Can you ever really recover from a broken heart?

[Gambino]

don't break my heart
my achy breaky heart
i just don't think you understand
'cause if you broke my heart
my achy breaky heart
it might blow up and kill this man

 

[PICK3]

My whole life is a heart break!

 

[Sam_Trautman]

thank God I never had to deal with this shit....

 

[vinylgroover]

Vinyl bro, I've been here before. You're in an older woman-younger man relationship. I've been in many of these, so I know what will happen as it's all quite textbook.

TRUST ME on this bro, it will ALWAYS be the older woman who will pull back. TRUST ME. You two are at different stages in your life. She's done with kids and is looking for a man to grow old with. Believe me, the biggest thing weighing in the back of her mind is that you are a YOUNG PUP still. She's thinking that she cannot give you kids and when you are 42 she will be an old 52. That when you are 52, she will be older 62 and will lose interest in her. It is all about insecurity on her part and at your age difference the woman will only grow more and more insecure as time goes on.

Word of advice bro. The more you "fight" for her, the more you will PUSH HER AWAY. In her mind she has resolved your situation as being over, so the last thing she wants is to see you develop stronger feelings for her. It is done with Vinyl. She will not allow herself to grow closer to a person she sees no LONG-TERM future with. The best thing I can tell you is, do NOT fight for someone who will not fight for you. NEVER EVER put yourself on the line for someone who is not willing to reciprocate those same actions, and trust me bro, she is not going to do that for you. Do NOT have any sort of relations with her, ESPECIALLY a sexual one. That'll only be torture for the both of you.

Yes she does love you, care for you, and think highly of you, but she's really looking for a guy around her age who does not want children anymore and who is ready to settle down. At your age, she will never think you are at that point despite what you may say.

All of my older woman-younger man relationships lasted about a year. Pretty much all textbook. I'm at the point now where I can map them out.

Stop fighting for her bro. Trust me.

Thanks Bro.......you summed up pretty much everything she said to me.

I felt like i was ready to conquer everything with her. It's a very empty feeling, but i know she has too many doubts......all of the one's you listed above.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

Yep

Wut knows his MILFS. This it why I love MILFS they are strong enough to move on. No insecurities...no worring if they can't find someone else to marry and breed. Its done.

Its also easier to fall for a MILF. They are smarter, more honest, more laid back, and less games!!!!! Also, they know how to and love to have sex!!!!!

you preachin' that damn MILF stuff again....

 

[wutangnomo]

Thanks Bro.......you summed up pretty much everything she said to me.

I felt like i was ready to conquer everything with her. It's a very empty feeling, but i know she has too many doubts......all of the one's you listed above.

Anytime bro. One thing people don't realize is that unless they've been in an older woman-younger man relationship they cannot understand the full circumstances of your situation. Yes she does love you and is very honest about it. She is not lying about her feelings at all. Those in your thread who said she's lying simply don't understand.

I can assure you one thing. It's over in her mind and she's already looking for "the one". That's why I advise you do not fight for her and move on. Believe me Vinyl, older women around her age (40+) can move on in a heartbeat. Her tears are legitimate, but you'd be surprised how quickly they can get over you.

 

[awittyusername]

Anytime bro. One thing people don't realize is that unless they've been in an older woman-younger man relationship they cannot understand the full circumstances of your situation. Yes she does love you and is very honest about it. She is not lying about her feelings at all. Those in your thread who said she's lying simply don't understand.

I can assure you one thing. It's over in her mind and she's already looking for "the one". That's why I advise you do not fight for her and move on. Believe me Vinyl, older women around her age (40+) can move on in a heartbeat. Her tears are legitimate, but you'd be surprised how quickly they can get over you.

Yep

Wut knows his MILFS. This it why I love MILFS they are strong enough to move on. No insecurities...no worring if they can't find someone else to marry and breed. Its done.

Its also easier to fall for a MILF. They are smarter, more honest, more laid back, and less games!!!!! Also, they know how to and love to have sex!!!!!

 

[BUBBLES]

The answer is to become a complete sexist, I'm afraid

I am not sure that is going to help the situation. I tried it and it didn't work.

 

[Nilt]

The answer is to become a complete sexist, I'm afraid

 

[danielson]

I can assure you one thing. It's over in her mind and she's already looking for "the one". That's why I advise you do not fight for her and move on. Believe me Vinyl, older women around her age (40+) can move on in a heartbeat. Her tears are legitimate, but you'd be surprised how quickly they can get over you.

Even with no experience of dating older women this rings so true, think about it. Most women are RUTHLESS, the fact she is 42, single and has 2 kids means she is even more so. She will not allow herself to be in any other situation other than whats best for her, irrespective of what her heart is feeling.

Be pissed, at 32yrs old and male in a 1st world country you are prime real-estate for women...she has wasted your time by using you as a stop gap till her next relationship. She may never truly love this guy but I doubt this is the biggest issue to her and that in itself means you got off lightly

Look at it this way...I do remember you posting that after years of hedonism you wanted to settle and do the family thing. She is 42...probably doesnt want any kids and even if she did, she's less fertile and more likely to have complications due to age. Added to that when you are forty she will be 50! when you are 50 she will be 60! Its hard to see now, but old man+young woman is ok, because at least the gold digger has some money a mazzerati and the gardner to play with....it would have ended up badly later on and you would REGRET severely the fact you didnt get to sow your seed earlier in life

As much as it hurts, you have to keep looking for the one that is right for you, and while being pissed its a years worth of time gone, happy that a) you now know you 'played it out' and wont ever regret this and b) when it came time to end things definitivly she did it


you could fight for her but if what you want out of marriage is different this would happen again.