Why are some people mean?

[biteme]

I have this friend who will never change. He has a mean streak in him and has for the 20 something years that I've known him. Been thru 3 marriages, I can only be around him for so long without wanting to strangle him, but I know he loves me and considers me his best friend ever. He's truly Jekyl and Hyde and I just don't get it.

 

[mountain muscle]

I still have that mean streak in me, I couldn't explain it to you brother. Most;y just mellow now though.

 

[calveless wonder]

it always stems from unhappiness and low self esteem.

hormones obviously play a role in this too....

people with high self esteem usually are the most caring and considerate people around.

people that can't let go of the past or mistakes or blame others for where they are in life..those are the peopel who are usually fucked up.

i know for a fact before i was exposed to certain people and situations, i was a much warmer and nice person.

 

[biteme]

I still have that mean streak in me, I couldn't explain it to you brother. Most;y just mellow now though.

With him, I think maybe it's little man syndrome as he's only about 5'4" and still claims that he's gotten taller so therefore I know his height is very bothersome to him. He does shit like try to embarrass you in front of other people thinking that it's funny, but it's anything but funny and he's been told that numerous times. He was very cruel to his first wife.

 

[Jon79]

im mean as fuck bc my life sucks and im 30 and i have nothing to show for it an no one loves me but my mommy

 

[biteme]

it always stems from unhappiness and low self esteem.

hormones obviously play a role in this too....

people with high self esteem usually are the most caring and considerate people around.

people that can't let go of the past or mistakes or blame others for where they are in life..those are the peopel who are usually fucked up.

i know for a fact before i was exposed to certain people and situations, i was a much warmer and nice person.

He can be the most caring and considerate person at times, then he turns into the jackass that he so often is. None of my other friends like him.

 

[calveless wonder]

He can be the most caring and considerate person at times, then he turns into the jackass that he so often is. None of my other friends like him.

the fact he's been married 3 times is a pretty good indicator. i'm sure that has alot to do with his misery.

miserable people are mean, period.

with your friend, sounds like he's got some goodness in him....and it comes out in spurts, but overall his self loathing probably contributes to his other behavior

 

[biteme]

He introduced me to both of my wives. Yet I don't want to talk to him for about a year. He's a jerk and he's never gonna change. Now he will have noone to cry to the next time a woman breaks his heart.

 

[mountain muscle]

He introduced me to both of my wives. Yet I don't want to talk to him for about a year. He's a jerk and he's never gonna change. Now he will have noone to cry to the next time a woman breaks his heart.

Forget him b, sounds like troulr to mr.

 

[Jon79]

it always stems from unhappiness and low self esteem.

hormones obviously play a role in this too....

people with high self esteem usually are the most caring and considerate people around.

people that can't let go of the past or mistakes or blame others for where they are in life..those are the peopel who are usually fucked up.

i know for a fact before i was exposed to certain people and situations, i was a much warmer and nice person.

yea letting go of the past gets me but i quit blaming others

i really don't have low self esteem ...im just been beat up thats all