100% agreed. That is why I always say that LIKE is so much more important than *love*. In the beginning none of us REALLY knows what love is. We really get married because of sexual attraction.
You gotta still have something to talk about long after the sheets stop rustling as life has many ways of taking that aspect of marriage.
Like
Respect
and
Common Life Goals
If any one of these three components is missing the union is doomed to failure.
I do applaud you for your dedication Army Vet and hope that you and your wife find a way to resolve these issues and that your family remains intact and HAPPY.
Love should include like. And respect. Or it's just not love, in my eyes.
Common life goals is the one area I think good matches in other areas fail - but it is OH SO CRUCIAL to the survival of a relationship.