't see when I was younger.
don't judge me for who I was, look at me for who I am.
and KB....... you bother because you
me fuckerKillahBee said:
So what happens when they take your past into consideration?
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jenscats5
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Evil_Frisky said:
Good question.....
I just assume that someone's past is part of who they are. Their past experiences and choices have shaped them. But it's not something I like to get caught up in dwelling on because it really doesn't have to do with the day to day relationship. I suppose the summation of both people's pasts is there in the background but why drag it up into today and have a crappy dinner conversation?
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jenscats5
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KillahBee said:
But, for my own clarification, just cuz someone did X 20 years ago, does not mean they will still behave that way........or no?
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jenscats5
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KillahBee said:
There you go assuming that there's only been 28........
DieselGunz
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Hi!
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jenscats5
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KillahBee said:
Intolerant bastige........
KillahBee said:
Of course if its a major issue.. but you slamming a few coke whores in your past as long as you are protected and don't give your so a diseses shouldn't be a major thing.
I guess it confuses me because men bitch nostop about women holding on to the past. So if you tell her i fucked this bitch and that bitch.. etc etc it won't do a damn thing but fuck shit up.
of course be honest and say, Hey, my past is less than desireable and i've been with quite a few women but that was my past. No need to get out the notebook and pen and document all of it becasue i guarantee you it will be a major factor later.
People can change, we grow, mature set our life straight. I don't want what I did as a teen to dictate my future. If asked I will be truthful but I see no need to dig up an old grave once its been buried.
Women, as a stereotype hold on to shit they shouldn't and bring shit up later when the going gets tough. My only statement was that if he is gonna tell her then just be truthful ... don't lie cause as sure as the sky is blue she will bring this shit up 20 years later and SHE WILL rememeber what he said.
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slat1 said:
EVERYTHING makes you horny!!
KillahBee
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Evil_Frisky said:
For some people, yes. Once again, it's a case by case basis. Some people change, some people don't. Some people hide it well. SOme people think they changed but are only fooling themselves. There are a million possibilities here. ONCE AGAIN - I AM NOT SAYING THAT SOMEONE SHOULD JUDGE ANOTHER THIS WAY OR THAT. What I am saying is that the past should not be ignored.
Well, all kind of generic answers for generic hussies, no?
If this was a woman u genuinely cared about or had some inkling that a 'future' with her was something that might appeal to u, u would not need the advice from us. If its just 'another' woman asking what 'all the other women' ask, who cares what she thinks?
When people matter, you will treat them like they matter.
If this was a woman u genuinely cared about or had some inkling that a 'future' with her was something that might appeal to u, u would not need the advice from us. If its just 'another' woman asking what 'all the other women' ask, who cares what she thinks?
When people matter, you will treat them like they matter.
NJjuice22 said:
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slat1 said:Take your pants off
Oh my!! SO demanding.....
megamania500
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I've been wondering about this type of thing, also. On one hand, a person can lie and start out a relationship knowing that they haven't been truthful from the start. Or they can be truthful and hope that their SO isn't so appalled that it destroys the relationship.
The way I see it is, that if a person is in their 30's or so, they either have a past, or have been chained up in their basement their whole lives. But the fact is, some people will care about someone's past, while others won't. But for me, if I were to be completely honest in answering the question of "how many women are in your past?" my answer would be:
"I've had a few serious relationships, several not so serious, and dozens of one night stands."
Now for me, I feel that there are some women out there that would be totally appalled by my past. So would i actually give that answer, even though it is the true answer? I don't know. Depends on who's asking and why, I guess, I don't know. But those who are reading this, and read my honest answer to the question, can see why I might be compelled to lie, or at least tone down the truth a bit. Personally, I feel that lying in a relationship has the potential later on to cause problems. But in my case, telling the truth also has the potential to open up a can of worms, since my past involves a bit more debauchery than normal.
Maybe thats why morals are to be followed in the first place, huh? So someone doesn't have to deal with shit like this in their lives? Maybe. But then again, if there was a woman who needed to know about my past, and found it hurtful after finding out the truth, well, I feel thats something that SHE has to deal with. I'll give an example. My brother is married for the second time. His second wife holds it against him for being married and having kids before he met her. I've seen firsthand how sometimes she would subtly try to make him feel bad for having a relationship before he met her. Its like she is hurt that he felt love for another woman before he loved her, so she has to get him back for it. Almost like trying to make him pay for it. Yeah, its stupid, I know. But emotions and logical thinking are two different things, we all know.
But the way I see it, is where was she when my brother was married to his first wife? Wherever she was, did she care about my brother then? No. Did she even know my brother then? No. If she saw my brother and his first wife walking down the street together when they were married, would she get mad about it? No, she didn't even know who he was at that time. She was out living her own life doing whatever.
Point is, if she was indifferent to what my brother was doing at that time, why should she get mad, or jealous at him for it now?
So despite someone's past, if someone didn't give a shit about you doing those things while you were doing them, why crucify you after your done doing them simply because they came to know you since then?
I personally don't give a crap about Brittany Spears marrying that Kevin whoever dude, and having a kid. I don't think about it one bit. None of my business. And I sure don't feel any jealousy or resentment because of it.
