hello!!! need some advice

[Razorguns]

You have to be the biggest asshole on the planet. What part of he will kill her if she tries to leave doidn't you understand you ass?

A restraining order is a piece of paper, how do you suggest she use that 8 1/2 X 11 piece of paper to keep his fists off of her and her child? It takes an average of 15 minutes for a call to be answered, she will be dead in less than 5. Now as I said shut the fuck up about this you retarded asswipe.

911 FTW.

r

 

[Bikini Mod]

911 FTW.

r

Nomarriage.com is just as helpfull.

It's people like you that are nearly as big a part of this problem as are the abusers themselves.

It's a GOOD THING that you "don't understand" the phenomenon, means that you have lived WITHOUT this nightmare in your life. However, it's people like you with their "blame the victim" mentality that PROLIFERATES it and actually helps the ABUSER.

Please educate yourself so that you can be part of the solution, as opposed to part of the problem.

 

[fortunatesun]

R, think about this. Picture yourself a 9 yr old child, you have something a 17 yr old wants and you don't want to let it go. You know this 17 yr old has kicked other 9 yr olds asses. So you hold on to this "something" and promptly get your ass kicked.

Now you dumbass when you don't know anything about an issue where a woman and childs life is at stake shut the fuck up.

You tyically don't know shit about shit but you tend to be amusing occassionally.

This issue is a very dangerous and complex one. 3 women have died from a spouse since this thread was started. So please keep your worthless opinions to your fucking self when it comes to women and abuse.

So once again shut the fuck up and stay on the topic of games and other stupid shit you might know about.

I agree this issue can be very complex, much more than an outsider first realizes.

Still, removing yourselves from an environment where physical harm is the inevitable result has to be the best option. BM's idea is best. Even if you can't make the commitment to leave, establishing link a link to the outside world is a big first step. This at least lets you see where you stand and provides a safety net in case you need unexpected help.

 

[Grumpy Old Man]

911 FTW.

r

Apparently you are as stupid as I thought.

Lemme break this down to your dumbass.

You have three men break into your house, they are standing in front of you with guns, they said don't move or they will shoot your stupid ignorant ass. You say, ok, hold on I am going to call 9-1-1 be right back bros Get the picture? No I doubt you do still.

FTW you asstard!

 

[Razorguns]

Apparently you are as stupid as I thought.

Lemme break this down to your dumbass.

You have three men break into your house, they are standing in front of you with guns, they said don't move or they will shoot your stupid ignorant ass. You say, ok, hold on I am going to call 9-1-1 be right back bros Get the picture? No I doubt you do still.

FTW you asstard!

Yes I call 911 if those guys were there the night before and slapped me.

911 FTW!

I'm off with my XDCAM, P2 Cards and 4x4 Filter Gels to a music video shoot now....later MY PRISON BITCH!

r

 

[Grumpy Old Man]

Yes I call 911 if those guys were there the night before and slapped me.

911 FTW!

I'm off with my XDCAM, P2 Cards and 4x4 Filter Gels to a music video shoot now....later MY PRISON BITCH!

r

You are a dumbass

 

[Bikini Mod]

I agree this issue can be very complex, much more than an outsider first realizes.

Still, removing yourselves from an environment where physical harm is the inevitable result has to be the best option. BM's idea is best. Even if you can't make the commitment to leave, establishing link a link to the outside world is a big first step. This at least lets you see where you stand and provides a safety net in case you need unexpected help.

She WANTS to leave. That is excellent to hear. She knows she HAS TO, however, all the people who don't realize the hows and whys should not verbally berate her. THAT WONT HELP - IT ADDS TO HER SENSE OF SHAME AND HUMILIATION... EVEN THOUGH SHE ISN'T THE ONE WHO DID ANYTHING WRONG.

How bout all of us take a deep breath and focus our anger on the abuser, where it belongs? Let's change our attitude and support the victim instead of blaming her.

All the e-big and bad MEN who think that dialing 911 is going to help... you have NO CLUE.

This woman is already terrified that her ex will take custody of her child and her current bf takes her pay. When she does leave, she knows damned well that she will leave with NOTHING. She feels TRAPPED.

I PM'd her with specific information to an organization that will help her, that is IF there is a chapter that is local to her.

Do ya'll realize how much money is required to house/clothe/feed just ONE WOMAN and HER CHILD for 30 days?! She has 30 days to totally revamp her life. THIRTY...

Let's all of us take a deep breath and get angry at the one who deserves the blame - THE ABUSER. Let's motivate ourselves to get educated and try to be part of the solution - not part of the problem.

A lot of bad things happen when good people stand by and do NOTHING.

 

[Bikini Mod]

A statistic that blew my mind when I heard it (and I thought I was fairly educated about the topic of domestic violence/abuse):

It takes a woman on average of 7 attempts to FINALLY leave her abuser.

We really need to stop this "blame the victim" mentality and educate ourselves so that we can help, not harm. As I said before, a lot of really bad things happen when good people stand by and do nothing.

 

[Stefka]

911 FTW.

r

For someone who is constantly ranting about the ineptitude of government agencies and officials, you certainly have a lot of faith in 911.

 

[Grumpy Old Man]

For someone who is constantly ranting about the ineptitude of government agencies and officials, you certainly have a lot of faith in 911.

No kidding, since I made the first post 14 women have been killed by their spouses, most while they were trying to leave this Sunday morning or while they were out shopping and their ex found them and wanted them to come back.

Some with restraining orders some that ran away and made the mistake of calling a friend to chat and tell them they are ok. The friend told the ex, the ex found them and in one case today a child was killed during the dispute.

So much for paper and phones.