When punishing kids --- go wrong

[fit4sure]

Do you have kids?
Or did you not have parents?
Or is it both?

I know if I pulled what this kid did, I'd be scared to go back. Cause I would have turned getting my Xbox for a couple of days taken away into a severe beating.

And I honestly think that is the right way to handle things. Whoever this kid is doesn't have a healthy sense of fear of his elders.

And the kid would be sleeping in his bed tonight.

But hey, gotta be superdad, throw away the xbox, pack his bags and tell him to go runaway.

Well done. Kids in a ditch, but hey 'i showed him'. Lots of kids in south central l.a. that could benefit from playing xbox all day in their homes btw.

I'd rather my kid play xbox then outside in gangs, how's that?

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[EnderJE]

LOL! I unplugged the internet last night, and it will continue, until my college student either gets it together or moves out and pays for their own life. I'm not going to support laziness!

Let's make this interesting. Let's have them disappear and wind up on the news in a bad way...then let us know how you feel. C'mon! It would be fun!

 

[EnderJE]

Do you have kids?
Or did you not have parents?
Or is it both?

I know if I pulled what this kid did, I'd be scared to go back. Cause I would have turned getting my Xbox for a couple of days taken away into a severe beating.

And I honestly think that is the right way to handle things. Whoever this kid is doesn't have a healthy sense of fear of his elders.

If your son died because of this, would you stick to your guns and say that it was still the right thing to do?

I'm really hoping that you would because it would show consistency.

Alot of people won't and it's easy to act all tough and show the tough love until it impacted them personally. Manners are one thing, but the life of a child is another.

I'm not sure that I would. However, if I were to stick to my guns and say that it's the right thing to do even though it cost the life of my child, then I would assume that there are people on here who would laugh because of it because of the humour of the situation.

 

[goin on 4T]

If your son died because of this, would you stick to your guns and say that it was still the right thing to do?

I'm really hoping that you would because it would show consistency.

Alot of people won't and it's easy to act all tough and show the tough love until it impacted them personally. Manners are one thing, but the life of a child is another.

I'm not sure that I would. However, if I were to stick to my guns and say that it's the right thing to do even though it cost the life of my child, then I would assume that there are people on here who would laugh because of it because of the humour of the situation.

The parent should feel bad regardless do to their poor choices of raising their son! Kid needs to learn. The X-box is not the worst decision the parent has made in regards to their son!

 

[EnderJE]

The parent should feel bad regardless do to their poor choices of raising their son! Kid needs to learn. The X-box is not the worst decision the parent has made in regards to their son!

That's fine that the parent feels bad that they're son turned out bad. But would you rather that the parent be the cause that the kid died?

If you could feel no remorse for the death of your children and felt good about staying the course for their punishment (as trivial as it might be), good for you. Like I said, I couldn't do it if it cost me their lives.

 

[dabuffguy]

That's fine that the parent feels bad that they're son turned out bad. But would you rather that the parent be the cause that the kid died?

If you could feel no remorse for the death of your children and felt good about staying the course for their punishment (as trivial as it might be), good for you. Like I said, I couldn't do it if it cost me their lives.

If, if, if, What if.....blah blah blah


Bottom line, taking the kids XBOX away from him was the right thing to do.

What ever hapened after that has nothing to do with the parents correct action to RIGHTFULLY taking the XBOX away from the kid.

What if the kid then was repenatnt and obedient to his parents request to stop playing XBOX, and went out for the night and still ended up sitting in a ditch dead?

 

[GWizz]

this thread was dumb on page 2.

Im gonna go ahead and unsubscribe now. g'night.

(if i see this on next weeks poll for best thread im gonna freak)

 

[EnderJE]

If, if, if, What if.....blah blah blah


Bottom line, taking the kids XBOX away from him was the right thing to do.

What ever hapened after that has nothing to do with the parents correct action to RIGHTFULLY taking the XBOX away from the kid.

What if the kid then was repenatnt and obedient to his parents request to stop playing XBOX, and went out for the night and still ended up sitting in a ditch dead?

I don't think that we're going to agree on this item. Let's stop here and agree to disagree rather then go back and forth repeating the same things.

If you feel that way and can stick to your guns if it were to happen to you, then good for you.

My only point was that the life of my kids are far more important to me then to 'make a point'.

Does it mean that I'd cave every time there was a conflict? Nope. Does it mean that I'd be a hardass every time? Nope. Like parenting usually is, there's going to be a delicate balance. However, if my son died because of a punishment decision that I made, then I'd feel guilty forever about it.

But like I said, we don't have to agree.

 

[dabuffguy]

I don't think that we're going to agree on this item. Let's stop here and agree to disagree rather then go back and forth repeating the same things.

If you feel that way and can stick to your guns if it were to happen to you, then good for you.

My only point was that the life of my kids are far more important to me then to 'make a point'.


Sure, that's more important, of course. However, the guy didn't know his kid was going to go missing. If that dad knew it would have turned out this way, he would most obviously have just let the kid be and play his game. We can judge it after the event when the consequence has made itself known. Everyone obviously will say "Shame on that dad for taking his XBOX, now he's dead".

If you look at it from the perspective that you don't know what the future holds (I call this being realistic), then any parent would just turn the kids game off and ground him from playing. If the dad had an angel whisper in his ear that his kid would go missing if he took his XBOX from him, then he would just let him play it. Point is, the dad did the right thing at the right moment. Can't knock him for his kid going missing. It wasn't his fault at all. Your argument assumes the unknown of the kid going missing. That is completely unrealistic.

Does it mean that I'd cave every time there was a conflict? Nope. Does it mean that I'd be a hardass every time? Nope. Like parenting usually is, there's going to be a delicate balance. However, if my son died because of a punishment decision that I made, then I'd feel guilty forever about it.

I'd feel guilty too if my kid went missing after an argument, like any emotionally normal person. These things happen often . Kid argues with parent, kid gets in car accident and dies. Last words exchanged are "I hate you".

I'm sure the dad is responsible for his kids disappearance. He probably hired a hitman to take him out for playing too much xbox.

But like I said, we don't have to agree.

No we don't. I just like being realistic.

^^^^

 

[BNG]

That's fine that the parent feels bad that they're son turned out bad. But would you rather that the parent be the cause that the kid died?

If you could feel no remorse for the death of your children and felt good about staying the course for their punishment (as trivial as it might be), good for you. Like I said, I couldn't do it if it cost me their lives.

You'll know everything about raising kids right up until you have one of your own giving you problems.

The right thing to do is be involved, discipline them, and teach them how to function. Their job is to test you and see where the boundaries are and if you really mean what you say. If you teach them to face up to their problems and be responsible for screw-ups they'll turn out fine. It doesn't mean they'll never test you.