hey robbo, i've been training for 11 years now and I heard it before from family,friends and girlfriends, "you're getting too big", "ew you are starting to look discussing" that means you are getting the job done, the only reason to bulk is to grow and if you are getting too big then be proud of yourself! but if you are getting fat just add a little cardio to your training once or twice week and it should keep the fat at bay also keep your diet clean, remember once you start to cut you will get to that point where you're going to feel flat and skinny. look at the mirror, take pics and judge yourself. the only person you should be listening to is your trainer or yourself.. good luck