But if somehow, some fucking trillion to 1 series of events occurred, and 5 years from now Brittany Spears gets divorced and ends up marrying me. Do I get all jealous and resentful that she loved another man before she met me? Some people would.
But I don't give a crap now about how she lives her life, why should I suddenly start giving a crap about (what would be) her past? Makes no sense, right? Right.
So, to sum it all up, I may have a checkered past, but if a woman wants to hold it against me, she should've stepped in THEN, while it was happening. Instead of getting pissed at me about it now.
I mean, who thinks, "I better not go out with this beautiful woman tonight because six years from now I'm going to meet someone special, and when they find out that I went out with this woman now, they will hold it against me. Yup, I'd better break my date for tonight for that very reason!"
It doesn't happen that way.
The way I see it is, that if a person is in their 30's or so, they either have a past, or have been chained up in their basement their whole lives. But the fact is, some people will care about someone's past, while others won't. But for me, if I were to be completely honest in answering the question of "how many women are in your past?" my answer would be:
"I've had a few serious relationships, several not so serious, and dozens of one night stands."
Now for me, I feel that there are some women out there that would be totally appalled by my past. So would i actually give that answer, even though it is the true answer? I don't know. Depends on who's asking and why, I guess, I don't know. But those who are reading this, and read my honest answer to the question, can see why I might be compelled to lie, or at least tone down the truth a bit. Personally, I feel that lying in a relationship has the potential later on to cause problems. But in my case, telling the truth also has the potential to open up a can of worms, since my past involves a bit more debauchery than normal.
Maybe thats why morals are to be followed in the first place, huh? So someone doesn't have to deal with shit like this in their lives? Maybe. But then again, if there was a woman who needed to know about my past, and found it hurtful after finding out the truth, well, I feel thats something that SHE has to deal with. I'll give an example. My brother is married for the second time. His second wife holds it against him for being married and having kids before he met her. I've seen firsthand how sometimes she would subtly try to make him feel bad for having a relationship before he met her. Its like she is hurt that he felt love for another woman before he loved her, so she has to get him back for it. Almost like trying to make him pay for it. Yeah, its stupid, I know. But emotions and logical thinking are two different things, we all know.
But the way I see it, is where was she when my brother was married to his first wife? Wherever she was, did she care about my brother then? No. Did she even know my brother then? No. If she saw my brother and his first wife walking down the street together when they were married, would she get mad about it? No, she didn't even know who he was at that time. She was out living her own life doing whatever.
Point is, if she was indifferent to what my brother was doing at that time, why should she get mad, or jealous at him for it now?
So despite someone's past, if someone didn't give a shit about you doing those things while you were doing them, why crucify you after your done doing them simply because they came to know you since then?
I personally don't give a crap about Brittany Spears marrying that Kevin whoever dude, and having a kid. I don't think about it one bit. None of my business. And I sure don't feel any jealousy or resentment because of it.
But if somehow, some fucking trillion to 1 series of events occurred, and 5 years from now Brittany Spears gets divorced and ends up marrying me. Do I get all jealous and resentful that she loved another man before she met me? Some people would.
But I don't give a crap now about how she lives her life, why should I suddenly start giving a crap about (what would be) her past? Makes no sense, right? Right.
So, to sum it all up, I may have a checkered past, but if a woman wants to hold it against me, she should've stepped in THEN, while it was happening. Instead of getting pissed at me about it now.
I mean, who thinks, "I better not go out with this beautiful woman tonight because six years from now I'm going to meet someone special, and when they find out that I went out with this woman now, they will hold it against me. Yup, I'd better break my date for tonight for that very reason!"
It doesn't happen that way.
NJjuice22 said:
just watch out for Killah coming up the rear.. he's a sneaky lil fuck
There's no right answer, since that number will stick in her head as long as she's with you. Best off keeping the numbers game off limits and buried in the past.
slat1
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Check out my buddies theory. He knows I spent a lot of time single. This is his concept.
"Slat look at it like this. Your are 32. You were single for a long time. Just having a lot of fun. You were out twice a week hitting it hard. You went out every weekend that way. If you had sex with a new girl only once a month that is 1 new girl for every 8 times you go out. Thats not bad at all considering the partying you did. Over a year that would be 12 girls on average. Some years are better, some are worse. So if you were single for 4 strait years... 48 women is CONSERVATIVE"
*note* I am not saying this happened. This is my buddies logic. Damn it. I love him for it!
Do the math on that theory and shit gets WAY out of hand.. LOL
"Slat look at it like this. Your are 32. You were single for a long time. Just having a lot of fun. You were out twice a week hitting it hard. You went out every weekend that way. If you had sex with a new girl only once a month that is 1 new girl for every 8 times you go out. Thats not bad at all considering the partying you did. Over a year that would be 12 girls on average. Some years are better, some are worse. So if you were single for 4 strait years... 48 women is CONSERVATIVE"
*note* I am not saying this happened. This is my buddies logic. Damn it. I love him for it!
Do the math on that theory and shit gets WAY out of hand.. LOL
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