I was reading in a book this weekend that 90% of the problems that arise in a relationship are not resolvable. At first I thought...wtf?!? The guy went on to say that partners have to make a choice to disconnect emotionally from the issue, after discussing it, and connect with each other at a feeling level. Said it's really unreasonable to expect men and women to see the world from each other's view points because we are just different and accepting that is so much healthier (outside of the obvious abusive, drunken, drug addicted issues etc). Said expecting great conflict resolution all the time really just sets couples up for problems. Do we want to be right or do we want to be happy....
Was an interesting perspective.