I will say this time and time again, cheaters, WTF...
im very sorry it has come to this luvs, I don't know you personally but KAYNE speaks highly of you. It will be a tough go from here, maybe the relationship is worth fixing...maybe its not...only you can decide. Trust is such an important issue in any relationship. I was cheated on, sexually...and even after 5 months its still a painful memory.
Remember this, you are an attractive, independent, powerful woman...and if this is the end of the relationship with your husband you always have yourself and will easily find a partner in life more deserving.
prayers and good health
HI