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At what point do you write someone off as a friend?

DannoMight

DannoMight

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Ok here is the deal i had a supposed "friend" stand up our fantasy football league yesterday for our fantasy draft. He either had his phone off or was hitting ignor when we (6 of 10 us) were trying to call him for almost 2 hrs. sometimes his phone would go straght to voicemail sometimes one ring then voicemail, ect. Then we found a last minute replacment and he decides to call over an hour after the draft was supposed to start. His excuse was tha someone let the air our of 2 of his tires and he was out trying to get them fixed and didn't realize he left his phone in the car. Thing is he's the type who is never off his phone wether talking, texting, or facebooking. Plus its not like whoever helped him with his supposed tires didn't have phone that e could have used to make a one minute call. This also isn't the first time he's pulled a stunt like this.

Another time he volunteered to drive me to st.louis to pick up my car from a high performance shop (about a 4hr drive). Dude tells me were gonna leave early like 6-7am. Well i call at 6:15am and same shit straight to VM or one/ 1.5 rings and VM. He even gave me $40 the night before so he had extra gas money. He didn't call back or answer till 7pm and said he had no money for gas and only enouh gas to go to the lake for the day?

Then another time was a couple months ago I had a close family member die. He asks me the day he dies if I can watch his kid neglects while he takes his ex gf to the waterpark. He claims he had already bought the tickets for that particular day (total le they are good for anyday) and has o use them on that day. I told him no over the phone and it was not a good time at all considering the circumstances. Well he shows up to supposedly show some sympathy and basically pawns his kid off on me and my wife. The guy barely gets to see his kid and when he does he neglects him and tries to pawn his responsibility off on anybofy else he can.

Baically i am done with this person in general. I can't really think of very many psitive traits I need in a friend. And the lies on top of lies just pisses me off to no end. His nickname at his work is "Lies" if that says anything.

Sorry for the rant I just had enough!!
 
hes an acquaintance, not a friend.
i know people like this. sometimes they can be cool bro, but DON'T trust them.
 
cant trust him for shit obviously. if someone stood me up to go pickup my car and didnt answer until 7pm id beat the shit out of them.
 
iggy said:
hes an acquaintance, not a friend.
i know people like this. sometimes they can be cool bro, but DON'T trust them.
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I'm seriously considering doing something shitty for payback. like volunteering to watch his kid. Then nto answer my phone and make sure I'm not home when he stops by to drop him off. I mean dude has become a real leech over the past year. He has been coming around less now that I quit smoking weed and stopped smoking out my nigs.
 
DannoMight said:
I'm seriously considering doing something shitty for payback. like volunteering to watch his kid. Then nto answer my phone and make sure I'm not home when he stops by to drop him off. I mean dude has become a real leech over the past year. He has been coming around less now that I quit smoking weed and stopped smoking out my nigs.
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nah bro, you're better than that. don't play his childish games. move on.
 
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iggy said:
nah bro, you're better than that. don't play his childish games. move on.
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ur right bro, i do better sifting users/losers out of my life. personally yesterday i'm pretty sure he partied his ass off with his newish gf. before he dated her she was with another mutual friend for a short stint. you wouldn't believe how much shit he talked about her while she was with dude. there's almost too much to list. lol
 
ceo said:
just cut ties bro. No tricks. Be better than that.

I feel bad for the guy's kid more than I feel for you though. Sucks for that poor little dude. :(
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actually his gf left him a whie ago after he slapped her around some. he also has 2 other kids he's not allowed to see because he can't pass a drug test for custody. that ex got smart and told the courts he knows how to cheat a piss test and demanded a hair follicle. needless to say he can't sober up for 3 mos and i'm pretty sure he don't pay support on any of his 3 kids. honestly the kids are probably better off not having him as part o their life because they are a distant second to partying to him if not further down the line.

i mean when does someone make the choice to man up? i know i ain't perfect in no way and have done more than my fair share of hard drugs and partying but gave it up for my family and for me second. i can't be "that guy"
 
bakemeacookie said:
maybe he's a pothead - would explain a lot. If you keep hanging out with him - u deserve it. Seriously.

c
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he's more than a pothead as far as i know. i personally don't think anything less of anyone who smokes weed. a drunk is far far worse than a hippy smoker. i smoked weed for years. never missed work because of it never smoked at work just after work special. now they do randoms at work and if your get hurt on the job its an automatic drug and alcohol test. fail = no workmans comp and possibly no job or a stay in rehab. to me its more a thing about responsibility and keeping your word.

you can still be a smoker and be responsible.
 
