I'm watching this 20/20 episode about asexual people/couples

[Bikini Mod]

with girls iv found you have to go the extra step to let them know ur joking.

lately if i let a snide comment slip, i do the "awww im just kidding c;monnn" or ill do an exagerated laugh or smile.

i think the hardest thing for me is competition. id just rather stay silent or completely bail than compete with someone for another person's attention, male or female

You don't HAVE TO COMPETE if you've already captured that person's interest by "just being you."

The day I feel the need to compete with another living being for my husband's attention is the day I file for divorce. When a couple has a baby, of course that dynamic is different but anything other than a child - sorry, you should never *feel the need* to compete.

 

[Bikini Mod]

And Scotsman I've never spoken to you or interacted with you in real time so I will take your description as being accurate. Something tells me that were you to find a woman that really REALLY captures your attention, you would tone down the *asshole*-ism so as not to hurt her feelings.

My husband is a classic example of a man that is a true gentleman, however, being an alpha male he has a streak in him that SCREAMS ASSHOLE. (All alpha males have it. It is their nature.) One of the reasons he quit drinking is that he couldn't control his mouth after a few.

My husband has no filter between his brain and his mouth and he often times acts the fool, not to be purposefully disrespectfull but just foolish. I have a strong pimp hand so he knows EXACTLY when to cut the crap. Something tells me that were the right woman to come along you would be, "Yes dearing" her in a second.

Or not...

It all depends on the woman IMHO.

And you are correct in your assumption that a woman who values herself highly would NEVER tolerate being treated poorly, no matter how "slight" that may be.

I mean, would you tolerate a woman treating you poorly?

 

[Grumpy Old Man]

And Scotsman I've never spoken to you or interacted with you in real time so I will take your description as being accurate. Something tells me that were you to find a woman that really REALLY captures your attention, you would tone down the *asshole*-ism so as not to hurt her feelings.

My husband is a classic example of a man that is a true gentleman, however, being an alpha male he has a streak in him that SCREAMS ASSHOLE. (All alpha males have it. It is their nature.) One of the reasons he quit drinking is that he couldn't control his mouth after a few.

My husband has no filter between his brain and his mouth and he often times acts the fool, not to be purposefully disrespectfull but just foolish. I have a strong pimp hand so he knows EXACTLY when to cut the crap. Something tells me that were the right woman to come along you would be, "Yes dearing" her in a second.

Or not...

It all depends on the woman IMHO.

And you are correct in your assumption that a woman who values herself highly would NEVER tolerate being treated poorly, no matter how "slight" that may be.

I mean, would you tolerate a woman treating you poorly?

yes dear

 

[Scotsman]

with girls iv found you have to go the extra step to let them know ur joking.

lately if i let a snide comment slip, i do the "awww im just kidding c;monnn" or ill do an exagerated laugh or smile.

i think the hardest thing for me is competition. id just rather stay silent or completely bail than compete with someone for another person's attention, male or female

I've pretty much given up on caring if I hurt someone's feelings. Unless someone challenges what I said I just let it go and don't justify it as a joke. Gets me in a good deal of trouble but I'm getting too old to care.

I'm the same way if I find myself having to compete for someone's attention I'll just walk off. I am just me if that's not enough to engage someone's attention then I'm better off not dealing with them.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[Scotsman]

So are you trying to tell me youre a fucking dickhead?

I get called worse than that on a fairly regular basis.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[*ebony*]

wow, can't even contemplate no sex life.

I just always saw a true marriage or couple relationship with sex sooner or later. CRUCIAL IMO. otherwise whats the difference between that type of relationship and that of a friend or close friend.


so these asexual peeps feel no sexual attraction at all to one another? wonder if masturbation is considered legal for them.

 

[Scotsman]

And Scotsman I've never spoken to you or interacted with you in real time so I will take your description as being accurate. Something tells me that were you to find a woman that really REALLY captures your attention, you would tone down the *asshole*-ism so as not to hurt her feelings.

My husband is a classic example of a man that is a true gentleman, however, being an alpha male he has a streak in him that SCREAMS ASSHOLE. (All alpha males have it. It is their nature.) One of the reasons he quit drinking is that he couldn't control his mouth after a few.

My husband has no filter between his brain and his mouth and he often times acts the fool, not to be purposefully disrespectfull but just foolish. I have a strong pimp hand so he knows EXACTLY when to cut the crap. Something tells me that were the right woman to come along you would be, "Yes dearing" her in a second.

Or not...

It all depends on the woman IMHO.

And you are correct in your assumption that a woman who values herself highly would NEVER tolerate being treated poorly, no matter how "slight" that may be.

I mean, would you tolerate a woman treating you poorly?

I've pretty much been this way my whole life so I'm not going to change in an instant. I have to explain that to people that the first thing out of my mouth is probably going to be sarcasm. Last time I was trying to date a girl I just told her that if I say something out of place to smack me. Hell I don't even know I'm doing it most of the time. And trust me she captured my attention like no one else ever has. I still inadvertently caused her to cry a couple of times not even trying to.

I never treat anyone I like poorly. My whole family has that mean-sarcastic dynamic so it's just what I grew up with. We tease really hard and usually go for whatever you least want to be teased about firstoff. Also the more I like someone the more I mess with them. The quickest way to tell if I don't like someone is that I ignore them, or if forced to interact will give whatever answer requires the least dialoque.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[Smurfy]

I get called worse than that on a fairly regular basis.

Cheers,
Scotsman

Hey, what's up dickhead?

 

[Scotsman]

Hey, what's up dickhead?

The ceiling, after that it's the upstairs neighbors apartment. And she's a tramp.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[stilleto]

Girls just don't like me too well. Part of it is the non-stop sarcasm and that I can be a real asshole most of the time. Being excessively shy doesn't help either.

And I'm not cute! Little guys can be cute not so much big guys.

Oh and I don't normally have bad breath. Just when I've eaten a lot of garlic or onions.

Cheers,
Scotsman

i have a feeling you're not nearly as much of a sarcastic asshole as you think, but that your insecurity is what stops you.