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[yourmomgoestocollege]

Is there a topical cream that my wife's gyno can prescribe her for low libido? She is starting to get concerned and is very skiddish about going to the doctor because of a cancer scare a few years back.

This is a serious question.

 

[musclemom]

You're Plat, make life easier on yourself, do a plat search in this forum only thread titles with the word LIBIDO in them. Read those threads, there's LOTS of information there that'll probably answer all the questions you may have.

If you've still got questions after a crash course in female sexuality 101, then post back up.

Short answer, you need to find the cause of the libido loss. Unfortunately, since female sex drive is far more complicated than male sex drive, there is no equivalent of female viagra.

 

[yourmomgoestocollege]

You're Plat, make life easier on yourself, do a plat search in this forum only thread titles with the word LIBIDO in them. Read those threads, there's LOTS of information there that'll probably answer all the questions you may have.

If you've still got questions after a crash course in female sexuality 101, then post back up.

Short answer, you need to find the cause of the libido loss. Unfortunately, since female sex drive is far more complicated than male sex drive, there is no equivalent of female viagra.

I am plat, know how to use google and am close to talking to my doctor about it for her. I do know there is no female viagra.

I asked this forum for an honest opinion/answer not a dictation on how to use my membership. Thank you! I guess I will search away!

 

[Bikini Mod]

Yourmom, don't take offense to MM... she wasn't being harsh at all. She was actually trying to be quite helpfull. It is just that this is a question that has been asked here quite often.

We ALL take this type of issue seriously... no one was being nasty, I can assure you.

 

[Tatyana]

Check out some stuff by Shere Hite, she has some interesting research on women's libido.

Very little work has been done in this area, and there is a lot more than just the biological going on.

 

[yourmomgoestocollege]

Thank you ladies I will take a look at the recommended info.

Jay

 

[musclemom]

Thank you ladies I will take a look at the recommended info.

Jay

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend you and I wasn't being flip. That question is asked on a very regular basis and the answer isn't simple.

What you have to basically understand is that, despite all appearances, female libido is FAR more complicated than male libido. I saw an interesting show about human sexuality not too long ago that really summed it up nicely:

Male sexuality is essentially all mechanical. You could (essentially) cut a guys head off and he'd still be able to perform sexually.

With a woman it's virtually the reverse. Very little mechanics, virtually ALL of it mental. When a woman doesn't want to have sex you have to look at EVERY potential psychological reason, every potential stressor: In other words, how does she feel about herself, her environment, her significant other, her job. Is she sleeping well? Does she feel pretty, does she feel good about her body? Do you make her feel good about her body? Does she feel like she's being romanced? How do YOU look? How are YOU treating her ...

Let's assume EVERYTHING in her life is absolutely perfect, THEN you move onto the physical possibilities: Is she perimenopausal? Is she post menopausal? (either surgically or naturally, same difference). Is she on any medications, either OTC or prescription, in particular medications for insomnia, depression and birth control. How is her health in general? Is she suffering from any type of health problem, has she recently overcome any health challenges?

After all of those issues have been looked at and any potential problems eliminated, THEN you go to endocrinology, and this is the really tricky bit. It's very, very, very easy to foul up a woman's endocrine system when you're trying to dial in something like libido. You need a doctor who understands what the hell they're doing and what they're looking at. You can't just slap 10 mg packs of androgel willy nilly on a woman and expect her to fuck your brains out (I have heard of doctors prescribing this and much more to women and I have heard of some very unhappy results). You MIGHT get a horny broad, but you'll definitely get masculizing side effects and eventually she's going to reach an overbalance of too much of something and not enough of something else and then she's going to be even more screwed up than she was to begin with. Endocrine manipulation has to be continually monitored (this is true for either men or women on HRT, my husband is on HRT and has his blood drawn like clockwork). If she's skittish about dealing with doctors forget it.

And do bear in mind, if you're on juice ain't NO WAY her desire is going to keep up with your desire.

Anyway, the threads below (if you're interested) are some of the more informative and should get you both started. The most important thing is this should be something both of you should be addressing. If it's only something you're researching and she leaving it up to you, that tells you something right there. She needs to be honest about what she's feeling and why she's feeling it (or not) to figure out what she ISN'T feeling, so to speak.