DannoMight said:
well i never had an unexcused absence from work, i pay my bills, and supported my family while i was weedin it up on and off ove the past 15 years.
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share your secret! There's plenty of potheads who smoke weed all day here in cali and would love to learn how.

c
 
eveybody has their fix. plus its not like you duck all responsibility to party. or knock up 15 year old girls (yes dude was almost 30 and one of his baby's mama's was 15 when he knocked her up!!)
 
ceo said:
just cut ties bro. No tricks. Be better than that.
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This.

No need to make a big deal out of it, you've already shown you're the bottom in your friendship as you were unable or unwilling to enforce your will when he brought & subsequently dumped his kid over while you & your wife were mourning (I'm slightly e-incredulous at this, your wife must have been pleased).

Just ignore his calls, texts etc from now on. As said he's just an acquaintance.
 
bakemeacookie said:
share your secret! There's plenty of potheads who smoke weed all day here in cali and would love to learn how.

c
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i always waited until after work when i am safe at home. i get to paranoid driving diry and smoking. got busted once when i was 18 smokin down while driving on the highway. smokin weed was always a spare time hobby for me.
 
Well, if a man has more than one or two friends at any stage of his life, he's a lucky man. By definition a friend is someone you can trust. You can always depend on a friend, especially when the chips are down.
It's already been broached in this thread, but there's a huge difference between an acquaintance and a friend. Either way, you prolly don't want anybody in your life who habitually lies and who's irresponsible.
 
razor i hope you aren't talking shit about weedleheads, i can't decipher if you were
and dannomight is this subz or nimbus? lebannezzy bros can't be trusted
 
My theory is that if you feel that you deserve better respect and consideration from the friend, you probably DO. If you want to try to save it, give him some rules that are the basics you need, and if he can't go by them, he's gone. For me, lying (or any kind of deception) is a deal breaker with any relationship; whether friend, business, or female. Promising that they're going to do something and then not doing it, can be either just blowing you off, or it can be a personality disorder whereby they always want to please, and promise WAY more than they could ever do. That's not as bad, but the result is the same.

Charles
 
well i was talking over with the wife and she says i should just ignore dude. he only comes by if he needs something or it benefits him in some way. she also gets pissed when he brings his kid by and doesn't watch him at all. if we don't keep an eye on his kid the kid will trash whatever room he decides to go into. the more i think about it the easier it is just to ignore the DB and move on.
 
DannoMight said:
well i was talking over with the wife and she says i should just ignore dude. he only comes by if he needs something or it benefits him in some way. she also gets pissed when he brings his kid by and doesn't watch him at all. if we don't keep an eye on his kid the kid will trash whatever room he decides to go into. the more i think about it the easier it is just to ignore the DB and move on.
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just take him on a long drive out into the country, stop to use the restroom, then when he goes in the gas station to get something, drive up wit ur middle finger in the air
 
Well the truth comes out amongst another mutual friend. Dude missed the draft because he was wasted on xanies for 2 day and was ignoring the phone calls. So much for his 2 flat tires, leaving his phone in his car, and whoever was helping him with the flats not having a phone nor the tire shop letting him use their phone who was probably closed on the holiday weekend.

Oh well his loss:)
 
DannoMight said:
Well the truth comes out amongst another mutual friend. Dude missed the draft because he was wasted on xanies for 2 day and was ignoring the phone calls. So much for his 2 flat tires, leaving his phone in his car, and whoever was helping him with the flats not having a phone nor the tire shop letting him use their phone who was probably closed on the holiday weekend.

