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Need advice...found another womans phone number in my hubbys jeans

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luvs2workout

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Please ONLY serious replys if you dont mind......

As I was folding my husband jeans a piece of paper fell out the pocket...when I opened it, I found a womans name w/her number and her work number on it (also an email address - but I can hardly make it out)

I researched as much as I could on the pc and found out that SHE is the exact same age as me - she lives 2 hours away in a city that my husband frequently travels for work.....

I asked him very nicely about the number and he said he had NO IDEA where the number came from...he said he must have picked it up on accident at a store or job or something...I acted like I believed him and told him that I trusted him - and I threw the number in the garbage....only to go and dig it out when he went outside.....

Now I dont know where to go from here....I dont want to call b/c IF there is something going on, then she would probly just lie....I would feel like an insecure stupid little wife calling....I would love to drive and just SEE if this is someone my husband would be interested in (see if shes pretty)....I dont know what to do :confused: :confused: :confused: He doesnt know Im even looking into this anymore....I can check his cell bill - but it wont be here for another 3 or 4 weeks and I would go crazy till then....HELP!!!!

Honestly - I have questioned his fidelity a time or two, but lately he has given me NO reason and Ive actually trusted him more than ever, but you never know???
 
To be honest with you I think he's lying about the number. He probably met this chick and asked for her number and he was gonna call her.

I think you should just call the number and ask for the lady and ask her if she knows who your husband is but don't identify yourself as his wife because then she might lie.

If she tells you she does know who he is then you just busted your husband lying to you.
 
luvs2workout said:


Honestly - I have questioned his fidelity a time or two, but lately he has given me NO reason and Ive actually trusted him more than ever, but you never know???
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Bullshit. He just did. This is a bunch of bullshit : "I asked him very nicely about the number and he said he had NO IDEA where the number came from...he said he must have picked it up on accident at a store or job or something."

BULLSHIT.

Sorry luvs... I don't know how to exactly 'catch' him... but it sounds like there is definately something you can cath him on.
Especially seeing how he travels to her city for business.

Sorry luvs... but this doesn't sound too promising.

I hope for the best for you, and that his bullshit answer was true.
But really... :rolleyes:
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Or you could hire a private detective to follow him around while he is traveling or you could just tap his cell phone which is easy to do.
 
You have to get back to trusting him again, if he innocent, that is. Sounds like it's time to hire a private investigator. A good one should be able to clear up the situation in a couple of days, although I would'nt know what the charge would be. I hope he's innocent of all charges, good luck.
 
i dunno. some women have a tendency to come on REAL strong. so maybe she made him take the note and told him to call her. the only way to fnd out is to

A) ask him again. tell him what you are feeling and that you are worried.

B) call the number, or sen her an email..but be classy about it
 
Give me the # and your husbands name. I will call her and act like an FBI Agent. I will ask how she knows him.. all of that crap. It works everytime.
 
Just drive to that specific city. Follow him and be stealthy. Its probably the only way for you to know. Otherwise hire a private detective.

There's 2 options:

A- He met this chick recently and he's planing to fuck her.

B- Something related with his job but he lied to you cause he thaugt you wouldn't believe him.
 
i would try to make out the email and send her an email from a bogus account, make one up like yahoo or something and pretend you are him, ask her to resend her phone number because you lost it and see if she does...if she does then you busted him.....
 
He could be telling the truth!

You really don't know what is up so don't fill your head full of crap right now.

You probably need to track this person down and verify weather or not he is cheating through a private detective since you were willing to dig it out of the trash.
 
Ok.....hiring a private investigator is not an option right now...they are riduculously expensive and this is in another city

Im thinking of driving FIRST and taking a look....then I might work up enough nerve to call

Im almost positive it has NOTHING to do w/work - he wouldnt have any interest in her job, judging by the name of the company she works for

I dont want to discuss this w/him anymore b/c IF there is any contact b/t them then he would warn her or something......
 
if you did wanna phone

phone up saying your someone who found your husbands wallet on the road, and this was the only number in the wallet. get a friend (maybe male) to do it if your worried to yourself

tell her his name etc is there butno contact details and ask her if she's his girlfriend and if she knows how to contact him

it might be option B of manny's choice:)
 
You could call the Show Cheaters and have them find out for you but then if he really is cheating then you end up on TV.
 
