I am hurt! I have been cheated on...

[silverstar1025]

You missunderstood...

I am the one who wanted to have another kid but she doesnt!

I was kinda dick most of the time ! I admit!

I told her to stop emailing or phoning him...Her mom was there today when I told her that I found prof that she cheated on me with her former BF whom she dearly loves!!...

I was the one who pushed her away..and she warned me many times that I may end up alone...Macho me didnt care...

Now I realize what a moron I was...I dont want to loser her.

It doesn't matter who wants another baby right now I am just saying nobody should bring a baby into things when the relationship has problems. 9 times out of 10 they divorce anyway and that is another baby from a broken family.

Emotional cheating is far worse than just sexual cheating in my opinion. It is not like she was just missing some action and had meaningless sex and now regrets it. She is in love with another man and does not sound like she regrets it. How can you compete with that? Why would you want to? I know you love her and you made mistakes, but you can't do that to yourself. Just by listening to what you are saying if you try to make it work I just see yourself disappointed and hurt later. You said the guy she is in love with wants a divorce. What will happen then? You will be working hard to please her and the man she loves will be available again and you will be left in the cold. I could be wrong, but it is just what I see. If she really had regret and did love you then I would say yes work on it, but in this case I just see you hurt more later. You just need to accept it and learn from this experience. Sometimes people don't know what they had until it is gone and it makes them a better person for the next.

 

[bw1]

I remember that when she was pregnant in two months she left me ..she went to her mom...I got home and all her clothing was gone..I was so upset!

But I was the one who caused as I would always tell her that she should go to her mom...

Oh, man....I hope not to do anything stupid...I dont want to hurt anyone and I howp I dont hurt myself!

Don't do anything stupid bro

 

[silverstar1025]

Don't do anything stupid bro

What he said! Always think about your kid and what it would do to the child. Don't be selfish in all of this and do anything bad.

 

[GUARDIAN]

do u think if u change your treatment of her now that even if she were to give it an honest try at working it out that u could forgive her?

 

[stilleto]

I'm sorry that happened. You do flirt a lot on the net- maybe she didn't make you as happy as you really think.

 

[Nobledude]

It doesn't matter who wants another baby right now I am just saying nobody should bring a baby into things when the relationship has problems. 9 times out of 10 they divorce anyway and that is another baby from a broken family.

Emotional cheating is far worse than just sexual cheating in my opinion. It is not like she was just missing some action and had meaningless sex and now regrets it. She is in love with another man and does not sound like she regrets it. How can you compete with that? Why would you want to? I know you love her and you made mistakes, but you can't do that to yourself. Just by listening to what you are saying if you try to make it work I just see yourself disappointed and hurt later. You said the guy she is in love with wants a divorce. What will happen then? You will be working hard to please her and the man she loves will be available again and you will be left in the cold. I could be wrong, but it is just what I see. If she really had regret and did love you then I would say yes work on it, but in this case I just see you hurt more later. You just need to accept it and learn from this experience. Sometimes people don't know what they had until it is gone and it makes them a better person for the next.

you make sense but I have to try!!

She told me she loved me for the first two months in our relationship...

But after she saw him and had sex with him, she is a different person...very pleased that she saw the guy and ready to move on if I chose to ...

I cant let her go yet! I have to try! That guy is in Romania...she cant go there with my baby without my approval...only chance is to bring him here when she get her citizenship in almost two years!

I asked her to stop calling him!

I found out that the calling card I gave her and put it in her phone memory she was using calling him!

SHe called him twice as I saw teh phone history on the net!

Now I have his number! Should I try to call him up and talk to him?

She will be pissed..

 

[Nobledude]

do u think if u change your treatment of her now that even if she were to give it an honest try at working it out that u could forgive her?

I think I could , maybe...but I dont want to humiliate myself to please her....

It is possible that at our first fight to leave me and go to her mom.....I walk on eggs shells...

Oh, man.....I have been sobbing all night here...

 

[silverstar1025]

you make sense but I have to try!!

She told me she loved me for the first two months in our relationship...

But after she saw him and had sex with him, she is a different person...very pleased that she saw the guy and ready to move on if I chose to ...

I cant let her go yet! I have to try! That guy is in Romania...she cant go there with my baby without my approval...only chance is to bring him here when she get her citizenship in almost two years!

I asked her to stop calling him!

I found out that the calling card I gave her and put it in her phone memory she was using calling him!

SHe called him twice as I saw teh phone history on the net!

Now I have his number! Should I try to call him up and talk to him?

She will be pissed..

I understand I am just giving you my opinion and trying to spare you the hurt. In most cases I believe people do make mistakes and are willing to give them one more shot, but I just think you are up against a lot since she no longer loves you, doesn't care if you separate, and loves another man. It sounds like you want to try so all I can say is good luck. Make sure she has no contact with the man and communicate a lot.

 

[Nobledude]

I understand I am just giving you my opinion and trying to spare you the hurt. In most cases I believe people do make mistakes and are willing to give them one more shot, but I just think you are up against a lot since she no longer loves you, doesn't care if you separate, and loves another man. It sounds like you want to try so all I can say is good luck. Make sure she has no contact with the man and communicate a lot.

If she want to call him I cant help....she can do it from work using a calling card or on the net using a different email address!

I brought all this to myself....by being mean she found refuge in emailing him once in a while...she even told me that she dreamt of him!


Once she saw him in Romania she was all LOVE for him like nothing changed in the last four years...

Funny thing the guy got married when she was in US more than 3 years without telling her.....

Oh man, I wont wish my situation to my darnest enemy!!

As I am typing she is feeding my baby who just woke up....I didnt sleep a wink...

 

[Nobledude]

Honestly, should I call the guy now that Ihave his phone number? If yes, what should I tell him? To back off or ask him what are his intentions?

But my fiancee would be pissed if I did...at least I find some closure.