WTF do men want?

[ChefWide]

I bought Mrs. Digger an iPod because the $60 MP3 players we bought her kept breaking.

She won't touch it because she's "afraid she'll break it."

Words cannot express how upset we both got over this -- she's upset because of my extravagance (this was a "don't buy me a birthday present" present), and I'm upset because I really wanted her to enjoy it.

I got the couch for exactly that type of silliness. Got her an antique mantle clock that she has wanted for years only to get hell for it.

So the next year, I promissed not to make a big deal out of it, I snuck out with the boys to my office for two saturdays in a row and we folded an origami vase, and four sick as hell origami flowers in 4 different sizes (one for each of us guys) and made paper ferns to fill out the vase. Killer present, no money.

'You guys did all that for me. You said you weren't going to make a big deal out of it this year....'

I caught hell AGAIN! I can't win. What the hell does she want from me? A mediocre cheap present with no forthought?

 

[toga22]

I understand why you returned the gift...it can be a very uncomfortable situation to receive a very expensive gift, especially if you know that you may not be able to return a gift that is as exquisite.

But on the other hand, you have to put yourself in his shoes... He took the time to go out and select a present that he thought was just perfect for you. And because it was not any special occasion (aka b-day, anniversay) he had no expectation of a return gift...his only motivation was to see the expression of delight on your face and a Thank You. (and then possibly a blow-job ) But he bought the present to make you happy, and it made him feel good about himself to give it too you...

 

[Dial_tone]

If it's that expensive a bj won't do......ole DT is expecting bareback butt love.

 

[Werd]

I am at a loss here.

Men go on and on about how women are golddigging bitches, blah, blah, blah...

I DIDNT ASK FOR AND NEITHER DO I WANT EXPENSIVE GIFTS.

The guy said some things that were out of line (and he knew it) he raised his voice to me *a tad* - we were both understress and I did the only thing that felt right - gave the expensive gift back.

I am not a gold digger. I pay my own bills.

I also explained quite delicately and effectively that I love HIM and not his money. PERIOD. I would constantly thank him for how well he treats me and tell him how much I love him and how glad I am that he loves ME and my kids.

How ON EARTH could anyone wrap so much emotion into a MATERIAL THING?!

IT WAS A THING THAT HE PURCHASED IN THE STORE! HELLO!!!!!

He said that he understood and even laughed at me a bit on the phone and said, "It was a gift FOR YOU and you can NOT return it.... YOU HAVE ME AND THE 'STUFF'" Now go to sleep LOL... we will talk in the morning.

Then I wake to a cold email. I mean BAD - OUT OF THE FUCKING BLUE.

BECAUSE I WOULDNT ACCEPT HIM BEING MEAN TO ME FOR A FRUSTRATING SITCH BROUGHT ON BY HIM NOT TELLING ME THAT HE NEEDED QUIET IN ORDER TO GET SOME WORK DONE THAT HE NEEDED TO DO UNDER A DEADLINE?!?!?!... I DESERVE TO BE BITCHED OUT?....

Men are the one with mental problems.

I am the ULTIMATELY NON-GOLD DIGGER as faithful as a fucking sheepdog - loving till the bitter end - and STILL.... I fucked up?!

*shakes head*


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(Yes, I am more than just a bit frustrated here as I am getting many different messages from peeps about this. Honestly I am FLOORED at the replies here.)




And as for being sexually satisfied - I am BEYOND.

And though the gift was VERY expensive to him it was not such a big expenditure so let us put it in perspective.

 

[Werd]

PS - it WAS a special occasion.

It was my birthday.

I didn't return the gift until one week later when he was mean to me.

 

[Y_lifter]

You love his money.... Don't give us BS otherwise...

Everyone wants to be financially stable.. Even Non Gold diggers.

Accepting a gift does not make one a gold digger..
Expecting one does.

 

[MrMuscle]

Jesus christ lady, it was a GIFT! He didnt say that "you cant take care of yourself financially, so i buy you stuff" he said "i love you and want you to have this". Get over your "im an independant woman" thing and take things for what they are.

 

[Werd]

Code - he was getting mad crazy sex BEFORE the gift and was continuing well AFTER.

I have a crazy drive and the more deeply in love I am, the more crazy unbridled sex there is...

There were NO complaints in that department.

See I do not equate material things with love. Obviously he did and so do many others.

 

[Dial_tone]

Accepting a gift does not make one a gold digger..
Expecting one does.

ALERT THE MEDIA. I agree with you for once.

I didn't return the gift until one week later when he was mean to me.

That makes it vindictive...don't mix one situation with another. Take the gift.

 

[KillahBee]

Please note this thread as the reason why I refuse to date any longer. Thank you and good day.