kids are annoying and pointless thread

[binö]

playing pusedo step dad is straining a good bro something fierce.
i never want my own kids, i don't see kids as magical little snowflakes and all that other bullshit.
mostly annoying, whiney, unappreciative, and destructive.
*bracing for the inevitable backlash
yours in sport,
discuss

 

[BBR100]

Kids are a strain for sure.
If you don't want them and sex life with the mom is already in serious decline I can't see relationship lasting too much longer.

 

[lartinos]

Kids are the last thing on my mind and my girl's as well. (she's 21)
They are responsibility that I do not want in my life.

 

[SpyWizard]

There is a $0 copay with most all health insurance plans for a vasectomy...

Go get one..

Kids, to adulthood will strain you and change you...

Is it the change in you that you dislike?? or fear??

 

[binö]

Kids are a strain for sure.
If you don't want them and sex life with the mom is already in serious decline I can't see relationship lasting too much longer.

sex life has diminished partly due to jr
part of the problem is that i don't baby the lil guy, he is used to crying to get what he wants and i ignore it.
like today, dude was trying to fiddle with the dvd player, couldn't get it to work, and started crying...i was sitting nearby and ignorned it...when he asked me for help i told him to stop crying and i would gladly help him.
whereas his mom woulda ran over at the first sign of tears and pampered him...i'm thinking that is making him soft and he's not growing out of his baby phase

 

[shirlene29]

someone that doesn't have kids of their own should definitely parent someone elses kids...and make judgement calls about the actual parents parenting
makes complete sense


look , its different when its your own kids...I dont like other peoples kids but think mine are awesome

 

[binö]

someone that doesn't have kids of their own should definitely parent someone elses kids...and make judgement calls about the actual parents parenting
makes complete sense


look , its different when its your own kids...I dont like other peoples kids but think mine are awesome

hmmm, i think my opinion is valid regardless if i don't have kids, lotta shitty parents out there should i not judge them just because i have none?
when i see a mom let her 13 yr old daughter date a 25 yr old bro (gf is a sex crimes probation officer for juvies) should i not coment cause i have no kids and just wouldn't understand? that logic doesn't fly with me

 

[binö]

There is a $0 copay with most all health insurance plans for a vasectomy...

Go get one..

Kids, to adulthood will strain you and change you...

Is it the change in you that you dislike?? or fear??

i fear that i won't be able to stay with my GF cause of the kid and her ex (ex is the biggest dbag i have ever had the displeasure of knowing...i've had a P.I following me via him)

 

[cindylou]

You don't love him the way you should because he is not yours (I guess) because that is your role. The role of the father is to come between the child and the mom, the dependence there that you are seeing. To teach the kiddo how the world works, how to trust others, and how to trust himself. You don't see him as special, you don't love him I guess.

 

[BBR100]

Kids are a drain. That fact is magnified exponentially if they're not your own. It's just a different relationship and hard to explain. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent.
If you have the perspective that they're mostly annoying, whiney, unappreciative and destructive it's not going to work.

Add in that your sex life is suffering and it's probably time to throw in the towel.