Why cant I ever hold a darn grudge?

[heatherrae]

My stepmom apologized and said she was just nervous for me and brought me a bunch of baby stuff over. All my anger immediately dissipated and I made us all breakfast. It was hugs all around. I just CANT for the life of me stay mad at anyone, ever. Damn, I'm such a WIMP.

 

[H_T_]

big fat women hormones.

 

[heatherrae]

big fat women hormones.

except against you. I hate me some human target...lol.

 

[jack sparrow]

Wimp.

 

[heatherrae]

Wimp.

I know, right? I gotta take some gear so I can get some roid rage...lol.

 

[digimon7068]

generally speaking women don't hold grudges very well. . .holding a grudge is stupid and unhealthy. . .women tend to be more sensible. . .

men on the other hand, hold grudges very well. . .it's one of the reasons women tend to live longer. . .

 

[heatherrae]

generally speaking women don't hold grudges very well. . .holding a grudge is stupid and unhealthy. . .women tend to be more sensible. . .

men on the other hand, hold grudges very well. . .it's one of the reasons women tend to live longer. . .

Well, I guess it is a good thing in that I almost never have any enemies for very long. I just tend to believe people when they apologize and can't manage to find any anger left in me after that.

 

[Faizakafez]

the most important question here is what was for breakfast? and did you save me leftovers

 

[swole]

probably because it was stupid to begin with

wait until someone fucks you out of a relative's life, significant money, well-being, or your job

then you'll be able to hold that grudge

 

[jack sparrow]

I know, right? I gotta take some gear so I can get some roid rage...lol.

You just gotta cut them off...no gear needed .

 

[jh1]

What did she do?

 

[all the whey]

So, this means you are no longer harboring any ill fellings toward your ex? And, we don't have to ever hear you bitching about him again?

 

[heatherrae]

So, this means you are no longer harboring any ill fellings toward your ex? And, we don't have to ever hear you bitching about him again?

Actually, I sort of am not mad at him anymore either. I dont know what is wrong with me.

 

[heatherrae]

probably because it was stupid to begin with

wait until someone fucks you out of a relative's life, significant money, well-being, or your job

then you'll be able to hold that grudge

I've had all of that stuff happen before in the past. I still can't stay mad. I swear, there must be something wrong with me.

 

[heatherrae]

the most important question here is what was for breakfast? and did you save me leftovers

I made sausage, biscuits scrambled eggs and alcohol free mimosas.

 

[Faizakafez]

I made sausage, biscuits scrambled eggs and alcohol free mimosas.

soo i assume not leftovers

 

[Nathan]

Oh I can. I'm really good at it actually, but only with the major things. Like lie to me about something important and I will never forgive you. It's not intentional, my brain just loses something for that person and no matter how hard I try, I can't get it back. It's similar with really fucking me over. I can still be around the people but I don't feel the same way about them.

 

[bigmann245]

I've had all of that stuff happen before in the past. I still can't stay mad. I swear, there must be something wrong with me.

there is nothing wrong with you. i do the same shit and it pisses me off. im always the first to appologize even if im right. we are too kind hearted to stay mad at anyone. boy i can get real mad but for that moment only. after a little bit i feel bad and find myself making things better just for the sake of not arguing.

 

[heatherrae]

soo i assume not leftovers

Not today. If you want to come from Toronto, though, I'm sure I would cook for you. We Southern gals are the most hospitable in the world.

 

[Scotsman]

Hate- not so much a desicion as a life style choice.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[Faizakafez]

i guess this would be a good place to insert a 'yeehaw'

 

[vixensghost]

"Tis easier for the generous to forgive,Than for offence to ask it". Thomson

I easily forgive too, HR.

 

[Faizakafez]

yup same here ... ^^^^ i gave one bitch two chances..argghhh

 

[heatherrae]

there is nothing wrong with you. i do the same shit and it pisses me off. im always the first to appologize even if im right. we are too kind hearted to stay mad at anyone. boy i can get real mad but for that moment only. after a little bit i feel bad and find myself making things better just for the sake of not arguing.

I'm the EXACT same way. I will try to find little things I may have done to have contributed and I will say I'm sorry just to smooth the waters. You have never seen a meaner person if you get my mouth going when I'm mad, but it lasts about 30 minutes before I am worn out from being mad and I'm ready to hug and kiss again.

 

[biteme]

My stepmom apologized and said she was just nervous for me and brought me a bunch of baby stuff over. All my anger immediately dissipated and I made us all breakfast. It was hugs all around. I just CANT for the life of me stay mad at anyone, ever. Damn, I'm such a WIMP.

LOL. I like you, I really do, but you're one person I wouldn't want to piss off. All the talk about rat poisoning and killing certain people. No no, don't piss Heather off, she'll come after you.

