Am I being an ass w/ my wife?

[heatherrae]

well, the way my wife and I agreed to is that certain chores are hers and certain ones are mine. We split them half and half. But, since I really hate to see dishes in the sink, and she would wait until the sink was half full before putting them in the dishwasher , I made a pact with her that as soon as you finish using your cup, plate, whatever, just rinse it off and immediately put it in the dishwasher. And whoever starts the dishwasher, the other puts the dishes up, but about 90% of the time, she'll hear me putting dishes up and she'll come out and help out.

Now, your attitude towards your wife is crap and if you keep thinking this way and treating her this way..not only will you be putting up dishes, but it'll be by yourself. Marriage is a two way street, and yes, I do agree that maybe she could help out more since she is only working part time, but you gotta talk to her not order her around like it was the 60's..

Great response.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Marriage is overrated

 

[Creepusmaximus]

Wow. The level of disrespect to your wife and her feelings is off the charts. No matter what her job is, you don't talk to your wife like she is worthless like that. This is about way more than dishes. You don't respect your wife.

Maybe, maybe not. I had to have a little talk with my wife when my first child was born. Up till that point I did most of the house work. First off her grandfather owned a dry cleaning place so literally she had never washed cloths, ironed, folded anything. I've been married to her for 8 years and I still haven't ever seen her use a vacum or a mop. She never cooked a thing in her life. When she stopped breast feeding it was then my complete responsibility to feed the child. Well short story especially with child number two she needed to start doing something. It was completely unfair to me and I had enough of her slack ass ways.

 

[puddlemonkey]

It was nice knowing you creepus

 

[Smurfy]

wife and I get into a blowout fight earlier. It started because she was bitching about the dishes I left in the sink. I work a job that requires me to be gone 2-3 days out of the week, and on the side I am trying to build up a small business. She works 15-20 hrs/wk at some half ass job as an assistant to some realtor, obviously isn't that busy since she calls me about 3x within the 3-4 hrs she has to work each morning. Well, I've tried to make it clear several times that if she is content with making jack shit and being home all the time then I don't give a fuck if the mess is mine or not, she cleans it. I run on empty a lot, often sleep deprived. I try to take care of the financial end of things, I dont give a fuck if all the dishes are mine, she's doing em!! And when she wants to go get a real f/t job maybe I'll start doing more. Am I wrong guys?

sounds contentious (you ordering her to clean dishes)

 

[heatherrae]

Maybe, maybe not. I had to have a little talk with my wife when my first child was born. Up till that point I did most of the house work. First off her grandfather owned a dry cleaning place so literally she had never washed cloths, ironed, folded anything. I've been married to her for 8 years and I still haven't ever seen her use a vacum or a mop. She never cooked a thing in her life. When she stopped breast feeding it was then my complete responsibility to feed the child. Well short story especially with child number two she needed to start doing something. It was completely unfair to me and I had enough of her slack ass ways.

I'll admit I hate housework and would like to find a guy who is neat and doesn't mind helping, especially with cleaning floors and bathrooms.

I would do ALL the child rearing, cooking, and laundry if I could find someone to do the other parts.

 

[Lestat]

great thread!!

 

[puddlemonkey]

I would do ALL the child rearing

What are you doing to that childs rear?

 

[heatherrae]

What are you doing to that childs rear?

Just wiping and diapering it...lol.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Did you want a wife or a maid?