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dballer said:
tell me a little more before I consider doing this...what would you say to make her tell you? I would want to listen on 3 way - If I agree to do this, k?
Need advice...found another womans phone number in my hubbys jeans
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tell me a little more before I consider doing this...what would you say to make her tell you? I would want to listen on 3 way - If I agree to do this, k?
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dballer
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Well first I would make up a story. (about him) Like he is being investigated for forgery or federal money laundering something believable. I would find out how she knew him... the way you do this is you have to act VERY forward. I would have to find out the city she is in and look at the map to become familiar with the streets.
You make sure she knows that the wrong answer could implicate connection to this. Then tell her that "I-WE" know that you have no part of this.. but we need to be sure of your connection to Mr. luvs2workout in order to further the investigation.
You make sure she knows that the wrong answer could implicate connection to this. Then tell her that "I-WE" know that you have no part of this.. but we need to be sure of your connection to Mr. luvs2workout in order to further the investigation.
FreakMonster
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dballer said:
Ok, Get my GF's AOL password for me then!!! Hehe
dragonmona
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I don't envy you in this situation.....
For those of us who have been here before it is so hard to not trust the one we love, but once the seed is planted it is so hard to extract it from our mind.
If you have had a call to be suspicious in the past then you should trust your instincts in this.
It sounds like dballer's idea is the best. Have someone you know or yourself give a call and pretend to be some arm of the law investigating your husband. If it is a fuck buddie/or new relationship I doubt that she will lie to protect him.
For those of us who have been here before it is so hard to not trust the one we love, but once the seed is planted it is so hard to extract it from our mind.
If you have had a call to be suspicious in the past then you should trust your instincts in this.
It sounds like dballer's idea is the best. Have someone you know or yourself give a call and pretend to be some arm of the law investigating your husband. If it is a fuck buddie/or new relationship I doubt that she will lie to protect him.
luvs2workout
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hmmmm.......sounds like a cool story....lemme think about it for a while.....I will let you know what I decide...thanks for wanting to help - much appreciation 
I dont want to jump to TOO many conclusions just yet --- If I could only see her than I will know what my hubbys intentions were/are....hehehe...I know that may sound stupid, but I know his taste
Thank ALL of you for your support and advice....It means so much to be able to talk about this and get soooo many different opinions
If I can get my friend to take a ride w/me tomorrow, then I will definately let you know what I found...Im going to bring my camera w/me too!
I dont want to jump to TOO many conclusions just yet --- If I could only see her than I will know what my hubbys intentions were/are....hehehe...I know that may sound stupid, but I know his taste
Thank ALL of you for your support and advice....It means so much to be able to talk about this and get soooo many different opinions
If I can get my friend to take a ride w/me tomorrow, then I will definately let you know what I found...Im going to bring my camera w/me too!
toga22
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Hmmmm...well luvs, it doesn't sound like the best news!! But as hard as it is for you now, try not to let your mind dwell on the subject until you have a little more information. You will only think of the worst scenarios and will end up even more mad.
If it were me, I would probably start by checking past cell phone bills to see if the number was ever called before. Usually cell phones also have a log on them of the last 10 calls made. Hopefully IF your husband has called her, he hasn't erased the number off of his cell.
You could call the number, from a phone with no caller id, and simply ask the lady if your husband is there. Say you were given this number as a way to reach him. If you are going to do this though, the sooner the better. You will want to do this before he would have a chance to talk to her and let her know what is going on.
Or you could do what others have suggested and hire a P.I.....if that will put your mind at ease.
I wish you only the best of luck!! Keep your chin up Sweetie!!
~toga
If it were me, I would probably start by checking past cell phone bills to see if the number was ever called before. Usually cell phones also have a log on them of the last 10 calls made. Hopefully IF your husband has called her, he hasn't erased the number off of his cell.
You could call the number, from a phone with no caller id, and simply ask the lady if your husband is there. Say you were given this number as a way to reach him. If you are going to do this though, the sooner the better. You will want to do this before he would have a chance to talk to her and let her know what is going on.
Or you could do what others have suggested and hire a P.I.....if that will put your mind at ease.
I wish you only the best of luck!! Keep your chin up Sweetie!!
~toga
I would say call. I would also say to resolve this as quickly as possible. If it's something, you need to know about it as soon as possible, I would say. And if it's nothing you need to know too, so that suspicion doesn't poison your relationship.
There could be a million innocent reasons for your husband to have the number, but the fact that he said that he doesn't know how it got there doesn't bode well at all.
On the other hand, he might have just been flirting at a bar on a business trip and she gave him her number and maybe he never intended to go any further than that. It's really hard to say. The fact that he has a piece of paper with the number on it makes it sound like maybe things haven't progressed too far, whatever the case is. If he's seeing her regularly, surely he still wouldn't be carrying around the paper?
I'd call her and confront him, as much as that sucks...
Good luck,
Wyst
There could be a million innocent reasons for your husband to have the number, but the fact that he said that he doesn't know how it got there doesn't bode well at all.
On the other hand, he might have just been flirting at a bar on a business trip and she gave him her number and maybe he never intended to go any further than that. It's really hard to say. The fact that he has a piece of paper with the number on it makes it sound like maybe things haven't progressed too far, whatever the case is. If he's seeing her regularly, surely he still wouldn't be carrying around the paper?
I'd call her and confront him, as much as that sucks...
Good luck,
Wyst
nevertoobig
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luvs2workout said:
Isn't that idea a bit risky though?
Do you know your husbands e-mail account password? If you don't, you could set up a kelogger on the computer to retrieve it.(Im guessing you use the same computer).
Then send an e-mail pretending to be your hubby and just say in the message 'hey' or something. If she knows your husband then she'll write back and you can just read what she's got to say.
polarpixie
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luvs, a couple of questions
do you think your relationship is not the best it can be lately? I'm just wondering if you have any reason to suspect that your husband would potentially cheat on you with someone else?
More than likely, he lied about not knowing how the number got there. But, depending on what your answer is to my first question, maybe he was just keeping the number as a little ego booster for himself, like 'heheh, I've still got it', but he never meant to act on it.
If you have no reason to suspect that he has any desire to seek relations with some other woman, then just wait and see what happens. if he was considering cheating, then you would have already scared the crap out of him by asking about that phone number. If you think that wasn't enough to stop him, then you two have alot to talk about.
Good luck.
do you think your relationship is not the best it can be lately? I'm just wondering if you have any reason to suspect that your husband would potentially cheat on you with someone else?
More than likely, he lied about not knowing how the number got there. But, depending on what your answer is to my first question, maybe he was just keeping the number as a little ego booster for himself, like 'heheh, I've still got it', but he never meant to act on it.
If you have no reason to suspect that he has any desire to seek relations with some other woman, then just wait and see what happens. if he was considering cheating, then you would have already scared the crap out of him by asking about that phone number. If you think that wasn't enough to stop him, then you two have alot to talk about.
Good luck.
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