Crazier said:


I think he was serious. It's a good idea.
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I know how to do this.. I am the best. I used to prank call people all the time.. I could call anyone and get them to tell me whatever I wanted to hear.
 
Godzila said:
i would try to make out the email and send her an email from a bogus account, make one up like yahoo or something and pretend you are him, ask her to resend her phone number because you lost it and see if she does...if she does then you busted him.....
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Hmmmmm......this might be an option....I did get her work email off the web....it isnt the same as the one he wrote down though - that was her personal email :confused:
 
dballer said:


I know how to do this.. I am the best. I used to prank call people all the time.. I could call anyone and get them to tell me whatever I wanted to hear.
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tell me a little more before I consider doing this...what would you say to make her tell you? I would want to listen on 3 way - If I agree to do this, k?
 
luvs2workout said:
Ok.....hiring a private investigator is not an option right now...they are riduculously expensive and this is in another city

Im thinking of driving FIRST and taking a look....then I might work up enough nerve to call

Im almost positive it has NOTHING to do w/work - he wouldnt have any interest in her job, judging by the name of the company she works for

I dont want to discuss this w/him anymore b/c IF there is any contact b/t them then he would warn her or something......
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so sad you dont live in my area, I would have helped in my spare time. grrrrrr :angel:
 
Well first I would make up a story. (about him) Like he is being investigated for forgery or federal money laundering something believable. I would find out how she knew him... the way you do this is you have to act VERY forward. I would have to find out the city she is in and look at the map to become familiar with the streets.

You make sure she knows that the wrong answer could implicate connection to this. Then tell her that "I-WE" know that you have no part of this.. but we need to be sure of your connection to Mr. luvs2workout in order to further the investigation.
 
dballer said:


I know how to do this.. I am the best. I used to prank call people all the time.. I could call anyone and get them to tell me whatever I wanted to hear.
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Ok, Get my GF's AOL password for me then!!! Hehe
 
I don't envy you in this situation.....

For those of us who have been here before it is so hard to not trust the one we love, but once the seed is planted it is so hard to extract it from our mind.

If you have had a call to be suspicious in the past then you should trust your instincts in this.

It sounds like dballer's idea is the best. Have someone you know or yourself give a call and pretend to be some arm of the law investigating your husband. If it is a fuck buddie/or new relationship I doubt that she will lie to protect him.
 
hmmmm.......sounds like a cool story....lemme think about it for a while.....I will let you know what I decide...thanks for wanting to help - much appreciation :angel:

I dont want to jump to TOO many conclusions just yet --- If I could only see her than I will know what my hubbys intentions were/are....hehehe...I know that may sound stupid, but I know his taste

Thank ALL of you for your support and advice....It means so much to be able to talk about this and get soooo many different opinions :bigkiss:

If I can get my friend to take a ride w/me tomorrow, then I will definately let you know what I found...Im going to bring my camera w/me too!
 
Hmmmm...well luvs, it doesn't sound like the best news!! But as hard as it is for you now, try not to let your mind dwell on the subject until you have a little more information. You will only think of the worst scenarios and will end up even more mad.

If it were me, I would probably start by checking past cell phone bills to see if the number was ever called before. Usually cell phones also have a log on them of the last 10 calls made. Hopefully IF your husband has called her, he hasn't erased the number off of his cell.

You could call the number, from a phone with no caller id, and simply ask the lady if your husband is there. Say you were given this number as a way to reach him. If you are going to do this though, the sooner the better. You will want to do this before he would have a chance to talk to her and let her know what is going on.

Or you could do what others have suggested and hire a P.I.....if that will put your mind at ease.

I wish you only the best of luck!! Keep your chin up Sweetie!!

~toga
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I would say call. I would also say to resolve this as quickly as possible. If it's something, you need to know about it as soon as possible, I would say. And if it's nothing you need to know too, so that suspicion doesn't poison your relationship.

There could be a million innocent reasons for your husband to have the number, but the fact that he said that he doesn't know how it got there doesn't bode well at all.

On the other hand, he might have just been flirting at a bar on a business trip and she gave him her number and maybe he never intended to go any further than that. It's really hard to say. The fact that he has a piece of paper with the number on it makes it sound like maybe things haven't progressed too far, whatever the case is. If he's seeing her regularly, surely he still wouldn't be carrying around the paper?

I'd call her and confront him, as much as that sucks...

Good luck,

Wyst
 
luvs2workout said:


tell me a little more before I consider doing this...what would you say to make her tell you? I would want to listen on 3 way - If I agree to do this, k?
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Isn't that idea a bit risky though?

