Detaching yourself from everything

[GUARDIAN]

i have moved about half a dozen times and let me tell ya it gets easier with each new time. none of them have been a total removal of family. some followed and others stayed. i have always been quite a bit of a loner when it comes to family and never really got along with them so it wasnt quite as bad.

btw - my best friend's day died about a year ago and he is originally from CT. we just helped his mom move back home there and he travels there all the time. he keeps brining back authentic cannolis (sp.?) to wreck my diet

 

[chazk]

I've been out of my parent's house for 2 years already. I live in the next town over. The problem is I'm too close with my family. It's not so much moving, it's more of wanting to be gone and out of everyone's sight so I can do what I need to do.

Do you want to move away and get jacked up and persue bodybuilding ?
If so I understand. You do not need anything negative blocking you from your goals. It is as if you have to disconnect and become a new person.

 

[gotmilk]

I've been out of my parent's house for 2 years already. I live in the next town over. The problem is I'm too close with my family. It's not so much moving, it's more of wanting to be gone and out of everyone's sight so I can do what I need to do.

You have to do what you have to do.....

Hell, I have relatives who send me "anonymous" letters telling me I'm greedy. Ironically post marked from rural Maine towns that only my relatives live in. You don't have to sacrifice, just pick and choose when to make efforts. I'm 110% involved in my projects. Casino construction, flipping MTN's to pension funds, etc.

I'm pretty sure I have blown a couple of relationships because I spent more time on work than with my girlfriend. Yet, life does not suck.

You cannot live to make others happy. Otherwise, you miss out on making yourself happy.

Plus, you can always go home for vacation.....or to catch a fresh snowstorm
http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v300/pqibex/virginsnow.jpg

 

[musclemom]

You're only young once. When you get the wife/home/kids you can't chase dreams (hello, speaking from experience here).

One of my biggest regrets was settling down without really knowing who I was or what I wanted. Marrying young, having a kid young, owning a house by age 25, yeah, great. I've never been further north than the Canadian border (didn't cross it) and no farther south than North Carolina. I've been to Texas, once, for three days to see my son graduate basic training. I live within 5 miles of where I was born and I HATE THIS FUCKING TOWN!!! But I can't leave, because of $$$. When you're over 40, start having miscellaneous health issues, a mortgage that won't pay itself off if the house is sold, pets and child support, and debt you just can't pick up and and go move to Key West and gamble that you'll be able to hustle up enough work to at least eat once in a while and sleep in the car. You just can't do that shit when you get older.

Chase your dreams. Your family will ALWAYS be there, just frigging write and call them!!! Your own parents will tell you, you only get a narrow window of time to take risks in this life.

 

[curvymommy]

Letting yourself get comfortable in any situation results in laziness. Rest makes rust.

I really like that phrase.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

there's a happy medium.

I moved out of state from my mother- I'm an only child and felt like I was constantly under her control.
Now I talk to her on the phone quite often, and we email every day, but she hears the info i want to give and that's it.
You can distance yourself without being completely gone.

yeah right, you moved here because you are stalker times 100. you know you want me.

 

[the_alcatraz]

I really like that phrase.

It's Puddlemonkey's phrase

 

[curvymommy]

It's Puddlemonkey's phrase

then I like it more. Sounds like something my grand daddy woulda said.

 

[stilleto]

yeah right, you moved here because you are stalker times 100. you know you want me.

what are you wearing?

 

[jaybois]

Do you want to move away and get jacked up and persue bodybuilding ?
If so I understand. You do not need anything negative blocking you from your goals. It is as if you have to disconnect and become a new person.

It's probley what is holding him back.