When punishing kids --- go wrong

[hanselthecaretaker]

You'll know everything about raising kids right up until you have one of your own giving you problems.

The right thing to do is be involved, discipline them, and teach them how to function. Their job is to test you and see where the boundaries are and if you really mean what you say. If you teach them to face up to their problems and be responsible for screw-ups they'll turn out fine. It doesn't mean they'll never test you.

+ 1 billion, case closed. No I don't have kids (yet).

 

[BNG]

Don't you need the interwebs for college these days? That may be overkill.

Yes you do. But so far this year I've seen him do homework exactly once, and have yet to catch him doing anything OTHER than playing WOW. I've gone to bed at midnight during the week and got up at four in the am for work to find him still on it..

 

[Bikini Mod]

You'll know everything about raising kids right up until you have one of your own giving you problems. LOL how freaking true!!

The right thing to do is be involved, discipline them, and teach them how to function.

Their job is to test you and see where the boundaries are and if you really mean what you say.

If you teach them to face up to their problems and be responsible for screw-ups they'll turn out fine.

It doesn't mean they'll never test you.

Best post ever.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Yes you do. But so far this year I've seen him do homework exactly once, and have yet to catch him doing anything OTHER than playing WOW. I've gone to bed at midnight during the week and got up at four in the am for work to find him still on it..

Oh shit you've got a problem on your hands. I love videogames but that one is bad news, because it's not just a videogame; it's a social network built into a game, which can overtake people's real lives very easily if they don't have enough structure.

 

[mrplunkey]

Oh shit you've got a problem on your hands. I love videogames but that one is bad news, because it's not just a videogame; it's a social network built into a game, which can overtake people's real lives very easily if they don't have enough structure.

+1

MMORPG games can be immersive and the social networks the are generated from them are quite strong.

- Imagine something as socially "sticky" as EF.

- But then give the common goals they can only obtain by working in groups. Animosity between groups crops-up too, because sometimes their goals are competitive. So the social bonds grow even stronger.

- And make the computer program something that works in first-person view, so the computer screen becomes their view and their mouse/keyboard becomes their ability to look and move around.

- Make the reward system progressive too, where gains are made quickly early-on and become increasingly difficult to obtain. Think about lifting weights.

Long story short -- be careful with those types of games. I'm not a big fan of them when it comes to children.

 

[ponyfitness]

Hate to bring this up but they found the kids' body. Suspicions are he got picked up by a pedo he met online.

Police find body matching description of missing teen | Sympatico / MSN News

Sad but maybe if he wasn't online playing video games all of the time none of this would have happened. I can't imagine how his father feels.

 

[Razorguns]

Yes.

Remember all who said his dad was right for taking his xbox away AND HELPING HIM LEAVE THE HOUSE. (father of the year candidate). Because you know, it's better if he's outside joining gangs, doign drugs then inside playing video games...

Well, now kid is dead. I'm sure the parents still feel they should've kicked him out.

As for blaming video games - if the dad had taken away his guitar because he was playing guitar all day - would it have made a difference???

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Yes parents. When junior gets angry and wants to runaway - be sure to pack his backpack and help him leave. That'll teach him!

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[bigmann245]

He's in the 10th grade. He's probably just at a friends house. 10th grade is too old for the pedos...lol.

how in the world do you know that?????

 

[musclemom]

Tell you what, Razor, you have kids, let them hit puberty, then talk.

One of the biggest things you learn as a parent is that, after a certain age, it's about the choices your kid makes. Father says put away the XBox, kid says no, shit goes downhill from there. Who fucked up, the kid for disobeying the father or the father for saying "My house, my rules, follow them or you're welcome to leave." Some kids develop an unhealthy attachment to those disgusting video games to the point they let everything go to hell in a handcart, they have no social life, they stay up all night long playing them and school drops into the toilet. What the hell is a parent to do? Go "that's nice son, you go kill those bad guys, I guess a D- in English Lit. is the price we pay."

As a parent, when your under aged kid threatens to run away, you expect their asses to head to a friend's house, lay low for a few hours, then come skulking home with their tail between their legs around 10:00 p.m. and apologize and accept their punishment, not call some fucking stranger they hooked up with on the internet.

And as a parent you have the responsibility to enforce the rules of your home. While what happened is awful, I still can't fault the father, I'm just sorry he waited so long to enforce house rules and the results were so disastrous.

IMHO, video games are foul, nasty things and should not be in a household with children, period. Like cigarettes, they should have a warning label and nobody under 18 should be able to play/buy them.

 

[chazk]

Tell you what, Razor, you have kids, let them hit puberty, then talk.

One of the biggest things you learn as a parent is that, after a certain age, it's about the choices your kid makes. Father says put away the XBox, kid says no, shit goes downhill from there. Who fucked up, the kid for disobeying the father or the father for saying "My house, my rules, follow them or you're welcome to leave." Some kids develop an unhealthy attachment to those disgusting video games to the point they let everything go to hell in a handcart, they have no social life, they stay up all night long playing them and school drops into the toilet. What the hell is a parent to do? Go "that's nice son, you go kill those bad guys, I guess a D- in English Lit. is the price we pay."

As a parent, when your under aged kid threatens to run away, you expect their asses to head to a friend's house, lay low for a few hours, then come skulking home with their tail between their legs around 10:00 p.m. and apologize and accept their punishment, not call some fucking stranger they hooked up with on the internet.

And as a parent you have the responsibility to enforce the rules of your home. While what happened is awful, I still can't fault the father, I'm just sorry he waited so long to enforce house rules and the results were so disastrous.

IMHO, video games are foul, nasty things and should not be in a household with children, period. Like cigarettes, they should have a warning label and nobody under 18 should be able to play/buy them.

Kids friends lived 30 minutes away , he had no social life playing and chatting with his friends online was his social life.
Kid is a honor student . Dad should not tell his kid to leave the house and run away . He should have simpy said you get a limited time to play the games. Not pack the kids bags and tell him goodbye.