Are you misunderstood?

[calveless wonder]

I was thinking about this recently....

The image and style i've created for myself have only perpetuated this.
Since i was young i always wanted to "appear" a certain way and have acheived that, but the impression people get of me initially is certainly not the one i wanted.

I've molded myself into someone who is in good shape (bodybuilder ish bc of my traps, but not huge), dresses well and has style, and is decently good looking. You think this would be a good thing...but i feel like people prejudge me as kind of a cocky prick, or arrogant or unapproachable, or superficial.
I feel this is especially true in certain environments that are not as..i dunno trendy or whatever. Doesn't help that i am very sarcastic and while i could be completely joking with good intentions, people interpret that as the above. I actually have to be careful with that when i first meet somebody....

Once people get to know me they realize it's not really the case....and that i'm very charismatic, intelligent, deep, laid back and a caring/good person...but it is annoying.I can kinda understand now why girls who "appear" bitchy, often because they look a certain way or very attractive, complain about the same thing.

does anyone feel like this? Do you kinda fit your mold? or no?

 

[puddlemonkey]

stfu

 

[calveless wonder]

stfu

thanks dickhead. set a great tone for this thread

 

[puddlemonkey]

 

[chazk]

cavless we often try and shape ourselfs into what we want to be or what we think we should be. The personality always existed from the start but the body is just changed to fit what WE think it should be or want it to be to match our personalities
If a girl is a bitch she shapes her self into a bitch via clothes, makeup and the way she puts herself out to others.

If a guy is skinny and shapes himself into a bodybuilder , he is exactly as he was supposed to act but now he can just be himself in his new body and the whole thing finally fits " the complete transformation " or in otherwards finding yourself..
hence you're personality made you lift weighs it is what you always were , it was your personality that allowed you to become bigger. A skinny guy never gets big becuase his personality is that of a skinny person

 

[puddlemonkey]

Fine... I'll participate.

I'm not misunderstood, I AM a jackass. I didn't always use to be this way, I use to be very kind and warmhearted, but scandalous people and Asian drivers turned me into an ass.

 

[calveless wonder]

cavless we often shape ourselfs into what we want to be. The personality always existed from the start.
If a girl is a bitch she shapes her self into a bitch via clothes, makeup and the way she puts herself out to others.

If a guy is skinny and shapes himself into a bodybuilder , he is exactly as he was supposed to act but now he can just be himself in his new body and the whole thing finally fits " the complete transformation " or in otherwards finding yourself..

that mentality is why people are misunderstood. they think because they appear a certain way...they are the stereotype of it.

maybe the girl just likes the clothes
maybe the guy just likes to be jacked

the really down to earth, beautiful girls i've dated or have been friends with have complained about the above. they have a hard time with people being real and genuine around them...or understanding them. some don't intend it that way but it just works out that.

for guys its different, but in some ways the same. not saying i'm amazing looking or freakish etc in the case of the above but i notice people treat me a certain way before they get to know me...which is the complete opposite of my true personality and demeanor. It takes a good while before someone understands what i'm about and i usually have to go out of my way....that is what i'm referring to.

 

[chazk]

that mentality is why people are misunderstood. they think because they appear a certain way...they are the stereotype of it.

maybe the girl just likes the clothes
maybe the guy just likes to be jacked

the really down to earth, beautiful girls i've dated or have been friends with have complained about the above. they have a hard time with people being real and genuine around them...or understanding them. some don't intend it that way but it just works out that.

for guys its different, but in some ways the same. not saying i'm amazing looking or anything in the case of the above but i notice people treat me a certain way before they get to know me...which is the complete opposite of my true personality and demeanor.

No stereo types I never said how a bitch acts or dresses did i? Did I say guys with a build are arrogant ? No..
Look deeper inside of the situation you are in.
YOU only percieve people are stereo typing you . Why ? becuase you choose to lift weights and be bigger then a normal person... so are you still a normal person now ? You are still the same person that was inside the smaller body.
Not everyone stereo types people. THE ONLY PERSON STEREO TYPING YOU IS YOU.
be yourself and you will not have a problem. If you are a asshole or a nice guy does not matter the point is just be you

 

[puddlemonkey]

Not everyone stereo types people.

Its human nature.

 

[Lumberg]

Whatever you perceive is a reflection of yourself.