Frack, just accept that most girls don't want a cheap ass first date even if they don't admit it......(meaning, he can't pay for his own meal, and his friends have to spot him)
If a guy asks me out to dinner, I assume hes buying----if I ask him, sure I will pick up the bill---
Almost all the guys I have gone out with, pay for the first date, if not all of them, but I always fight about it with them and throw money at them, seriously. I always bring money with me on a date-----I know how guys REALLY feel about paying all the time, and I know they don't like it, even though they claim to want to pay......
I'm by far materialistic. I have friends that expect guys to pay for their drinks when ever we go out. They don't even bring money with them. I always buy my own drinks, not to say some of my friends are "bad people" because there are plenty of guys that love to show how loaded they are, so let them.
The bottom line is, if you don't want to pay for a chicks meal, and its going to make you cry, then don't, and stop bitching about it