My theory is that if you feel that you deserve better respect and consideration from the friend, you probably DO. If you want to try to save it, give him some rules that are the basics you need, and if he can't go by them, he's gone. For me, lying (or any kind of deception) is a deal breaker with any relationship; whether friend, business, or female. Promising that they're going to do something and then not doing it, can be either just blowing you off, or it can be a personality disorder whereby they always want to please, and promise WAY more than they could ever do. That's not as bad, but the result is the same.
well i was talking over with the wife and she says i should just ignore dude. he only comes by if he needs something or it benefits him in some way. she also gets pissed when he brings his kid by and doesn't watch him at all. if we don't keep an eye on his kid the kid will trash whatever room he decides to go into. the more i think about it the easier it is just to ignore the DB and move on.
well i was talking over with the wife and she says i should just ignore dude. he only comes by if he needs something or it benefits him in some way. she also gets pissed when he brings his kid by and doesn't watch him at all. if we don't keep an eye on his kid the kid will trash whatever room he decides to go into. the more i think about it the easier it is just to ignore the DB and move on.
just take him on a long drive out into the country, stop to use the restroom, then when he goes in the gas station to get something, drive up wit ur middle finger in the air
just take him on a long drive out into the country, stop to use the restroom, then when he goes in the gas station to get something, drive up wit ur middle finger in the air
Well the truth comes out amongst another mutual friend. Dude missed the draft because he was wasted on xanies for 2 day and was ignoring the phone calls. So much for his 2 flat tires, leaving his phone in his car, and whoever was helping him with the flats not having a phone nor the tire shop letting him use their phone who was probably closed on the holiday weekend.
Well the truth comes out amongst another mutual friend. Dude missed the draft because he was wasted on xanies for 2 day and was ignoring the phone calls. So much for his 2 flat tires, leaving his phone in his car, and whoever was helping him with the flats not having a phone nor the tire shop letting him use their phone who was probably closed on the holiday weekend.
i usually suspect lies when someone gives detail for no reason
"hey bro my car got fucked up, sorry i couldnt make it, my phone was fucked up too i feel really bad"
then when u ask him what happened he tells u the story
"sorry bro, i was driving on I-294, and i swerved out of the way of this asshole and hit a tack on the road and it popped my tire and then didnt even stick in the tire and popped the tire directly behind it, so basically i got 2 fuckin flat tires, and walked to the place and he was being such an ass about letting me use the phone"
BUT, if his first impulse is to be all "hey sorry i couldnt make it i got 2 flat tires"
and just uncomfortably throws in a random detail, into a breif explination, i always suspect somethings fishy,
i used to get worked over by a long lost cousin all the time. he'd flake out on my at random, had the balls to ask me to be in his wedding and pulled the same shit. it resulted in me not going. cut ties with another friend before that. she was the type of chick that was a social floater. always went places uninvited, no one liked her etc. yeah i felt horrible for cutting them off but i'm better off now!
if you ever get the feeling that you're being used in a friendship. then its NOT a friendship period!
send him a text that he was going to get drafted to your fantasy friends team but he didn't make the cut.