going into a marriage sexually frustrated...

[Bikini Mod]

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but there is NO WAY IN HELL the sex will improve. All they need is a baby and the marriage is beyond - dead/over.

Different people have different drives. Most women have much weaker drives than men for obvious reasons, HOWEVER, it is NOT NORMAL for a young woman up to her ears in love about to get married to hardly ever want sex. If she were ill, great stress, baby, major life changes - OK. But to BEGIN a marriage like that? Talk about your horseman of the apocalypse.

Was her drive ALWAYS this low? Or was it one of those, "I got the ring so now I don't 'have to' give up the pussy anymore" things?

 

[needtogetarmy]

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but there is NO WAY IN HELL the sex will improve. All they need is a baby and the marriage is beyond - dead/over.

I'm living that life.

 

[EnderJE]

I'm living that life.

I'm surprised that you don't leave if it bothers you that much. Or use roofies. It saved my marriage and allows her to sleep more.

 

[Creepusmaximus]

...think it can turn around
synopsis-bro is getting married soon, wife has pretty much limited the sexy time.
never in the mood, not feeling sexy enough, rarely initiaes...strong love bond, but weak physical bond.
can it end turn itself around?
discuss

No. Won't ever work out unless hubby can have a girl friend but then what's the point of the wife? He's not 50 or so is he?

 

[Bikini Mod]

I'm living that life.

I'm really sorry to hear that. Makes me sad when people aren't happy in their married lives.

 

[Gawd]

This thread is depressing, lol.

 

[needtogetarmy]

I'm surprised that you don't leave if it bothers you that much. Or use roofies. It saved my marriage and allows her to sleep more.

Marriage is more than sex.

My marriage will probably end in divorce if things do not change (and it has been the same for about 5 years) but I have not given up yet.

Roofies?!?! lol

 

[Creepusmaximus]

I'm surprised that you don't leave if it bothers you that much. Or use roofies. It saved my marriage and allows her to sleep more.

Roofies will work.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Marriage is more than sex.

My marriage will probably end in divorce if things do not change (and it has been the same for about 5 years) but I have not given up yet.

Roofies?!?! lol

100% agreed. That is why I always say that LIKE is so much more important than *love*. In the beginning none of us REALLY knows what love is. We really get married because of sexual attraction.

You gotta still have something to talk about long after the sheets stop rustling as life has many ways of taking that aspect of marriage.

Like

Respect

and

Common Life Goals

If any one of these three components is missing the union is doomed to failure.

I do applaud you for your dedication Army Vet and hope that you and your wife find a way to resolve these issues and that your family remains intact and HAPPY.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Marriage is for suckers, when will you people learn?