Anybody with commitment issues here?

[princesa]

I'm the opposite, I tend to overcommitt and then don't follow through.

If I did that, I feel that I'd be setting myself up for failure. If I don't give too much of myself than I wouldn't lose anything (get hurt?)
makes sense?

 

[chris302001]

God told him to say it.

 

[calveless wonder]

If I did that, I feel that I'd be setting myself up for failure. If I don't give too much of myself than I wouldn't lose anything (get hurt?)
makes sense?

I meant in life, although I've done that in established relationships once or twice (ie promise more than I can give or end up giving )

Anyways, that whole shell mentality will lead you nowhere. It's like business people that are afraid to take risks. Sure they need to be calculated, but you can't just shut everything down.

I have the shell problem too, but for the most part I don't really give a shit enough about most people to let them in. The people that know me, know me.

 

[princesa]

God told him to say it.

I think it was Jesus in a red corvete

 

[lartinos]

Do you have serious trust issues with men? Have you ever been truly happy and secure in a relationship? How did that end?

 

[miplank]

Yeah but that wouldn't get him in though

I dunno he's got you thinking

 

[jiggagold]

Every girl who gets drunk and fondles men blames it on the roofie. Typical breezy statement.

 

[princesa]

I meant in life, although I've done that in established relationships once or twice (ie promise more than I can give or end up giving )

Anyways, that whole shell mentality will lead you nowhere. It's like business people that are afraid to take risks. Sure they need to be calculated, but you can't just shut everything down.

I have the shell problem too, but for the most part I don't really give a shit enough about most people to let them in. The people that know me, know me.

Exactly!

Men and relationships haven't been a priority for quiet some time now. When you are used to certain ways it gets harder to let people in. ( I think you can relate here)
I'd consider it only if I was WOW'd- anything less it's not worth the time. When was the last time you were WOW'd? But, I'm trying to keep an open mind and give people a chance.

 

[princesa]

Every girl who gets drunk and fondles men blames it on the roofie. Typical breezy statement.

1. I'm not your Every Girl okay? get that straight

2. I'm telling you I was drugged. It wasn't my first time drinking alcohol, pretty sure I know the difference.

3. If I wanted to make out with someone, I would do it/say it. Wouldn't be ashamed of it and certainly wouldn't use the alcohol excuse.

mkay

 

[jiggagold]

you did use it as an excuse, i doubt you were drugged for a make out session, its obvious you have a connection with this dude and are afraid of committing to him