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Can you ever really recover from a broken heart?
- Thread starter vinylgroover
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This is true but i try and hold on to the thought of "those worth crying over would never make you cry". Just seems to make more sense to me.CanadianCutie said:Broken hearts r hard to mend.. what is it they say.. what do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the one who amde u start
wutangnomo
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Vinyl bro, I've been here before. You're in an older woman-younger man relationship. I've been in many of these, so I know what will happen as it's all quite textbook.
TRUST ME on this bro, it will ALWAYS be the older woman who will pull back. TRUST ME. You two are at different stages in your life. She's done with kids and is looking for a man to grow old with. Believe me, the biggest thing weighing in the back of her mind is that you are a YOUNG PUP still. She's thinking that she cannot give you kids and when you are 42 she will be an old 52. That when you are 52, she will be older 62 and will lose interest in her. It is all about insecurity on her part and at your age difference the woman will only grow more and more insecure as time goes on.
Word of advice bro. The more you "fight" for her, the more you will PUSH HER AWAY. In her mind she has resolved your situation as being over, so the last thing she wants is to see you develop stronger feelings for her. It is done with Vinyl. She will not allow herself to grow closer to a person she sees no LONG-TERM future with. The best thing I can tell you is, do NOT fight for someone who will not fight for you. NEVER EVER put yourself on the line for someone who is not willing to reciprocate those same actions, and trust me bro, she is not going to do that for you. Do NOT have any sort of relations with her, ESPECIALLY a sexual one. That'll only be torture for the both of you.
Yes she does love you, care for you, and think highly of you, but she's really looking for a guy around her age who does not want children anymore and who is ready to settle down. At your age, she will never think you are at that point despite what you may say.
All of my older woman-younger man relationships lasted about a year. Pretty much all textbook. I'm at the point now where I can map them out.
Stop fighting for her bro. Trust me.
TRUST ME on this bro, it will ALWAYS be the older woman who will pull back. TRUST ME. You two are at different stages in your life. She's done with kids and is looking for a man to grow old with. Believe me, the biggest thing weighing in the back of her mind is that you are a YOUNG PUP still. She's thinking that she cannot give you kids and when you are 42 she will be an old 52. That when you are 52, she will be older 62 and will lose interest in her. It is all about insecurity on her part and at your age difference the woman will only grow more and more insecure as time goes on.
Word of advice bro. The more you "fight" for her, the more you will PUSH HER AWAY. In her mind she has resolved your situation as being over, so the last thing she wants is to see you develop stronger feelings for her. It is done with Vinyl. She will not allow herself to grow closer to a person she sees no LONG-TERM future with. The best thing I can tell you is, do NOT fight for someone who will not fight for you. NEVER EVER put yourself on the line for someone who is not willing to reciprocate those same actions, and trust me bro, she is not going to do that for you. Do NOT have any sort of relations with her, ESPECIALLY a sexual one. That'll only be torture for the both of you.
Yes she does love you, care for you, and think highly of you, but she's really looking for a guy around her age who does not want children anymore and who is ready to settle down. At your age, she will never think you are at that point despite what you may say.
All of my older woman-younger man relationships lasted about a year. Pretty much all textbook. I'm at the point now where I can map them out.
Stop fighting for her bro. Trust me.
Testosterone boy
New member
Sorry to hear about the pain but I suspect she is right.
This scenario has too many built in problems waiting to hatch. And hatch they probably will.
This scenario has too many built in problems waiting to hatch. And hatch they probably will.
You know, after all my ex did to me...I still think about her. Mostly I wish that I could just call her up and make sure that she is ok, doing fine, and didn't need anything. She dumped me twice (did A LOT that was wrong to me though) and even came back and said that she loved me and wanted me back...at some point. I was then dating my current wife...and she knew it.
Think about a few things:
1) She doesn't want you...for whatever reason. That is an insult.
2) She is playing the ropes it seems and I highly doubt she is being 100% honest with you about her REAL feelings. That is an insult.
3) You are YOU...a MAN and you stand for things. Make a list of things that you "stand for" in life, love, and everything else that makes you...you. Being insulted is not on that list. REAL women love a STRONG man...inside too. Stand for who you are, do NOT be insulted anymore, see an insult for what it is (an insult), and be a man.
4) It is perfectly ok to feel emotions. It is ok to cry, hurt, miss a meal every now and again because you are so down...but it is NOT ok to show that to certain people (her, other women, close friends more than a time or two, or in the public).
5) You can have the upper hand...if you want it.
B True
Think about a few things:
1) She doesn't want you...for whatever reason. That is an insult.
2) She is playing the ropes it seems and I highly doubt she is being 100% honest with you about her REAL feelings. That is an insult.
3) You are YOU...a MAN and you stand for things. Make a list of things that you "stand for" in life, love, and everything else that makes you...you. Being insulted is not on that list. REAL women love a STRONG man...inside too. Stand for who you are, do NOT be insulted anymore, see an insult for what it is (an insult), and be a man.
4) It is perfectly ok to feel emotions. It is ok to cry, hurt, miss a meal every now and again because you are so down...but it is NOT ok to show that to certain people (her, other women, close friends more than a time or two, or in the public).
5) You can have the upper hand...if you want it.
B True
courtneybcca
New member
I feel your pain!! I have been dealing with the same feelings... She has pushed you away and at least be thankful that she respected you enough to be up front and honest with her feelings. If you truely love her you will always have a place for her in your heart... Time doesn't always completly heal it but it makes it a lot better... For me I have kept myself VERY busy and I really suggest you do the same... Sitting there crying about it is not going to make it better. Sure it is good to get those feelings out but you have to come to a point where enough is enough...
Acknowledge your feelings.. Right now you are in a grieving stage.. Take it as a learning experience... You obviously have a wonderful heart.. So you will get what you deserve don't worry. Everything happens for a reason!!
Acknowledge your feelings.. Right now you are in a grieving stage.. Take it as a learning experience... You obviously have a wonderful heart.. So you will get what you deserve don't worry. Everything happens for a reason!!
Testosterone boy
New member
Oh how I miss relationships..................
Ya'll make me so sad that I don't have a busted up heart with all these stories of shipwrecked lives.
Ya'll make me so sad that I don't have a busted up heart with all these stories of shipwrecked lives.
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evansteve
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Vinylgroover, good to hear you start posting on here again mang.
Too bad it had to be bad news though. That sucks. Well at least you had her temporarily, eh?
Too bad it had to be bad news though. That sucks. Well at least you had her temporarily, eh?
