I broke up with bf/ I'm back

[Nathan]

What the shit dude? Glad you are okay. I will never understand people I don't think.

From reading your posts, you seriously struck me as smart and together and like the type of person who really knew waht was up. I respected that. If you are sticking to your guns and you meant what you said in your original post to this, I'm afraid i will have to keep on respecting you. Good for you for knowing you're better than having to ever put up with being unhappy and/or treated badly.

Right on.

 

[Grumpy Old Man]

sex is a weapon now. with all the stds being with a dishonest partner who sleeps around and isnt honest about it not only destroys a person emotionally, and makes them feel like "being dragged through a broken window", but it also puts them at risk for potentially life ruining/altering, and even life ending diseases.

IMO cheaters, and emotional abusers are JUST as pathetic as physical abusers

im not saying that one warrants the other, though

Do you know how Al Capone died? Abuse can be either physical or emotional. Both are bad. STD's have been around forever. Cheating is a character flaw.
Youngster, how can you even post? Pain is pain, physical actually is easier than emotional. Now suffer physical pain by the hands of someone that is supposed to "love" you. Can you understand?

 

[Lao Tzu]

I am SO GLAD that a man posted this.

Abusive relationships go both ways, sadly when it is female on male it goes reported even less frequently as there is a greater stigma attached to it.

The controlling sick shit starts VERY small and subtly. They dont start calling you names and punching you in the jaw on the first date.

Before I got counseling and left my 13 yr marriage of hell I hadnt clue one what was controlling/abusive behavior. Once I got my head straight I could sniff it out a mile away.

True. Gay relationships also have alot of abuse (mental & physical), and you never hear about it. Even AAP was in an emotionally abusive relationship once, and he is pretty on top of things and together.

http://everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=1799528

In a recent issue of Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report, it was estimated that 22.1% of women and 7.4% of men experience some sort of domestic violence during their lifetime, while the factsheet on domestic violence from the Center for Disease Control placed the numbers higher at 29% and 22%, respectively (Domestic, 2005; Intimate, 2006). While these numbers are representative of both homosexual and heterosexual people, a study by Stephen S. Owen and Tod W. Burke specifically focusing on self-identified homosexuals revealed that 56.1% of the respondents had been the victims in some sort of domestic violence. When they compared these findings to a representative group of heterosexuals, they found that "intimate partner assault may be more prevalent against gay men than against heterosexual men, but there was no significant difference between lesbians and heterosexual females" (129). Due to the highly controlling nature of the abuser in domestic violence situations, however, it tends to be a crime that is grossly underreported, and in cases of non-physical abuse, can be difficult to prove. Also, reporting domestic violence does not necessarily stop an abuser's ability to "out" his/her partner, or an abuser's final and possibly lethal session of battering.

 

[Frisky]

what do you think hurts more, physical pain or having your heart broken(/emotional pain)?

just giving you another perspective on things

actually, I would put emotional abuse far worse than physical abuse. But that is just my take on things.

but I've never really had my heart broken besides by my own family. And that was far worse than any beating i have ever had. I can't recall some of the beatings I got thru out my life, but I can however recall every single time I was emotionally shot down and abused by everyone that has ever done such to me.

 

[reno240]

actually, I would put emotional abuse far worse than physical abuse. But that is just my take on things.

I don't think you can make that distinction because physical abuse causes a great deal of emotional issues.

 

[cboogsrun]

I read it just fine. Thats why I added what you missed out



some women are also scared to leave. Thats if they have a stalking phycho that they are dealing with that is gonna follow them everywhere they go and not let them be even after everything is "officially" over. I dont know why are you getting so sensitive about the subject, when us the women are not really.

I'm not getting sensitive about the subject, I just feel it is something that is severly overlooked. Read some of the statistics from the sites I posted. There are some astonishing numbers and statistics that really show how improtant it is to educate people on the subject. 3 woman a day are killed in this country from someone they have or have had a relationship with. Chances are that is 3 mothers, as most severe cases are with couples who have children. From my personal experience with domestic abuse, I've seen it tear my little (half)sister apart. She lost both her parents in one day and she was only 12 years old. Since then she has been on a destructive path with sex, drugs, alcohol, she cuts herself, and probably a whole boat load of shit she doesn't tell me. I think its worth my time to clarify misconceptions about the subject. Hopefully I helped someone understand a little bit more than they previously knew.

 

[foreigngirl]

I'm not getting sensitive about the subject, I just feel it is something that is severly overlooked. Read some of the statistics from the sites I posted. There are some astonishing numbers and statistics that really show how improtant it is to educate people on the subject. 3 woman a day are killed in this country from someone they have or have had a relationship with. Chances are that is 3 mothers, as most severe cases are with couples who have children. From my personal experience with domestic abuse, I've seen it tear my little (half)sister apart. She lost both her parents in one day and she was only 12 years old. Since then she has been on a destructive path with sex, drugs, alcohol, she cuts herself, and probably a whole boat load of shit she doesn't tell me. I think its worth my time to clarify misconceptions about the subject. Hopefully I helped someone understand a little bit more than they previously knew.

ooooohhhhh, I am so so sorry to hear that I understand that there is cases where the women dont even trigger arguments or fights. Its just the character of the person to be abusive and violent.

 

[wootoom]

what a stupid fuckin thread seriously, there should be a rule on EF LEAVE THE PERSONAL SHIT AT HOME

 

[jnevin]

what a stupid fuckin thread seriously, there should be a rule on EF LEAVE THE PERSONAL SHIT AT HOME

How are you feeling after your accident? How's Daisy?

 

[wootoom]

How are you feeling after your accident? How's Daisy?

lol, i mean getting beat by ur boyfriend and shit, u know what i mean