F-ing WOMEN!!! SHOW SOME GOD DAMN RESPECT, LADIES!!!!

[Steroid_Virgin]

I hear ya... I do.

Life is strange. Somehow it never seems to work out anything like we'd imagined it when we were so much younger.

aint that the fucking truth....

 

[chesty]

Well, if I go to war, I promise to write and not get killed. But, it is still my duty. And I still owe you a steak dinner and a night out!

 

[Bikini Mod]

The road to hell is paved with good intentions, forget being nice, focus on honest.

And you are saying this because?

It would get me into heaven faster to hurt somebody's feelings?

You say tomatoe... I say tomahtoe.

I am sorry, I just don't have it in me to be nasty. Like I said, perhaps it is a character flaw of mine.

I have tried to be honest by saying, "You are just too young for me."

"But you are married."

"I don't have any free time because when I am not at work, I am with my children and when I am not with my children, I am at work."

"I am sorry but I don't date the customers EVER."

Which one of those three statements (I must say AT LEAST 5 times a week). would work?

I have said ALL OF THEM and NOT ONE WAS GOOD ENOUGH. All responses were 100% honest and STILL it wasn't good enough.

I get

"Age is just a number."

"I don't mind. Why should you?"

"I don't mind the kids... bring them along."

"Then we could just pretend that we met outside."

Bottom line - Some guys won't seem to take a NICE no for an answer and there are many women who just are not into feeding thier egos by being brutal and nasty.

 

[madbomber31]

Wrong again. Some of us try to let guys down easy because we don't want to hurt their feelings.

Again, we try to be nice to some guys and because of it we are labeled disrespectful bitches.

Do you honestly think I actually MEAN IT when I tell every guy, no matter how disinterested I am for whatever reason, "I really am flattered, but I have to say no because I have a boyfriend."?!

No, I am just trying to be nice.

Yea, I know, major character flaw. I'll try to be bitchier next time.

BM... take a minute and read my original post over again... you are doing the exact same god damn thing that i am talking about... you are trying to let someone down easy.. you think it will hurt a guys feelings to hear YOU turn them down.. no offense but YOU ARE NOT THAT SPECIAL!!! nobody is...

BE HONEST!!!! thats all anyone wants is honesty.. no excuses, no bullshit... be honest.

 

[Finaject2001]

And you are saying this because?

You see, bikinimom, if someone is attracted to you enough to approach you, and they hear a "negotiable" excuse, they will continue to negotiate. What I mean by negotiable, is a weak excuse, the kind you give "to be nice". If a girl says "sorry, I never date customers" then the guy is thinking "well if Im not a customer, then she'll date me." But if a girl is honest, and she says: "You know, Im not attracted to Italian men" then that tells him to step off, because its something that cant be changed. Dont give wishy-washy excuses under the guise of being nice. Telling someone you arent interested should be an honest answer, not a nice confusing one that leaves open possibilities.

 

[madbomber31]

AMEN....

 

[Bikini Mod]

You see, bikinimom, if someone is attracted to you enough to approach you, and they hear a "negotiable" excuse, they will continue to negotiate. What I mean by negotiable, is a weak excuse, the kind you give "to be nice". If a girl says "sorry, I never date customers" then the guy is thinking "well if Im not a customer, then she'll date me." .

I can see what you are saying but the logic is flawed.

IF he weren't a customer.....

BUT HE IS - THAT FACT CAN NOT BE CHANGED any more than the fact that I am not attracted to Italian men or if I were married, the FACT that I was.

I guess that men and women just look at things differently.

I have been interested in men and have approached them. For example: The little note with the two boxes, "Do you like me? Please check on box" I actually did this in the beginning of the year. This guy where I used to train would SERIOUSLY stare me down and smile... as I did him. So I got the guts up to do this cute little thing. Had another girl give him the note and everything for effect LOL. He checked the box marked Yes... but came over to tell me that he was seeing someone and even though the relationship was new it was his boss's daughter, yadda, yadda.

It was sweet. Really. He was flattered that I approached him and I thought he was a nice guy to let me down easy.

Worked for me.

All I told him was, if he was ever interested that he could get in touch with me through the peeps at the gym (the guy was a cop).

If this answer was good enough for me, then why is it not good enough for a guy?

 

[madbomber31]

guys dont need to be treated like a 2 million dollar vase... we are not that fragile.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Ok so let me get this straight so I understand...

YOU WANT US TO BE STRAIGHT UP BITCHES?

OK. Gotcha.

PS - that guy who I slipped the note to? After he told me thanks but no thanks I stopped oogling him. I mean, he had a girl, right? He didn't stop his oogling of me AT ALL and even got a bit upset that I was no longer paying that kind of attention to him.

Odd.

If I ain't interested then I won't continue ACTING like I am even after I told the guy I wasn't. But then again, I am just a diabolical female that is killing men with kindness because though I am honest I am not brutal.

 

[madbomber31]

nobody said to be a bitch... i said to be honest...

"sorry, but i am not interested" is not being a bitch, its being a genuine person...

giving someone an excuse because you are so special it would devestate their lives to hear you say no... well, thats being a bitch, a stuck up one at that.