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...ing-training/women-libido-problem-303835.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...ning/sex-drive-women-mods-experts-259040.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...ou-all-recommend-low-libido-women-493917.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...ng-training/best-way-boost-libido-378333.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...abolic-androgenic-steroids-libido-373333.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w.../progesterone-libido-hrt-question-363542.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...building-training/steroids-libido-359962.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...-training/libido-enhancer-females-317984.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...uilding-training/low-libido-woman-142577.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...raining/anavar-sex-drive-12160.html#post93042

 

[Bikini Mod]

See... I told ya MM is the shit!!!

 

[the_alcatraz]

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend you and I wasn't being flip. That question is asked on a very regular basis and the answer isn't simple.

What you have to basically understand is that, despite all appearances, female libido is FAR more complicated than male libido. I saw an interesting show about human sexuality not too long ago that really summed it up nicely:

Male sexuality is essentially all mechanical. You could (essentially) cut a guys head off and he'd still be able to perform sexually.

With a woman it's virtually the reverse. Very little mechanics, virtually ALL of it mental. When a woman doesn't want to have sex you have to look at EVERY potential psychological reason, every potential stressor: In other words, how does she feel about herself, her environment, her significant other, her job. Is she sleeping well? Does she feel pretty, does she feel good about her body? Do you make her feel good about her body? Does she feel like she's being romanced? How do YOU look? How are YOU treating her ...

Let's assume EVERYTHING in her life is absolutely perfect, THEN you move onto the physical possibilities: Is she perimenopausal? Is she post menopausal? (either surgically or naturally, same difference). Is she on any medications, either OTC or prescription, in particular medications for insomnia, depression and birth control. How is her health in general? Is she suffering from any type of health problem, has she recently overcome any health challenges?

After all of those issues have been looked at and any potential problems eliminated, THEN you go to endocrinology, and this is the really tricky bit. It's very, very, very easy to foul up a woman's endocrine system when you're trying to dial in something like libido. You need a doctor who understands what the hell they're doing and what they're looking at. You can't just slap 10 mg packs of androgel willy nilly on a woman and expect her to fuck your brains out (I have heard of doctors prescribing this and much more to women and I have heard of some very unhappy results). You MIGHT get a horny broad, but you'll definitely get masculizing side effects and eventually she's going to reach an overbalance of too much of something and not enough of something else and then she's going to be even more screwed up than she was to begin with. Endocrine manipulation has to be continually monitored (this is true for either men or women on HRT, my husband is on HRT and has his blood drawn like clockwork). If she's skittish about dealing with doctors forget it.

And do bear in mind, if you're on juice ain't NO WAY her desire is going to keep up with your desire.

Anyway, the threads below (if you're interested) are some of the more informative and should get you both started. The most important thing is this should be something both of you should be addressing. If it's only something you're researching and she leaving it up to you, that tells you something right there. She needs to be honest about what she's feeling and why she's feeling it (or not) to figure out what she ISN'T feeling, so to speak.

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...ing-training/women-libido-problem-303835.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...ning/sex-drive-women-mods-experts-259040.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...ou-all-recommend-low-libido-women-493917.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...ng-training/best-way-boost-libido-378333.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...abolic-androgenic-steroids-libido-373333.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w.../progesterone-libido-hrt-question-363542.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...building-training/steroids-libido-359962.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...-training/libido-enhancer-females-317984.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...uilding-training/low-libido-woman-142577.html

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...raining/anavar-sex-drive-12160.html#post93042

Good stuff! I'm gonna read up on it as well....thnx

 

[musclemom]

Since I decided to try to create a definitive female libido loss post above, I have to laugh in re-reading it, because I realize I left out the first and foremost sex drive killer:

Gentlemen, you really need to get over this fact: Just because YOU think everything is okay in the relationship, doesn't necessarily mean SHE thinks everything is okay. One of the first ways a woman manifests that she is "discontent" is she finds reasons to avoid sex. A woman has to feel you are genuinely interested, willing to hear what she has to say (and perhaps make changes) if you ask her what she's feeling, and if everything's all right before she'll really open up. Otherwise she very well might just shrug you off if she thinks that expressing her true feelings, needs and wants to you is roughly as effective as talking to a brick wall.

Granted, she may actually say everything is okay, and actually on the surface pretend everything is okay. But the fact is, if her health is fine, and her hormones are fine, then her not wanting you sexually generally means YOU, AS A COUPLE are not fine. It takes courage to face that fact, and it takes courage to find that answer.