 

[Bikini Mod]

See I can forgive easily, no problem if the other person is truly sorry. However, that does not mean that I will continue a relationship with them. It only means that I no longer harbor any resentment.

Forgiving and forgetting are not one in the same.

 

[heatherrae]

LOL. I like you, I really do, but you're one person I wouldn't want to piss off. All the talk about rat poisoning and killing certain people. No no, don't piss Heather off, she'll come after you.

Well, you sure as hell don't want to keep getting in my face when I'm angry. I have a wickedly hot temper unless you let me cool off. Some people just don't know how to leave a person alone when they are mad. You probably know the types. You want to just go to your room and cool off and they want to come behind you and keep arguing.

 

[heatherrae]

"Tis easier for the generous to forgive,Than for offence to ask it". Thomson

I easily forgive too, HR.

That is a nice quote. I have never heard that one.

 

[bigmann245]

I'm the EXACT same way. I will try to find little things I may have done to have contributed and I will say I'm sorry just to smooth the waters. You have never seen a meaner person if you get my mouth going when I'm mad, but it lasts about 30 minutes before I am worn out from being mad and I'm ready to hug and kiss again.

exactly, i do that too. i can walk away from an argument and when im cooled down im good. sometimes it confuses the crap out of the other person even if i had every right to be mad. but i know what you mean about while your mad. do not keep poking me when im mad at that moment ill chop your head off, its afterwards where i begin to want to make amends

 

[Bikini Mod]

exactly, i do that too. i can walk away from an argument and when im cooled down im good. sometimes it confuses the crap out of the other person even if i had every right to be mad. but i know what you mean about while your mad. do not keep poking me when im mad at that moment ill chop your head off, its afterwards where i begin to want to make amends

See now my father was an extremely volatile man with a fuse that was like ** this long. He would unleash such obscenities and go into such tyrades and take it out on his family regardless of who pissed him off, then he would calm down and like everything was cool again <--- sorta like what my mother went through during menopause.

And I swore I would NEVER be like that, and I am not.

When I feel that I am beginning to get upset, I leave the room and God help you if you follow me. I will keep leaving and leaving until I am done with being upset and can talk rationally because then I KNOW I will be better able to deal with the conflict at hand.

I absolutely HATE to say hurtfull things because I am angry and rarely do.

 

[biteme]

My temper is like this as well. I can get angry very quickly sometimes, but I don't stay that way unless I really want to kill the person.

 

[Smurfy]

I've had all of that stuff happen before in the past. I still can't stay mad. I swear, there must be something wrong with me.

take two testicles and call me in the morning.

 

[bw1]

big fat women hormones.

LMFAO!!!!!!!

 

[Smurfy]

My temper is like this as well. I can get angry very quickly sometimes, but I don't stay that way unless I really want to kill the person.

volatile

 

[Jon79]

u still hate me for that thing

 

[Sub-Zero]

i dont stay mad at people, i just let them know right when they piss me off and am sure to let them know.

sometimes ill pretend to get pissed to keep the lil faggots on edge

 

[covergrl80]

are you Italian?

 

[Gymgurl]

Life is way to short and somethings are just not worth it.....

 

[Jon79]

i dont stay mad at people, i just let them know right when they piss me off and am sure to let them know.

sometimes ill pretend to get pissed to keep the lil faggots on edge

 

[heatherrae]

are you Italian?

Im Italian, Cherokee, and English. So, I make good red sauce, am a good fighter, and am bossy, I guess...lol.

 

[bigmann245]

See now my father was an extremely volatile man with a fuse that was like ** this long. He would unleash such obscenities and go into such tyrades and take it out on his family regardless of who pissed him off, then he would calm down and like everything was cool again <--- sorta like what my mother went through during menopause.

And I swore I would NEVER be like that, and I am not.

When I feel that I am beginning to get upset, I leave the room and God help you if you follow me. I will keep leaving and leaving until I am done with being upset and can talk rationally because then I KNOW I will be better able to deal with the conflict at hand.

I absolutely HATE to say hurtfull things because I am angry and rarely do.

you see im not mean when i am mad and in an arguement. i admit when im wrong all the time. its something my dad would never do and i swore i would. its when im not wrong and someone is trying to act like im stupid and try and get over on me. i never say anything hatefull or hurtfull. its just when im right and im mad it only takes a little bit and im ready to oppologize even though i didnt do anything wrong. i hate tention.

i will argue my point till there is no end if i truely believe i am right. im not stubborn, if the other person has a good pint i will go their way. its when someone points a finger at me and i know i didnt do anything wrong is where i stand up for myself and dont take shit from anyone.