Do you know your husbands e-mail account password? If you don't, you could set up a kelogger on the computer to retrieve it.(Im guessing you use the same computer).

Then send an e-mail pretending to be your hubby and just say in the message 'hey' or something. If she knows your husband then she'll write back and you can just read what she's got to say.
 
luvs, a couple of questions
do you think your relationship is not the best it can be lately? I'm just wondering if you have any reason to suspect that your husband would potentially cheat on you with someone else?

More than likely, he lied about not knowing how the number got there. But, depending on what your answer is to my first question, maybe he was just keeping the number as a little ego booster for himself, like 'heheh, I've still got it', but he never meant to act on it.

If you have no reason to suspect that he has any desire to seek relations with some other woman, then just wait and see what happens. if he was considering cheating, then you would have already scared the crap out of him by asking about that phone number. If you think that wasn't enough to stop him, then you two have alot to talk about.

Good luck.
 
Better suggestion than the FBI thing...

Have D-baller call her and tell her he is with the County Health Department and was given her name by the local AIDS testing clinic. Her name was listed as someone who may have been a partner of (YOUR HUSBAND'S NAME.) And then give the AIDS clinic return phone number.

If she doesn't know him... she will just assume it was a mistake. If she does know him and has been doing the nasty with him - she will shit a brick.
 
Hmm, im thinking along the same lines as polar pixies last post, however its just sort of a suspicion, anywho...We as males are probably the worst liars on the face of the earth its pretty easy to catch us if we are, that being said, has he been excessive anything?...for example excessively nice, or excessively loving...ya know anything out of the norm? dballer has a pretty good idea, however i have a better one, will discuss it over PMs however.
 
SofaGeorge said:
Better suggestion than the FBI thing...

Have D-baller call her and tell her he is with the County Health Department and was given her name by the local AIDS testing clinic. Her name was listed as someone who may have been a partner of (YOUR HUSBAND'S NAME.) And then give the AIDS clinic return phone number.

If she doesn't know him... she will just assume it was a mistake. If she does know him and has been doing the nasty with him - she will shit a brick.
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Good one. :D
 
Without reading all these replies I'll keep in simple.
Make one statement
Ask one question while handing him the paper.

" I found this in you jeans when doing the Laundry and though you might need it.

"Who's xxxxxx ?" without a condecending tone.
 
he's cheating on you. his excuse is so weak that it made me laugh. this is why i tell women, if i have sex with another woman you will be there joining in on the fun so it won't count as cheating.:D
 
FFOS - thanks for the encouraging words :) I know, thats what really has me thinking something IS going on --- the handwriting matches his EXACTLY, yet he claims to have no idea where the number came from?

Y Lifter - already did that - thats when he came up w/the lame excuse

wyst - Im not going to do anything yet.....I want to know the truth and I dont want to screw up a chance to know

N.A. - he's a good liar :)
 
Sorry to hear that your guy might be cheating on you, but if he is he's wrong for you. I hope everything turns out fine and that you find out the truth soon.
 
Polar - I was actually shocked when I found the number.....I mean there was a time in the past my first thought would have been "he's fucking her" but not now...things seem to me as if they couldnt be any better.....there is only one thing - he is the biggest flirt or whatever, he loves the attention
 
luvs2workout said:
FFOS - thanks for the encouraging words :) I know, thats what really has me thinking something IS going on --- the handwriting matches his EXACTLY, yet he claims to have no idea where the number came from?
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time to 86 him and move on. you need to find yourself a new man. :wavey: :wavey: :wavey: :D :D :D
 
Seriously - Is there any chance he's recruiting someone for a 3-some as a surprise?????
 
luvs2workout said:
Please ONLY serious replys if you dont mind......

As I was folding my husband jeans a piece of paper fell out the pocket...when I opened it, I found a womans name w/her number and her work number on it (also an email address - but I can hardly make it out)

I researched as much as I could on the pc and found out that SHE is the exact same age as me - she lives 2 hours away in a city that my husband frequently travels for work.....

I asked him very nicely about the number and he said he had NO IDEA where the number came from...he said he must have picked it up on accident at a store or job or something...I acted like I believed him and told him that I trusted him - and I threw the number in the garbage....only to go and dig it out when he went outside.....

