My boyfriend is going out of town for the weekend

[uamaverick]

Again, it's fine to text him sweet nothings, and it's OK to send him some sexy time pics.

 

[javaguru]

Correct. Ideally, the best thing to do in this situation is detach emotionally and bond with no one.

I agree 100%..Mel was the breaking point...

 

[needtogetaas]

And I shouldn't be, but I am feeling pretty uptight about it.

It will be the first weekend we've been apart from each other since going out. He's off to a bday party 2 hrs away with his wild friends. He didn't want to go, because he wanted to come to the party I have tonight, but I encouraged him since it's good he sees his friends that he's not seen in 6 months.

Why am I feeling this way?

Discuss

Blue I am glad you have stuck shit out and staid with us...I had to get you back and throw my fingers in your face at least once!! You got yours I got mine and now we are on even level..

 

[blueta2]

I love you Blue! But you are obviously not cool about it! Just relax..I know it's tough but everything will be fine. If he chooses to fuck around then fuck him. He isn't worth it right? You deserve better if that happened

I love you

I promise you I was/am ok with it. Like I said, I encouraged him to go since he never gets to see his friends. It's my issue really.

To update: Got home at 4:30am (my cats just woke me up) and I had one of the best times ever last night (got some crazy video but not sure I should post it). My bf was txting me by 10 pm saying "are you getting into trouble"
He txt me on and off til 3am. I don't think he was having that much fun.

 

[blueta2]

How many women actually cheat? To my knowledge, I've never had any girlfriend of mine cheat on me, nor did I ever have the slightest thought that they were cheating. At least not serious thoughts, I think it's pretty normal to have that shitty feeling in your stomach from time to time, however irrational it might be.

Just chill out, do something for yourself, maybe send him some sexy pics for fun, IDK.

Everyone of my female friends has or is cheating. How sucky is that? I think women are great at keeping it a secret from others.
These female friends are professionals, have kids, homes, and you would never know they were doing this.

I did something for me, I went to a friends party and it was all good.

 

[blueta2]

Holy fucking LOL! You're qualified to make this statement because your past judgement in men has been so fucking outstanding!

why the fuck are you yelling? You're crazy

 

[blueta2]

you should have a drunk three-way tonight. It will make you feel better.

No joke, one of my best friends has a new gf and she was grabbing me at the end of the night. Kissing my cheek, rubbing my arms etc.
She is a naughty french girl ;-)

I went home though, this old senior needed to get shut eye

 

[blueta2]

this thread sucks without pics, blue send me some pics

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/__fGE9uGYw5A/Sr3Lzvb72TI/AAAAAAAAAPk/jZNqykhsbu0/s400/sexy+men+drunk.jpg

 

[blueta2]

You are handling this right, blue:

Encouraging him to go was the right call. NOT phoning/texting him in a way that screams "I'm checking up on you" is the right call; let him call or text you if he feels like it. Showing him complete trust is very important, because there are few things that piss a person off more than feeling like their significant other is projecting baggage from previous relationships onto them. I've been there, and have dropped the girl like a hot potato...and I've sure to express to them "I'll be goddamned if I'm going to pay for somebody else's mistakes" on my way out.

Stay the course, and when he gets back, resist the urge to interrogate; do not demand a complete de-briefing with every detail of every hour of his time away. A simple "how was it?" and "did you have fun?" will suffice.

I heart you for this

For sure I would not question him. Not my style. I truly hope is/was having a great time.
But my past baggage is a struggle at times, which he is patient with and understand. He doesn't come without his own baggage (he's had a hard past) so we try to be understanding.

Wish life had a reset button at time

hug

 

[blueta2]

Blue I am glad you have stuck shit out and staid with us...I had to get you back and throw my fingers in your face at least once!! You got yours I got mine and now we are on even level..

You did what you had to do, all is fair in love and war

It's all good