I am hurt! I have been cheated on...

[Nobledude]

Dude if you have these feelings then please talk to someone. Maybe counseling would help you guys. Would both of you be willing to do that?

Again, think about your child. Can you imagine how messed up your kid would grow to be if Daddy harmed himself or Mommy?

There are things that go beyond our reasoning....

AS I said I though I was invincible...I can do whatever the fuk I want with her and be mean and shit and she will be here for ever...didnt care when she warned me that I will destroy all the love she has for me and end up alone!!

 

[Sub-Zero]

Re: I am hurt! I have been cheated on...and I was the one who pushed my fiancee away..

It is tough for me to come out and let it out....
I always thought that it happens to others..
I have been engaged with my lady for more than 2 years. We both have Romanian heritage. Before she met me she was deeply in love with a guy from ROmania..at the time she was living in Romania...

She came to US and she found out that her boyfriend was getting married. She was so upset and she started looking into dating sites....so we met..

IT was love at the beginning...after 3 months we had a beautiful and amazing daughter..I was kinda freaked out and I was angry at her , was telling her to go to her mom and such...

I was the mean one in the relationship....I was offending her and I was moody...

Meanwhile, as I found out now from her, she started to keep in touch with her former BF....

Two weeks ago we went to Romania to see my dad who had a stroke. She is from a different town and she also went from my place to see her relatives...

I was hinting to her that she might also see her former BF>...

In fact, as she was there for two weeks they met and they had sex!

To make a story shorter, I have found one of her email addressed to him where she was telling him how bad she was missing him!!!!!

She admitted that she had an affair and she still loves him and her feelings for me are very very low as she told me I killed the relationship..

Now I realize what an idiot I was as I couldnt keep her and couldnt be a nicer person!

I asked her to give it another chance and she agreed but she also said that she loves that guy a lot...

I am so depressed and couldnt sleep all night...It is almost 4.30 am as I write...

I want to make it work!

What should I do to bring her feelings back to me?

Please refrain from sore jokes...

Tx for reading!

i doubt you were that much of a dick...shes probably just using it as an excuse to not feel so slutteh...

but she WAS probably using you as backup.(didnt care about you nearly as much as u thought in the first place)

so dont "make it work"

just move on.

goodluck bro

 

[Sub-Zero]

Honestly, should I call the guy now that Ihave his phone number? If yes, what should I tell him? To back off or ask him what are his intentions?

But my fiancee would be pissed if I did...at least I find some closure.

dude she doesnt want you anymore.

why were you a dick in the first place?

 

[Nobledude]

Re: I am hurt! I have been cheated on...and I was the one who pushed my fiancee away.

i doubt you were that much of a dick...shes probably just using it as an excuse to not feel so slutteh...

but she WAS probably using you as backup.(didnt care about you nearly as much as u thought in the first place)

so dont "make it work"

just move on.

goodluck bro

Easy to say ' move on"....I hope you will never be in my shoes and someone to tell you " move on"...it hurts like hell!

I know I have been a dick....a moron, and a desconsiderate person....trust me guys. I drove her there ...back into his arms....

Now I try to get her back....but she loves another man...I cant let her go!
But on the other hand, I dont want to humiliate myself and keep my mouth shut or stifle my emotions to please her!!

Oh man, what a mess!!!

 

[Sub-Zero]

Re: I am hurt! I have been cheated on...and I was the one who pushed my fiancee away.

Easy to say ' move on"....I hope you will never be in my shoes and someone to tell you " move on"...it hurts like hell!

I know I have been a dick....a moron, and a desconsiderate person....trust me guys. I drove her there ...back into his arms....

Now I try to get her back....but she loves another man...I cant let her go!
But on the other hand, I dont want to humiliate myself and keep my mouth shut or stifle my emotions to please her!!

Oh man, what a mess!!!

you already humiliated yourself by being enough of a dick to drive someone away (if thats actually what happened)

so why notput yourself out there a lil bit more and do whatever you can think of to try and keep her?

in the end itl be a much larger regret to not try anything at all, than to try "too much".

if that doesnt work:

move on,

goodluck bro

 

[Nobledude]

dude she doesnt want you anymore.

why were you a dick in the first place?

My behaviour towards her...I have been thru bouts of depressions after I tore my achiles tendon and had the surgery.. She was my angel who fed me, bathe me and took care of me...

When she would come from work I was playing on line poker and getting quite angry as I was losing....and I was lashing at her...

i wouldnt go out....I would get mad at may baby as she was crying ..I dont have patience...


Life sucks is an understatement....if those words would have a voice you will get deaf in a second...I scream with pain.....

Just shoot me please!

 

[velvett]

At the risk of sounding insensitive - this relationship is not only severely damaged it's over from her perspective. She'll go back to you only to use the time to find a better plan to leave you and you will go through this hurt and pain twice.

You're better off cutting the ties now and dealing with the devastation once and now.

 

[Nobledude]

I have to pinch myself to make sure this is not a really bad dream...unfortunately, it is reality.

I cant believe after all she said I want to stay with her...You have to realize I was a guy who would chose and pick when to leave a woman....never been in this situation!!


Sad but I am in devastating pain and see no way out...

thanks for all of your input...as I am a very private person...btu I have no qualms now...

 

[GUARDIAN]

I have to pinch myself to make sure this is not a really bad dream...unfortunately, it is reality.

I cant believe after all she said I want to stay with her...You have to realize I was a guy who would chose and pick when to leave a woman....never been in this situation!!


Sad but I am in devastating pain and see no way out...

thanks for all of your input...as I am a very private person...btu I have no qualms now...

qualms about???

 

[Nobledude]

qualms about???

about let it all out....and share with you guys my horror story..

Please shoot me....I wont be uspet or mad....but make sure you kill me!

i am a moron, egotistical son of a biatch and deserve no compassion....I brought it to myself...please trust me