You guys really raised some good points. As far as seeing it earlier, yes I got glimmers. We have been together for a year now. I made a BIG mistake by overlooking lots and handing over my life to let some guy take care of me. DUMB life lesson #1. I met him the same month that my mom died, and I was sort of emotionally exhausted from taking care of lots of things. It's hard to explain in short order, but he promised me the world and delivered it for several months. Then, little cracks in the armor started showing (including a really bad alcohol problem). It began with emotional abuse, then isolation, then pushing, shoving, and finally to an all out attack. It is difficult to explain, but when you live with someone like that, you sometimes just try to follow behind them and make everything perfect so that everything is calm.
Anyway, it was the first time in my life that I handed the reigns of my life over to someone else to take care of me. It was dumb. I'm trying to fix it now.
Hey, HT, how you doing, Priscilla? ;-)