Having relationship problems

[Bobber]

After 3 months of this girl doing pretty much nothing major wrong I broke up with her last Tuesday. I realized what a dumb ass I was and called her the next day appologizing and thought everything would be fine but I was wrong. It's been over a week now and still everytime she looks at me, which is not very often, all I see is hurt. All I want to do is make it better and she has built such a huge wall around herself that I feel like I can't do anything about it. What the fuck am I supposed to do?

 

[DIVISION]

After 3 months of this girl doing pretty much nothing major wrong I broke up with her last Tuesday. I realized what a dumb ass I was and called her the next day appologizing and thought everything would be fine but I was wrong. It's been over a week now and still everytime she looks at me, which is not very often, all I see is hurt. All I want to do is make it better and she has built such a huge wall around herself that I feel like I can't do anything about it. What the fuck am I supposed to do?

Bobber, you need to have a sit-down with her and explain that you made a huge mistake by breaking up with her and ask her to take you back. She is most likely wondering what SHE did wrong for you to break up with her. If you still care about her, then let her know, look her in the eyes and tell her that from the heart. It's on you now, bro. Put the ball in her court and then it's her perogative whether she wants to continue the relationship or not.

Even if she does want to get back together, she will be feeling hurt for some time now. Expect that, nugga....

Hope this helps, holmes.


DIV

 

[Bobber]

I have done that already bro. I told her I was wrong and how she is fucking so incredible and how I was a retard and had no reason to break up with her. The ball has been in her court for a week now. I even went and got her a really cool huge bowl and filled it with her favorite candies and wrote a poem and put them on her doorstep for when she got home from class this afternoon. I am seriously fucking miserable right now. I just want things to go back to the way they were.

 

[BUBBLES]

After 3 months of this girl doing pretty much nothing major wrong I broke up with her last Tuesday. I realized what a dumb ass I was and called her the next day appologizing and thought everything would be fine but I was wrong. It's been over a week now and still everytime she looks at me, which is not very often, all I see is hurt. All I want to do is make it better and she has built such a huge wall around herself that I feel like I can't do anything about it. What the fuck am I supposed to do?

I have been through a similar situation where the guy wanted two weeks off and did not give me a good reason for the space he wanted. So I told him I am not giving him two weeks off I am giving him a life time off!

So if this girl is as stubborn as me then it would take a miracle for her to take you back! Anyway appologise... but don't hold your breath....
Goodluck!

 

[DIVISION]

I have done that already bro. I told her I was wrong and how she is fucking so incredible and how I was a retard and had no reason to break up with her. The ball has been in her court for a week now. I even went and got her a really cool huge bowl and filled it with her favorite candies and wrote a poem and put them on her doorstep for when she got home from class this afternoon. I am seriously fucking miserable right now. I just want things to go back to the way they were.

Sadly, things will never be "exactly" how they were before. It's possible to move past this, but she will never forget what you did. It's plausible that she might not forgive you and decide that it's best you two go your seperate ways. Like I said, the ball's in her court and it's on her to decide when and if you two will get back together. Give her some time, nugga. When it comes to relationships, women always need to rationalize their feelings and there's no real timetable for that.

I wish you the best of luck, holmes.

DIV

 

[starfish]

She is probably afraid that if you did this to her once then you will do it again.
No girl worth having wants to be put on an emotional roller coaster by a man who is supposed to care about her.

 

[DIVISION]

She is probably afraid that if you did this to her once then you will do it again.
No girl worth having wants to be put on an emotional roller coaster by a man who is supposed to care about her.

Starfish has a point, that's why I said it's entirely possible that you might not get her back no matter what you do. In a relationship there are some things you can't take back.

That ball is in her court.

DIV

 

[Bobber]

Well then I guess I will just feel like shit for the next few days and go back to being the man whore I used to be with my superficial bullshit relationships that are available to me in this rediculous fucking town. Thanks for the replies guys...they reaffirmed what I thought.

 

[split endz]

Bobber, tell her that you have expressed your feelings and do not know what else to do. Don't call continuously, back off a little, make yourself a little scarce. If she still has feelings for you, your absence will make her think about you more. You can't convince her to do anything, she must make that decision.

 

[havoc]

After 3 months of this girl doing pretty much nothing major wrong I broke up with her last Tuesday. I realized what a dumb ass I was and called her the next day appologizing and thought everything would be fine but I was wrong. It's been over a week now and still everytime she looks at me, which is not very often, all I see is hurt. All I want to do is make it better and she has built such a huge wall around herself that I feel like I can't do anything about it. What the fuck am I supposed to do?

Watch Teen Wolf, that will cheer you up big time.


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