I met a girl, but she kissed another man, and I'm heartbroken

[jack sparrow]

ive been trying that. and they all back away


at this point i already know my problems and im working to improve them.
ive already heard the answer "see a therapist".
if you have anything else to offer, feel free to contribute to my threads, but if all it is is those 2 things then just forget it.



i should be mean and do this to women, and cut them off for good when they make 1 mistake, forget to put on their makeup someday, etc, im sure theyd like that.



i am the king of giving out less. ive been doing that for all my life and got nothing, so i tried to change.

i dont care what i have to do, (but i wont do therapy, or have intercourse) i just want the best result.



what makes you think im not trying?



i dont think there is any quicker way to learn actually, just TONS of experience.

im working on it, im just not sure if ill get there before i die



so your saying good girls dont exist on the internet?



so the internet is a bad place to meet people?

You ARE one hell of an alter...I'll give you that.

 

[wootoom]

Dude why dont you just fuck men. Its less complicated. Trust me.

 

[HiDnGoD]

what makes you think im not trying?

You are investing too much emotional energy into each relationship without taking progressive steps. It's like trying to race & trying to eke out every last HP from each gear before shifting to the next.
I can almost guarantee you're not going to find a virgin to marry before you are finally ready. Aside from that, get out there, push some of your own boundaries. Mutual masturbation, oral sex, etc. Show some passion to these girls, and if things don't flow within a couple of dates, move on.

 

[-SD-]

Dude why dont you just fuck men. Its less complicated. Trust me.

This man speaks from experience.

 

[Cal_21]

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOWWWW
What a fucking stalker.

UPDATE:

I hungout with her Wednesday night with a couple friends and went to a restaurant,

and then I hungout on Friday night and watched tv and talked at her place.
We mostly just talked about men and women though, which seemed weird.

Anyway, I think I chatted too much with her online in between and sounded too needy though. I showed way too much interest in asking about the guy who kissed her. Also I showed too much interest in asking about why she's single.

Apparently she is single because there is an issue in her life, a personal one, that she needs to resolve, and she wont tell anyone about it. but she has admitted that she also might not wait until its resolved before dating again.

She also likes being single so that she can be uncommitted and have fun (might explain why she kissed 7 guys in the last 2 months) but she also has talked about guys she was interested in but had a certain flaw or something.

Anyway, I think i badgered her too much. I also made the mistake of asking her if she initiates conversation much with other men, and that i didnt think she did it much around me. She explained that she has daddy issues, since her dad was a jerk and now it takes a long time for her to warmup and trust men. Also she said that she is a submissive person by nature and doesnt like to come up with ideas or initiate much of anything.
I said that thats fine, but sometimes its hard to tell if a submissive person really is interested cuz they dont seem to put in much effort. then she said 'so you dont think i put in much effort?' and i basically said yes, and she said "well i cant help the way i am, people are just going to have to deal with that." and then signed off.
this was at 6pm on saturday

I called her later that night at 9:30pm and left a message saying 'hey its Steve, just seeing what u are up to, call me back, later"
and she never called back.

She hasnt signed onto MSN since, but this morning she made a post on her myspace page (she doesnt know that i found her myspace page) that said that she really doesnt like people who lack respect and is sick of peopel who badger her, pry and ask too much about personal stuff, or people who expect her to change for them.

Today she wasnt on MSN at all, which is pretty unusual, meaning that i think she blocked me.

I'm not sure what to do, I need a game plan to be able to make up for the mistakes I made and to win her back. I am thinking about waiting a few days and then calling if i dont see her on MSN, I dont know. I guess I'm not sure what kind of voice message to leave.
Or maybe I could write her an email saying im sorry if i pissed her off, but i dont know if she checks her email, and i dont wanna look desperate.

Apparently one time a guy left her a minute long voice message out of desperation and she thought it was pathetic and never talked to him agian. So yeah, I'm extremely wary about what to say to her now, and how to say it.

And then there is the whole issue of telling her that i like her. im hesitant to do that because she laughs at guys that tell her that too soon. we've only been on 3 dates so i dunno. she has told other men she wants to be single and uncommitted for awhile.

I need some input. I wanna do the best job i possibly can at winning her over.

if it doesnt work out, i will survive, and immediately search the earth for another 27 year old beautiful virgin as cool as her or cooler.

 

[Jon79]

fuck quit being a bitch already

 

[jackangel]

nate, don't be sad. you shouldn't respond with sympathy or sadness to something like this. what we've got here is a magnificent cuntfuck of a fuckjob. he's a 95% favourite to be an alter piece of garbage (anyone who would carry this character out over the years is not well, period). if he's real, he's violently stupid and just a complete waste of organic matter. my ejaculate, now pleasantly drying on the wall, has a better chance of contributing to the world than steve-o. it's not that he doesn't date, or is afraid, or depressed, or any of that...i would never judge someone for that, as i'm a mental case too. but the whole persona just reeks of awfulness.

 

[Grumpy Old Man]

You are investing too much emotional energy into each relationship without taking progressive steps. It's like trying to race & trying to eke out every last HP from each gear before shifting to the next.
I can almost guarantee you're not going to find a virgin to marry before you are finally ready. Aside from that, get out there, push some of your own boundaries. Mutual masturbation, oral sex, etc. Show some passion to these girls, and if things don't flow within a couple of dates, move on.

healother is a good kid, I talked to him on the phone for hours. BUT he is gonna be a virgin for life. AND as far as getting married, even after he does IF he does he will STILL be a virgin.

I think the good broly was right, he should stick to dudes, easier and they don't just want to cuddle.

I say this with all the love I can for the healother kid.

 

[Cal_21]

I wish The Incredible Hulk were here, he'd surely rub "healother" raw on a giant cheese grater, the same way his creepy desperation rubs us all so wrong. That is if he doesn't drown in a pool of his own tears first... Or his own nocturnal emissions seeing as he still possesses the v-card & all.

 

[Megalomaniac]

Can we lock this damn thread? I'm sick of seeing it on the board, I can't even meet a damn girl and this dude is all up in arms because his girl gave another dude the tounge. I could understand if he had to pull her off his jock every five minutes but really is a little sharing hurting anyone?