Now I dont know where to go from here....I dont want to call b/c IF there is something going on, then she would probly just lie....I would feel like an insecure stupid little wife calling....I would love to drive and just SEE if this is someone my husband would be interested in (see if shes pretty)....I dont know what to do :confused: :confused: :confused: He doesnt know Im even looking into this anymore....I can check his cell bill - but it wont be here for another 3 or 4 weeks and I would go crazy till then....HELP!!!!

Honestly - I have questioned his fidelity a time or two, but lately he has given me NO reason and Ive actually trusted him more than ever, but you never know???
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If he has a number in his pocket, either she gave it to him, or he asked for it... I haven't gotten a number since I have been with my girl... I have no desire to be with anyone else. I did (before we cleaned my room) have a TON of numbers laying all over the floor... I think she believed I had recently gotten them... but what she didn't realize at the time is that I was a pack-rat and had about 100 numbers laying around from the time I worked in the club... I think she realizes that now.

Trust is a hard thing to get, and almost impossible to regain... you'll have to look deep at this yourself and ask yourself what YOU really believe... forget what everyone else is saying, forget what he is saying... LOOK INSIDE YOU... there is where you'll find the answer... I know it sounds sappy, but in the end, you can only trust yourself... no one else.

C
 
you say he's a flirt....he's obviously lying about the number, but what if he IS just flirting with her and not going any further. how would you feel about that and what would you do?
 
luvs2workout said:
Polar - I was actually shocked when I found the number.....I mean there was a time in the past my first thought would have been "he's fucking her" but not now...things seem to me as if they couldnt be any better.....there is only one thing - he is the biggest flirt or whatever, he loves the attention
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Oh...Married to the Flirt. I've heard of those before. Hehe. Well, luvs, I'd suggest you just talk to your hubby. If he really was hanging to that number only for kicks, then ever found out that you went behind his back investigating things, that's gonna cause some real trouble. If he was tempted by the idea of cheating with this girl, you need to talk to him, find out what's going thru his head, and squelch those thoughts before they turn into real action. But you've gotta do this calmly and in a non-accusing tone, just act real hurt (u prolly don't even have to act) that he didn't throw that number right out.
 
polar, i just wanted to say that i don't read your respones. i just like to stare at your av. i wanted to ask you if you ever done 3rd entry or thought about it?:D
 
Luvs, sorry to hear about your situation...I don't post here much, but I couldn't help myself this time.

Your husband's lame excuse that he didn't know where the number came from reminds EXACTLY of something my ex boyfriend would have said. He was a cheater. He was outgoing, a flirt, and very sneaky (or so he though) Not only was I with a cheater, I am also a private investigator.

You seem worried about calling this woman in case she denies everything or tries to protect your husband. From my experience as a p.i., a large number of these women don't even know the guy they are sleeping with is married. When they find out, they are just as pissed as the wife and by no means want to protect him. They totally side with the wife and want revenge.

I don't think you should bother making a special trip to see what this woman looks like. Even you see her and think she's not your husband's type, you could be wrong. When men get all riled up and horny a lot of times they'll just hook up with whoever. I think you should definitely call first...using the ideas that were mentioned earlier.

Anyway, good luck with everything. I know how difficult this can be...
 
fistfullofsteel said:
polar, i just wanted to say that i don't read your respones. i just like to stare at your av. i wanted to ask you if you ever done 3rd entry or thought about it?:D
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ffs.....NO!!!! :D However, I did offer to change my avatar if it is that much of a distraction to you. :) and start reading my responses, I usually make really good points. :)
 
He's definitley lying to you.
He may be lying to her, too.....She may not know he is married, so if you were to call her and say you were his wife she might be surprised and be honest with you. She'd be upset with him, too.
I have been in this situation, however on the other end.
I got a phone call from a g/f...we ended up talking for an hour or two and since then I have never spoken to her b/f.....
He had been lying to the both of us.
Luckily, I had only invested 2 weeks into that.
 
CdnChick26 said:
Luvs, sorry to hear about your situation...I don't post here much, but I couldn't help myself this time.

Your husband's lame excuse that he didn't know where the number came from reminds EXACTLY of something my ex boyfriend would have said. He was a cheater. He was outgoing, a flirt, and very sneaky (or so he though) Not only was I with a cheater, I am also a private investigator.

You seem worried about calling this woman in case she denies everything or tries to protect your husband. From my experience as a p.i., a large number of these women don't even know the guy they are sleeping with is married. When they find out, they are just as pissed as the wife and by no means want to protect him. They totally side with the wife and want revenge.

