yet another dating question. WHAT WOULD YOU DO

[superqt4u2nv]

That "connection" is next to impossible to find I mean really connecting on every level is rare and I would opt for the "connection."

 

[psilan]

In the words of Devin the Dude,
If you risk yo fa sho pussy to get some mo' pussy, you'll end up with no pussy. I'd stay with the "fa sho" pussy, unless the other chick is extremely hot.

 

[DIVISION]

In the words of Devin the Dude,
If you risk yo fa sho pussy to get some mo' pussy, you'll end up with no pussy. I'd stay with the "fa sho" pussy, unless the other chick is extremely hot.

^^^don't listen to this guy......

not only does he have RED KARMA up the ass, but he listens to Devin the Dude.......that's like taking your relationship advice from DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince of Bel Air.....

Don't be that guy......




DIV

 

[MsBeverlyHills]

Hi.

Suppose you've been seeing someone about...let's say 4 months. You're exclusive with each other, but not engaged yet...in fact, those conversations have not even yet occured.

4 months + no ring = no commitment in my book.

i would tell her you need some "space" or some "time alone" & than date the other gal.

good luck.

 

[DIVISION]

4 months + no ring = no commitment in my book.

What a trip!

From now I think I'll do that, make the female buy me a ring......




DIV

 

[GoldenDelicious]

what would i do? make a decision based on the feelings i have that cannot possibly be expressed in mere english, on a message board

go with the woman that makes you feel joy when you imagine being old, gray and smelly with in 30 years.

whatever you do, though, do it with class and respect; 4 months of being physical isnt meaningless, so respect her feelings if you break it off with her - but at the same time, dont let feelings of guilt or pity affect your decision.

my gut feeling from this and your previous relationship post is that youre not in the right frame of mind to make a decision on a long term partner. you seem hesitant, and trying to find your way using logic, rather than following the warm feeling you get when you really like someone

next time youre confused, just ask yourself: "what would BBF do?"...and do something else

 

[DIVISION]

next time youre confused, just ask yourself: "what would BBF do?"...and do something else

More succinctly, next time you're confused, just ask yourself: "what would BBF do?: .....and do the exact opposite.

and I mean that! THE EXACT OPPOSITE!



DIV

 

[GoldenDelicious]

More succinctly, next time you're confused, just ask yourself: "what would BBF do?: .....and do the exact opposite.

and I mean that! THE EXACT OPPOSITE!



DIV

hey, joke hijacker, go get your own material, would you?

 

[KillahBee]

So......do it on the DL??

Nah, don't listen to me bor. My point was this: don't listen to all this "listen to your heart" crap. to me, a relationship is a MAJOR investment and should be treated as such. yeah, it's not very romantic, but then again, I wouldn't approach any other aspect of my life (finances, work, etc.) by following my heart. Sure, having that spark or connection is extremely important to a successful relationship, but, in my experience, more people get fooled by that initial feeling of excitement, attraction, and "spark" than not. It's actually scary. We have all bought into the whole fairytale about relationships that we completely ignore common sense because it's much more romantic to just follow your heart. My point was that you need to find a way to see if this other girl is for you, and not just the result of that initial attraction, when our natural animalistic behaviors take over our human thought patterns and abilities. But, ideally, you would do this without losing your current girl, so that you are safeguarded against losing both. Much easier said than done. Also, you obviously don't want to hurt your current girl.

 

[Forge]

I think the whole concept of "the one" only stands to be perceived as real when the relationship continues to be healthy and positive.

When the relationship starts to sour and dies "the one" becomes "that F-ing bastard" and "money grubing whore".

It's all about perception.

I have to agree with Velvett here. There isn't just "one" person for each of us in this life, we can make it work with many types of people as long as we are willing to make it work. When you stop working on the relationship, it goes sour. Most breakups / divorces happen because one half of the couple simply stopped trying.

Matt, pick whichever one you want to be with, it's that simple.