Oh well his loss:)
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i usually suspect lies when someone gives detail for no reason


"hey bro my car got fucked up, sorry i couldnt make it, my phone was fucked up too i feel really bad"

then when u ask him what happened he tells u the story

"sorry bro, i was driving on I-294, and i swerved out of the way of this asshole and hit a tack on the road and it popped my tire and then didnt even stick in the tire and popped the tire directly behind it, so basically i got 2 fuckin flat tires, and walked to the place and he was being such an ass about letting me use the phone"


BUT, if his first impulse is to be all "hey sorry i couldnt make it i got 2 flat tires"

and just uncomfortably throws in a random detail, into a breif explination, i always suspect somethings fishy,
 
i used to get worked over by a long lost cousin all the time. he'd flake out on my at random, had the balls to ask me to be in his wedding and pulled the same shit. it resulted in me not going. cut ties with another friend before that. she was the type of chick that was a social floater. always went places uninvited, no one liked her etc. yeah i felt horrible for cutting them off but i'm better off now!

if you ever get the feeling that you're being used in a friendship. then its NOT a friendship period!

send him a text that he was going to get drafted to your fantasy friends team but he didn't make the cut.
 
mustang_00 said:
i used to get worked over by a long lost cousin all the time. he'd flake out on my at random, had the balls to ask me to be in his wedding and pulled the same shit. it resulted in me not going. cut ties with another friend before that. she was the type of chick that was a social floater. always went places uninvited, no one liked her etc. yeah i felt horrible for cutting them off but i'm better off now!

if you ever get the feeling that you're being used in a friendship. then its NOT a friendship period!

send him a text that he was going to get drafted to your fantasy friends team but he didn't make the cut.
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this is the shitty thing.

when you care enough about a friend to get fucked over more than once its hard to cut them off. almost feels like breaking up. especially if they are in your social circle and u still have to see them regularly.

"oh hey let me get in on that ill pay ya back"

"uhm but u already owe me 100"

i threatened to beat up everyone in a room if they passed the blunt to one kid, who left me at the airport and owed me lota money. instead i just sat on the pot until other people in the room gave me money on his behalf. i felt like a gay tool, it wasnt about the money so much as me refusing to spot him and i didnt even invite him along anyways just tagged the fuck along
 
Doesn't sound like a friend
He needs to straighten himself up
I just got back together with a HS buddy, we have been going fishing every weekend since May. I'm now starting to realize again why I didn't hang out with this DB anymore.
Only problem is he has the boat. I'm scouring CL as we speak for a Bass boat :chomp:
 
I mean partying (coke/weed/pills) is more important to this guy than seeing his own children. So where does a supposed friend who doesn't give out anymore freebee's fall into? Like I said after i quit the weed and am no longer rollin blunts of dank dude has been coming around WAY WAY less often. Plus everyday I'm finding out more and more negative shit about the DB. So good riddance.
 
Sub-Zero said:
this is the shitty thing.

when you care enough about a friend to get fucked over more than once its hard to cut them off. almost feels like breaking up. especially if they are in your social circle and u still have to see them regularly.

"oh hey let me get in on that ill pay ya back"

"uhm but u already owe me 100"

i threatened to beat up everyone in a room if they passed the blunt to one kid, who left me at the airport and owed me lota money. instead i just sat on the pot until other people in the room gave me money on his behalf. i felt like a gay tool, it wasnt about the money so much as me refusing to spot him and i didnt even invite him along anyways just tagged the fuck along
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i saw him 3 weeks after the wedding. they rolled back into town after the honeymoon to say bye to their parents. i had no idea he was back.

i almost get side swiped off the highway by his moms SUV. i'm like WTF!? so she rolls down the window (pissed off red face) i roll mine down. she starts yelling "OH YOU WANT TO SEE HIM NOW?" i had no idea what the fuck she was talking about until i saw his face. the cock sucker was ducked down hiding behind her shoulder like a bitch. so i yell back "you're gonna get your sons ass kicked" caught her off guard cause her jaw dropped and she drastically slowed down.

that was back in july 09. he called me new years day cause he came back down. ditched me out yet again. got a call from his wife. i knew her before he did but we weren't really good friends. we just had mutual friends. she apologized for the wedding and everything else. turns out he never told anyone that he asked me to be in it. she found out threw his sister about it all.

in all honesty once you get the negative people/users out of your life. it's refreshing/relieving. you can feel yourself becoming happier without the baggage.
 
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