hello!!! need some advice

[jackangel]

You know damn well my reply was directed at your quest to get your kids back, I even said that. Now you're just twisting words.

pwnedmonkey.

 

[Bikini Mod]

You know damn well my reply was directed at your quest to get your kids back, I even said that. Now you're just twisting words.

No actually I don't know anything damned well. So perhaps you should rethink your comments.

If you only knew how far from the mark you are about everything about this topic. Why don't you give my husband a buzz one of these days so he can break it down for you?

There is NOTHING I can do legally to get my children back even though I've NEVER done a damned thing to lose them. NOTHING. Do you find that unsettling? YOU SHOULD. If you don't then you are not human. It is also QUITE COMMON for women in abusive situations to actually lose custody to their abusers. Sorry, but just because YOU FIND THAT FACT UNSETTLING DOES NOT MEAN THAT I WILL STOP TALKING ABOUT IT. I used to think I was the only one. The shame, the humiliation - you can't BEGIN to fathom it. All on top of the fact that your children are literally ripped from you and then to make it even worse, they are given to an abuser!

When a man loses custody the world rallies around him and says, "Wow, that evil bitch screwed you good." Whether he did anything to warrant the action or not. When a woman loses custody MOST PEOPLE AUTOMATICALLY ASSUME THAT SHE DID SOMETHING PRETTY DISPICABLE TO MAKE THE COURTS TAKE HER CHILDREN BECAUSE "EVERYBODY KNOWS" THAT NOT EVEN CRACKWHORES LOSE CUSTODY OF THEIR KIDS.

Regardless of whether a good father is robbed of the ability to parent (as my husband was eight times over) or a good mother is robbed of the ability to parent (as I have been 6 times over - 2 of my husband's children are about my age) the bottom line is THE CHILDREN ALWAYS GET SCREWED - EVERY SINGLE TIME, EH?

^^^These are all facts, not feelings that I have. THEY ARE FACTS. I didn't make them real; people like my exhusband did.

Please spare me the whole "sexist" rhetoric bullshit. It gets tired after awhile.

All I can do is file parental alienation suits and suits against the entire state of NJ for giving my children TO their abuser. That will only net me money. Four innocent children are collateral damage because nodamnedbody gave a shit about doing right by them when an insane judge began the path to their destruction, all because of my maliciously litigious abusive exhusband. I did nothing wrong. My family did nothing wrong and there isn't a DAMNED THING we could have done any differently. And as hard as my husband has fought to fix a nightmare that was not of his making, HE CANT.

Yea, Tink ^^^ Are you listening? That is another thing that abusive partners do when they don't succeed in physically killing their partners for leaving ^^^ they take the children.

PM - you have said I sound like a sexist lunatic. Interestingly enough, on this thread I've said nothing crazy and nothing sexist (nor do I recall making comments that could be construed as such anyplace else IRL or on the web) so I am still trying to understand that assessment. If your presence on this thread isn't to help a victim of abuse to leave their situation then why are you here? I have a husband who has stood by me night and day for nearly 3 years so you don't have to worry about me. If something I say is irritating to you then just scroll by and don't read it for you should be safe in the knowledge that NOTHING I say is meant to PERSONALLY OFFEND YOU. If you aren't here to help this woman then please just scroll by.

If ANYONE isn't posting here to help or gain understanding, then why exactly are you in here? Are there not plenty of other threads that are far more amusing and far less unsettling?

 

[puddlemonkey]

If you only knew how far from the mark you are about everything about this topic. Why don't you give my husband a buzz one of these days so he can break it down for you?

I'd love to talk to GOM. Not for this, but because I find old people amusing.

There is NOTHING I can do legally to get my children back even though I've NEVER done a damned thing to lose them. NOTHING.

Whoa! Easy tiger! Sorry. I could have swore you were talking before about your kids or at least one of them possibly coming to Texas or you going to get them. Granted I only read about 5% of what you write because the post is either, A: too long for my attention span, or B: YOU START USING SO MANY CAPS I FEEL LIKE I'M BEING YELLED AT, OR THE BOLD WHICH MAKES IT SOUND LIKE YOU'RE NOT ONLY YELLING BUT REALLY PISSED OFF!!!

Do you find that unsettling? YOU SHOULD. If you don't then you are not human.

Actually I don't. But before you freak out let me explain. I'm one of those weird individuals that likes to have all the information before making a decision. Since I only have bits and pieces, I cannot make an informed decision on this particular situation.

When a man loses custody the world rallies around him and says, "Wow, that evil bitch screwed you good." Whether he did anything to warrant the action or not. When a woman loses custody MOST PEOPLE AUTOMATICALLY ASSUME THAT SHE DID SOMETHING PRETTY DISPICABLE TO MAKE THE COURTS TAKE HER CHILDREN BECAUSE "EVERYBODY KNOWS" THAT NOT EVEN CRACKWHORES LOSE CUSTODY OF THEIR KIDS.

You're yelling again pumpkin.

And you spelled despicable wrong.

PM - you have said I sound like a sexist lunatic. Interestingly enough, on this thread I've said nothing crazy and nothing sexist (nor do I recall making comments that could be construed as such anyplace else IRL or on the web) so I am still trying to understand that assessment.

Ok, let go back for a second. I was trying to tell you that you didn't want to come across as a sexist lunatic. I even said right after that, "Not saying you are, but you do get extremely worked up over things you're deeply passionate about".

btw, it's not the first time we've had this conversation. Here's one example of how you can come across as sexist:

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/chat-conversation/benoits-history-554850-4.html#post7453693

 

[Scotsman]

I'm locking this as the original poster's request for advice was partly answered then the thread degraded into mudslinging.

Cheers,
Scotsman