Someone analyze my habits with women

[heatherrae]

Sounds like you have a fear of intimacy.

 

[swole]

you doing PCT - post cycle therapy - now bro...

No, this has nothing to do with my hormones. I'm still in the thick part of my cycle...PC.T doesn't start for another month.

I have stability all over my life...health, family, friends, job, money. Yet I feel like something is missing. Women make it all taste sweeter...the problem is getting through all the bullshit games and overcoming preconceived notions I've always had about them, relationships, and social dynamics in general. Do this, say that. Don't chase, listen to your heart, chase if you have to, but not this much. Fuck, I'm just trying to be myself and learning in the process now that I'm getting into a different stage of my life.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

OK, you know how most men consider having sex with a woman "conquering" her?

Well, hear me out. When I chase a woman, when I really pull out all the stops and she drops her guard, I don't need to sleep with her to feel like I got somewhere. I feel as if breaking through the wall and having her invest emotion in me is more powerful than anything physical. Just knowing I can have it is good enough for me. My friends always make fun of me because a lot of the times I stop talking to the girl before we have sex. It seems as if I have deep emotional and acceptance issues. I mean obviously there are those girls I end up having sexual relations with, but lately I've been holding out unless I see long term potential. I get kinda disappointed when the chic gives it up early. What I really want is for me and the girl to invest emotion and trust...THEN have sex...not the other way around.

Wow, you and me alike brother. Welcome to advanced sex ed for humans, enjoy your stay. lol but seriously the excitement for me has already peaked by the time the sex starts. And if there was nothing building up to it beforehand it becomes almost pointless, like I'd just as soon jerk off (safe and easy, with less/no drama potential afterwards).

Sex pre-empting an emotional bond is like putting the big logs on the campfire before the pine needles and kindling. Gives it a slim chance of surviving, let alone growing. Ok for casual one nighter stuff but it's been proven that after adolescence that type of behavior does little for an emotionally healthy life, especially for women. I swear this is a big part of why so many relationships fail these days. People are too trigger happy and don't know...how...to...s...l...o...w......d...o...w...n.

 

[swole]

Sounds like you have a fear of intimacy.

holy shit no way, the problem is that I want it! But not with someone I think will bore me within a week. My standards and expectations are through the roof. I was raised to always reach and never settle...always happy, never satisfied. It's going to take one hell of a woman.

 

[needtogetaas]

No, this has nothing to do with my hormones. I'm still in the thick part of my cycle...PC.T doesn't start for another month.

I have stability all over my life...health, family, friends, job, money. Yet I feel like something is missing. Women make it all taste sweeter...the problem is getting through all the bullshit games and overcoming preconceived notions I've always had about them, relationships, and social dynamics in general. Do this, say that. Don't chase, listen to your heart, chase if you have to, but not this much. Fuck, I'm just trying to be myself and learning in the process now that I'm getting into a different stage of my life.

bro here is my advice"from a man marred for almost 10 years" fuck finding the one...it only leads to boredom and fights every night...love is a trap.

the worst part is a girl will fall in love with you for who you are and what you are but years go by and they dont want you to be that person they want you to some one else..its all bullshit if ask me just stick to fucking slam pigs.

 

[swole]

bro here is my advice"from a man marred for almost 10 years" fuck finding the one...it only leads to boredom and fights every night...love is a trap.

the worst part is a girl will fall in love with you for who you are and what you are but years go by and they dont want you to be that person they want you to some one else..its all bullshit if ask me just stick to fucking slam pigs.

dude, angel loves you. slam pigs? I don't want to be alone and emotionally shallow my entire life. I know how to share myself with someone and to keep things exciting.

 

[heatherrae]

holy shit no way, the problem is that I want it! But not with someone I think will bore me within a week. My standards and expectations are through the roof. I was raised to always reach and never settle...always happy, never satisfied. It's going to take one hell of a woman.

If you TRULY wanted it, you would be in it. When you make excuses why every gal doesn't quite measure up, it is a sign you really don't want it.

Im not judging. I think a majority of people sort of sabotage themselves of the intimacy that they think they really want.

Do you always get sort of panicky when things get pretty serious? It's like a phobia.

 

[needtogetaas]

dude, angel loves you. slam pigs? I don't want to be alone and emotionally shallow my entire life. I know how to share myself with someone and to keep things exciting.

look its one thing to keep things exciting between the to of you...I have sex 5 times a week at a min thats not the problem.its when you have no other life and
women bleed you of every person,place or thing you used to do,and it becomes just you and her an if you try to have anything else in your life your an asshole.
thats how it ends up.you ether stay home sitting next to her and you better fucking like doing it to or well there is no other chose.no going out,no friends,no
fucking nothing,no having friends come over because there scared off by your wife.............why the fuck do you think I spend every god dame min of my life on this comp talking to people here....yes my life is pathetic.

 

[needtogetaas]

If you TRULY wanted it, you would be in it. When you make excuses why every gal doesn't quite measure up, it is a sign you really don't want it.

Im not judging. I think a majority of people sort of sabotage themselves of the intimacy that they think they really want.

Do you always get sort of panicky when things get pretty serious? It's like a phobia.

ruuuuuuuun swole ruuuuuuuuun

 

[swole]

If you TRULY wanted it, you would be in it. When you make excuses why every gal doesn't quite measure up, it is a sign you really don't want it.

Im not judging. I think a majority of people sort of sabotage themselves of the intimacy that they think they really want.

Do you always get sort of panicky when things get pretty serious? It's like a phobia.

Paniky, not at all. Heather when I don't feel a girl measures up it's not for some petty issue. It's because she is lacking something that I NEED a partner to have...like a sense of humor, direction, or passion. Why should I settle for someone who doesn't get or appreciate me? There are women I know right now I would love to be with...but the timing is off. I need a woman to be my best friend and lover. I need a down ass bitch who gets me...not some squeemish girl who wrinkles her brow at my occasional deviant behavior (not with her, with other things in life).