Detaching yourself from everything

[juiceddreadlocks]

Listen to David DeAngelo's 77laws for success and dating... he talks about that situation...

 

[Sub-Zero]

Leaving family, friends, and everything else you've always known and loved to chase a dream. I have a wonderful family; I borderline cry just thinking about moving away from Connecticut. I feel like I owe them so much; especially my mother who raised me on her own. And to my sisters, to act as a wholesome role model. And to my grandmother, whose husband passed away last year, who I loved as a father. I am the only successful grandson she has. There is a lot of pressure on me to succeed according to society's (and my family's) standards. You know, job, wife, house. Sure, I have a great job, but there's more to it. It's one thing after another. One expectation to meet after another. There also comes a time in a man's life where he has to choose between his own happiness and what others expect of him. This time for me is now. Is there a happy medium? No. There has to be a sacrifice.

I look at people who have lost their parents. People who have nobody except themselves, and the motivation to grab this fucking life by the horns and push until their heart stops. In a sick way, I imagine having no parents (God forbid - but hear me out)...having no expectations to meet, nobody to fall back on, no security net. Just me. And my drive, willpower, vision, instinct to survive. It sounds like a lifted burden when all you have to disappoint is yourself.

Lately I think this might be what I have to do. I feel strongly about few things, and my situation doesn't foster those dreams. I feel like everything around me is holding me down and I can't expand the roots until I bust out of this pot.

Who's done it? Tell me your story.

iv definately been through that thought process, many many times.

my situation is a little different, but when it comes down to it you have to realize you arnt letting them down. you may think you are by their reaction, but they are only human...they only know one way to react, one set of guidelines that they think is "best". its your job as their son to prove them wrong, and break free.

you will make them proud no matter what you do. but you will make them the PROUDEST, by being sucessful and happy in something they could never see you succeeding in.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Letting yourself get comfortable in any situation results in laziness. Rest makes rust.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Good post bro. Props for taking the plunge. Although I haven't moved away yet, the thought of it has been getting serious lately.

IMO the only way you let your family down is by not chasing your dreams...

family and parents are there to encourage you and "wind you up"(like a toy car ) untill your ready to zoom off all by yourself!!

of course they have to be sad and not want you to leave, cause thats part of their job to always make you feel sheltered.

etc, etc, etc.

my mommy told me all this

 

[dirty~d~]

Letting yourself get comfortable in any situation results in laziness. Rest makes rust.

There is nothing wrong with being content either.

 

[puddlemonkey]

There is nothing wrong with being content either.

Yes, there is.

 

[jackangel]

You can't do it without me fool.

lmaololol

 

[Razorguns]

Set goals and then work towards them.

make the goals non-greed-money oriented. Something that makes you happy, you can excel in, and thus would make your family happy - and serve as a role model.

Doesn't have to be too hard like you infer. Just take of yourself, and believe in yourself. Then go out, enjoy life, work towards your goals and good things eventually wind up happening when you view life this way.

r

 

[puddlemonkey]

make the goals non-greed-money oriented. Something that makes you happy

What if money makes me happy?

 

[Razorguns]

Listen to David DeAngelo's 77laws for success and dating... he talks about that situation...

or way better

Napoleon Hill's Keys to Success

Presidents and Business Leaders have read that over the years. 153 5-stars on amazon.com.

r