I don't think you should bother making a special trip to see what this woman looks like. Even you see her and think she's not your husband's type, you could be wrong. When men get all riled up and horny a lot of times they'll just hook up with whoever. I think you should definitely call first...using the ideas that were mentioned earlier.

Anyway, good luck with everything. I know how difficult this can be...
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Very true.
You never really know who he will cheat with.....
My b/f cheated on me with someone he didnt even find very attractive..his excuse? "She was nice and appreciated me"
WTF?
 
I CALLED HER - SHE ADMITTED IT - THEY HAVE BEEN TALKING FOR A FEW MONTHS - SHE SAID NO SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I AM GOING INSANE TO SAY THE VERY LEAST
 
ask him if you make him happy and your all he needs,if he says yes then say why did you feel the need to lie to me and see and talk to other women behind my back,then maybe goto counselling
 
luvs2workout said:
I CALLED HER - SHE ADMITTED IT - THEY HAVE BEEN TALKING FOR A FEW MONTHS - SHE SAID NO SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I AM GOING INSANE TO SAY THE VERY LEAST
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Luvs.....I am glad you found out the truth!! Do you believe this woman? Would she tell you if they were actually having sex?

What are your plans for when your husband comes home? Are you going to confront him....most likely this other women is going to tip him off about your phone call. And he still did lie to you...?

I wish you only the best!!
Stay Strong, Sweetie!!

~toga
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Luvs2..

I'm glad to hear you called her... Did sh tell you how many times they met up or how long they've known each other?



For what it is worth let me tell you this.

Several years ago I met a guy who I thought was the cat's meow, we traded beeper numbers (now you really know this was some time ago) and I called him because we had agreed to meet up the following night at a bar/restaurant in the area.

That evening a very upset girl called me and asked me who I was and how I had her boyfriend's pager number. I told her the truth, I also told her that I persued him. After she stopped sobbing she told me that she had a two month old (his son - true the baby was screaming in the back ground) and that she was at her wits end. Never was she angry - just very upset and seemingly helpless.

I can not tell you how badly I felt for her so I could do was reassure her that we'd never met up and I would never call him nor would I accept a call from him.

I don't know what to say but I hope you guys work things out.




I must confess if I were you I would become friendly with the woman and trap him in his own lie. (It's the jealous scorpio in me.)


Again,

Good Luck.
 
Luvs,

You remember what I said and hang in there ok. Kronkette and I are here for you anytime you need us.

Hang in there Luvs, I know its going to be hard. Things will work out for the best, I promise.

Love,

Kronk and Kronkete
 
I will say this time and time again, cheaters, WTF...

im very sorry it has come to this luvs, I don't know you personally but KAYNE speaks highly of you. It will be a tough go from here, maybe the relationship is worth fixing...maybe its not...only you can decide. Trust is such an important issue in any relationship. I was cheated on, sexually...and even after 5 months its still a painful memory.

Remember this, you are an attractive, independent, powerful woman...and if this is the end of the relationship with your husband you always have yourself and will easily find a partner in life more deserving.

prayers and good health

HI
 
Hey luvs....

Somehow I would not expect her to blurt out "I'm banging him like a screen door in a hurricane".

Hopefully, she is telling the truth but I can honestly say that if the phone number was innocent, your husband would have thrown it away....

Good luck.....
 
Talking?....for a few MONTHS!!!!!??????????

hmmmmmmm.................just talking?...I doubt it. They have AT THE VERY LEAST seen each other, live, in person. Anything else will be impossible to find out, unless someone gives a full confession.

I am sincerely sorry.
 
I see luvs working out maybe once a week. She is a great person, a good friend at that. She is fun to be around . If you could cheat/talk to a person when married to a great women like this you can go crawl in a fucking whole and die. I hope everyone on elite who cheats on their sig. other reads this fucking thread.


If you do cheat, you should feel like a worthless piece of shit becase you are one.:(
 
Luvs,

1) youve questioned your husbands fidelity "a time or two"

2) your husbands a "good lier"

3) your husband lied about having a relationship with this girl with whom hes been "talking" for over 3 months - at the very least.


Two questions u need to ask urself :

1) has ur husband ever been unfaithfull?

2) is the relationship worth saving?

