Are you misunderstood?

[bigmann245]

Interesting, I've been chastized/questioned as to why I am so "in-your-face-take-me-or-leave-me-but-this-is-reality-regardless" with everyone I meet. They asked what could I hope to gain from such brutal honesty as it would most certainly turn a number of people off. The above reason is EXACTLY what I have avoided my entire life...

When I was younger, I had no backbone, so I tried so hard to mold to what I THOUGHT was expected of me - to please my partner. But that sorta backfired when nothing I did was good enough, I was always "in trouble" for something. Then when I said, "Fuck this" and started doing whatever I wanted as at least this way, I would be happy to a certain degree I was told that I had changed.

Huh?

Well I learned BIGTIME.

My husband knew the score before we ever went on a date... People still find my brutal honesty shocking. You would think they would find it refreshing.

yes it is refreshing... thats how i am. im a "take me or leave me" type of guy... i dont play games and beat around the bush. when my wife and i were separated i dated this one girl who always had me guessing how she felt or thought. she told someone else the reason we didnt workout is because i dont play the game. sorry but im 33 years old and even when i was 17 i didnt play those games. if you like me tell me, if not tell me....

 

[the_oak]

I am rarely misunderstood,
I walk my own path, listen carefully, speak infrequently and softly.
(It helps that my voice sounds like Sam Elliott)

 

[dps1822]

alot of people think i am a bitch and would come at me as if I was one...so I started to act like one.

 

[Cutiebaby]

I am always misunderstood.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Men dont want fronts or fake pleasers, but men also dont want "in your face" type women.

Not true about ALL men, only about MOST men, but then again, I didn't WANT "most" men. I was looking for exceptional and rare and didn't change a DAMNED THING... and then whaddaya think happened?

I FOUND HIM!!!

That's why I tell people who are exceptional and rare never to compromise themselves as it would stand to reason their counter part will be equally exceptional and rare.... no?

 

[cindylou]

that reminds me

my sis isnt her true self

i found her myspace page and she passes off pics of me as herself

she lied on her blog about a restaurant we were going to - she made it sounds like it was a cooler more hipper place to be - i thought that was a weird thing to lie about the place we were going was fine

people are fucking weird.

 

[all the whey]

Fine... I'll participate.

I'm not misunderstood, I AM a jackass. I didn't always use to be this way, I use to be very kind and warmhearted, but scandalous WOMEN and Asian drivers turned me into an ass.

fixed it for you buddy!

 

[biteme]

that reminds me

my sis isnt her true self

i found her myspace page and she passes off pics of me as herself

she lied on her blog about a restaurant we were going to - she made it sounds like it was a cooler more hipper place to be - i thought that was a weird thing to lie about the place we were going was fine

people are fucking weird.

I should hook her up with my friend. She can tell him that she's young, very rich and beautiful and that she wants to marry him even though she's never met him and he's been married 3 times... She can tell him that she'll pay his child support for him too... He'll fall for it because he has an overinflated opinion of himself. He's mad at me for making fun of him. I was just giving him a dose of his own medicine. Must have been bitter.

 

[-SD-]

Not true about ALL men, only about MOST men, but then again, I didn't WANT "most" men. I was looking for exceptional and rare and didn't change a DAMNED THING... and then whaddaya think happened?

I FOUND HIM!!!

That's why I tell people who are exceptional and rare never to compromise themselves as it would stand to reason their counter part will be equally exceptional and rare.... no?

People have their own definitions of what is an exceptional woman or man, but of course the point is to not compromise what you want in that definition. I happen to like lower key and women with "sweet" personalities, not women who are in my face about everything. Ive compromised that before and doesnt work......for me.

 

[Bikini Mod]

People have their own definitions of what is an exceptional woman or man, but of course the point is to not compromise what you want in that definition. I happen to like lower key and women with "sweet" personalities, not women who are in my face about everything. Ive compromised that before and doesnt work......for me.

Feel you 100%.

I KNOW I am waaaaaay too over the top for most people, forget men. Interesting though, I find so many people that happily *take* my energy, it's very draining. Why I often want to be alone and to myself.

I AM incredibly sweet and charming, but I do have a very quick wit and won't hesitate to mentally spar/verbally fence as I do enjoy it so much <--- that is what I think scare most men. (Admittedly I don't give women NEARLY as much guff.) For those men who found this to be engaging and enjoyable as well, we were a PERFECT fit, at least in that regard.

Ironically when we are out, it is The Old Grump that is the attention whore. LOL He can't go ANYWHERE without engaging someone in a conversation. Me, I just sit back and enjoy the show.