Never Ever Fall in Love....!!!trust me

[MarthaStewart]

You should consider not dating girls

indeed

 

[velvett]

Everything in quotes is from another one of your threads HI.

Let me give a little background that in the 4 weeks of dating I have not gotten a blow job, handjob nothing. Anyway so were fooling around talking ect. Finally she tells me that shes had sex with two guys, and made both of them wait a couple months. And that shes prude....So I being the nice guy that I am explained to her that I do not feel that is prude but careful which is refreshing.

If you believe this – you are a nicer guy than I could have ever imagined – and I feel bad for you. She is so happy with the notion that you are treating her with such respect that she needs to live up to be the person she thinks should deserve and receive the treatment you are bestowing upon her.

It’s really very sad when you think about people who feel so badly about themselves that they feel they should only deserve to be treated poorly. This would also explain why she says things that are hurtful to you.

So I say well we can do other things, shes like "oh really other things" So we are both getting each other off and I am like " you might want to spit or something" and she tells me "girls dont spit".

Throws me over and starts giving me head. So I am like this is not bad, but I could not get off. I was more happy how things had turned out. Not so much the contact but the fact that shes not really a weird prude or something.

So then she lets me feel how excited she is, we end up in a passionate moment and then fuck me if I am not in her. Now we are having sex with no condom, but I just could not stop. I mean shit it had been a year plus.

She’s not a prude. If she were she would be asking you to feel how wet she was, she certainly would not being having oral sex – I mean oral is far more personal than vaginal sex. And for the love of God – if she were a prude or a girl who likes to wait before hopping in the sake with guy (which for the record – I totally support) she would not have had sex with you or any guy without a condom.

Heres where the strory changes, after like 20 mins I finish and pull out. And she gets this sad look on her face and says "you tease". I am like jezz, no maybe its cause she had not finished or something but I felt she wanted me to finish inside her. Oh and it also seemed at first that the sex was a little painful for her, don't know why.

She calls you a tease? She wanted you to cum inside her? – She’s prude and very innocent – not.

Anyway I get up and go to the bathroom, to pee and think about what a dumb fuck I am. Then I go back and guess what have sex with her again. Before though I asked her if she thinks we should be more careful and shes like "well you started it, next time get a condom." So I have sex with her again and this time stay in...

“Well, you started it” – that’s pretty rude if you ask me and if she had any remorse for her actions there certain would not be a second round. At least take responsibility for your desires – don’t make it someone else’s fault that you are sexually being and wanted to have sex.

ahhhhhhhhhhh this is my own dumb fuckin fault, but I just wonder why a 22 year old girl with a bright future would risk something like this. I know she has mentioned several times that she was worried I was to pretty or goodlooking for her...Anyway were all human and being on riods for a year plus really fucked up my sperm so I am hoping that they are all dead.

She has already expressed to you verbal and through her actions that she doesn’t feel confident enough about her looks and now she has admitted she is not comfortable with her own sexuality.

There’s nothing wrong with having sex – the problem with sexuality is that people feel the need to place some sort of label on it and pass some sort of judgment on based how much sex you have or have not had and what sort of sex you are having. The most important thing is that you enjoy what you do, you accept and feel comfortable with your choices and you respect yourself, your feelings and your actions.

Girls feel this need to live up to this “virgin” role that really isn’t real anyway while being brainwashed to believe that the only way a guy is going love them is to have sex with them. (This is why we have “virgins” that enjoy anal sex.) Then when they do have sex (regardless of enjoyment – so do, some don’t) they live in fear of being labeled a slut.

And then again some people are sluts – but what I’m really trying to get at is not the physical act but the emotional mind and the psychology behind giving yourself value based up your actions and those actions that you are not entirely comfortable with after having made them.

So, what you do is your business and you really have a few choices you can go with as far as I can tell. If you really like this girl maybe as time goes on you see how she grows and changes within your presence. It’s your choice and know that no matter what choice you take it will have been the best one made for yourself at the time of making it – so don’t beat yourself up if you don’t like the outcome.

You will fall in and out of love many times during this lifetime and you’re going feel pain every time you do so – but each and every experience does not happen without significance.

So enjoy the ride, if you can.

 

[gotmilk]

you people are truely clueless

no I have not been dumbed, and no I am not the problem.

 

[gotmilk]

HER answer after being so close to me all night "I wouldn't fall in love with me, I am not a nice girl"

That's a classic sign. I've been there....done that.....now I am living the Aftermath.

You've probably put her in a position she was not expecting. Most 22 year olds are banged and dumped.....not facing a situation where someone actually wants to bend over backwards for them.

She's going to Kobe your heart when she's done...unless you cut this off sooner