If your husband has been unfaithfull, Im sorry, but he will be again. This new chick obviously proves that. Be kind to urself and leave this guy. Get a new man. There are plenty of good ones out there who will cherish u.

Good luck.
 
Call the number and tell the woman that you are a friend of <your husband's name> and that he told you to call her because he had a terrible accident and he's dying or something. If she knows him, you'll know at that point. And if she does know him, then you'll know he was lying... in which case you should liberate him of his penis with the aid of a large broadsword.

=)

-Warik
 
SPY on her:) get her address.. and stalk the lil tramp:) Good luck , and btw i dont think hes telling the truth about just finding the number some where. .good luck dear
 
sorry luvs but his excuse was so weak that you had to know something is up.


ask him if he cheated on you, and remind him that he lied to you already and you want the truth this time because you will find out. call him on his bullshit. pay attention to his response, his body language and voice. if he looks away and says no. most likely he is a lying through his teeth.


wish you the best.

btw, what she said is pretty stupid and i think she is lying too.
 
Hire a private detective. It might sound corny but these guys actually are around for this , that and personal injury cases where the insurance companies hire them to video tape the people suing to see if they are lieing.

You already have more than enough informaton than they need to work with. Most of the time these guys have to start out only with the suspicion the wives have. You got a name, a number and an e mail address. And you found out personal information about her. I have no idea what it would cost, but most of these guys are good and if somethings going on they will have tapes, pictures and alot of proof. Its good for your own piece of mind.,...And he never has to know.
 
Here's the deal in a nutshell......

when he came home he walked into our bedroom with a picture blown up of the girl that my "detective friend" (wink,wink) got for me......I told him to sit in the chair and take a long hard look at her....I asked him to really look and think before he answered ---- of course he is totally freaking at this point b/c he is cold busted! I asked her has he ever seen her? Does he know her? Has he called her, slept w/her??? what?? After I told him everything I knew and he knew I was serious - when he could lie NO MORE than he came clean.....

They did have somewhat of a phone relationship....I didnt want all the gory details - I just wanted to know had been intimate w/her....He says no, so does she.....Do I believe them? I dunno :confused:

Im not sure where to go from here...he is not staying here tonight....I need some time to be alone...I need to think this through rationally......We have 3 kids, a nice home, a business together....I have built my life with him...my emotions are kinda going crazy right now

You know it really doestn matter if he slept w/her or just called her....the trust is GONE

All of you have been awesome!!! Thanks for the advice, encouragement, etc.....:loveyou: :loveyou: :loveyou: :loveyou: :loveyou:
 
this thread makes me very sad luvs...comming from divorce and being cheated on, I know what its like to have trust broken. But on the otherhand you have these three little ones, and a life with this man.

Packing up and leaveing is easier said then done...I would never tell you what to do, this is of course your life. Im only posting as a friend. You probley need to go with him to counseling, church...something...sounds like hes bored, which amazes me because he has a lovely family and an attractive supportive wife. Something I so look foward in life to...But you need to talk, get it all out...no time for bullshit this is 2 important with kids.

again prayers...be there for you little ones, as I know you will be
think hard...

HI
 
Like your husband, people sometimes make false judgement. I think he should be allowed one last chance to pull himself together, especially since you have children. As the last poster said, it will be important to start talking again and to get everything out in the open. Going to counselling may be a good option here. If he really values the marriage, I don't think he will stray again. I don't think marriage is something that should be thrown away so easily.
 
I know all of that...How many chances does a person deserve???

Im not making any decisions right now, as Ive previously stated.....counseling is on TOP of the list of priorities though!!!
 
KRONK and KRONKETTE

I had to give a special thank you to you both!! Its nice to know their are wonderful people out there like you :bigkiss: what yall did for me, the time yall put into it,,,,, means the world to me.....even though things are hard for me right now, something good has come out of it :) I will call yall tomorrow

all my love :angel:
 
luvs2workout said:
I know all of that...How many chances does a person deserve???

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THAT IS WHAT I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO FIGURE OUT MYSELF. WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE YOU WANT TO MAKE IT WORK. AND YOU TRY YOUR HARDEST. BUT THERE COMES A POINT WHERE YOU JUST HAVE TO SAY ENOUGH IS ENOUGH I GUESS. I RECENTLY WOKE UP AND REALIZED I WAS TIRED OF GETTING LIED TO AND HEARING THAT MY GF WAS CHEATING ON ME. IF SHE WOULD HAVE BEEN TREATING ME GREAT I WOULDNT HAVE BELIEVED IT. BUT WHEN YOU ACT LIKE SHE WAS ACTING, I HAD NO CHOICE BUT TO START BELIEVING THE THINGS I HEARD. THATS ON TOP OF ALL THE LIES I CAUGHT HER IN ALSO.

I DONT KNOW YOUR SITUATION LUVS BUT I REALLY WISH YOU THE BEST IN IT. IF THIS DOES HAPPEN TO TURN OUT BAD, I'M SURE IN THE END SOME GOOD WILL COME OF IT AS I'M SURE YOU WILL HAVE NO PROBLEM FINDING SOMEONE WHO WILL TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED. NOT ALL OF US ARE BAD. PROMISE.


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Im sorry Luvs..I really can't imagine what you are going through, good luck to you with whatever you decide to do, be strong
 
luvs2workout said:
KRONK and KRONKETTE

I had to give a special thank you to you both!! Its nice to know their are wonderful people out there like you :bigkiss: what yall did for me, the time yall put into it,,,,, means the world to me.....even though things are hard for me right now, something good has come out of it :) I will call yall tomorrow

all my love :angel:
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Your welcome luvs. Talk to you soon.

:)
 
i'm so sorry to hear that this is how it turned out. i was really hoping the number meant nothing....


well luvs, it sounds to me like you are trying to keep your wits about and thinking clearly, so that is a good thing and prolly hard as hell to do in a situation like this. What a dickhead. I hope they are telling the truth about not getting physically intimate, even tho he didn't cheat on you physcially, he cheated on your love and trust. I hate cheaters. But I hope you can work it out somehow for your family's sake.
 
Luvs this is not good. I've been through this before ..found the number called her crying aking her what was going on. She wouldn't tell me..and she told me she was going to have me locked up for harassment. What a cunt. Obviously they were fucking.
 
HI HO HI HO.....ITS OFF TO COUNSELING WE GO

I have been getting references specifically with people who deal with these types of issues......I have lady who is a 'christian counselor' who comes highly recommended...although we are not practicing christians - I think we might give her a try

THANKS AGAIN FOR THE SUPPORT!!! :angel: :angel: :angel:
 
katz said:
Luvs this is not good. I've been through this before ..found the number called her crying aking her what was going on. She wouldn't tell me..and she told me she was going to have me locked up for harassment. What a cunt. Obviously they were fucking.
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you should have kicked her face in and broken her bones. then you should have done the same to you whoever cheated on you. i hate scumbags and they deserve to be dealt with in a horrible fashion.
 
luvs2workout said:
I CALLED HER - SHE ADMITTED IT - THEY HAVE BEEN TALKING FOR A FEW MONTHS - SHE SAID NO SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I AM GOING INSANE TO SAY THE VERY LEAST
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luvs i just read this now,,sorry my response is so late, When I thought I was being cheated on I found the girls number and called her. If you do not attack her she will be honest with you. Like you said she was honest when u asked her. It seems when u call the girl she will always honest, b/c hes basically cheating on the both of u. So she is pissed just as you are. Im sorry to hear this sweetie,,i wish u the best of luck dealing with all of this,,,if u need to talk u know were to find me :D
 
I only read pieces of the last 5 pages.....

Relax.....I talk to everything with legs.
Have to have standards and all.

The wife and I just had our 15th.

Life goes that way....I mean what kinda life would you have if you didn't talk people. Think of the things/places and people that would pass you buy. Isn't that why everyone comes here?

If you trusted him before I would trust him now.

I have a wallet full of numbers.....doesn't mean a thing.
I could tell you who most of them were to anymore.
 
I only read pieces of the last 5 pages.....

Relax.....I talk to everything with legs.
Have to have standards and all.

The wife and I just had our 15th.

Life goes that way....I mean what kinda life would you have if you didn't talk people. Think of the things/places and people that would pass you buy. Isn't that why everyone comes here?

If you trusted him before I would trust him now.

I have a wallet full of numbers.....doesn't mean a thing.
I could tell you who most of them were to anymore.
 
If I were you, I'd make up an email address in your husbands name, like through aol, or yahoo, or whatever, and I'd send her an emailing pretending to be your husband. You'll be able to tell by her response if something's going on
 
if you really want to find out the deal about what is going on, like if they had sex or whatnot, call her up and tell her to get tested. this might freak her out a bit into confessing.
 
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