My bf in Texas dumped me

[heatherrae]

Most likely he has another person in the works or on the hook. He was just manufacturing reasons.

Yeah, but he dated whomever he wanted anyway. We were not exclusive. Well, he wasn't, anyway...lol.

 

[redsamurai]

hmmmmm, if there was only someone here who was a younger and "SINGLE" version of mm...........hmmmmm <strokes chin contemplatively>.........hmmmmmmmmm

Okay, so stop and think ... why do you keep going for the same type? Because really, being anal retentive is the same thing as the fiancee who shoved you around. Control freak. The making the bed isn't about you being his mommy, it's a control issue, verging on OCD. Your leaving the quarter on the floor, closing his car door too hard driving him crazy, that shit is all indicative of a highly controlling personality.

Start thinking, girl. Take a long hard look at what ALL the men in your life have been like. Making a written list of each guys personality (i.e., funny, obsessively clean, sarcastic, etc.). Don't try to compare them immediately, just write the traits down, good and bad, and let them perculate for a few days. Then pull out the lists in a week or so, and start thinking about what the guys have in common (and they WILL have commonalities). You'll start seeing what you're drawn to. Then it's time to be brutally honest with yourself and figure out what inside of YOU keeps drawing you to this type of personality. That's how you break the cycle.

 

[musclemom]

You are SOOOO RIGHT! Actually, this just occurred to me after this break up, because I realized that I did the EXACT SAME THING again! I tend to fall for guys who are VERY self absorbed and emotionally constipated...lol. The more they seem displeased with me, the more I try to please them and make things happy. I'm beginning to think that it is because this was the role I played as a child (mediator/pleaser) and I keep doing it.

99 times out of 100 our relationship with our father dictates our relationships with men. Women often (unconsciously) try to work out unresolvable issues through boyfriends that were the most painful/recurrent problems they had with their fathers.

 

[Smurfy]

he probably just made shit up so you think hes a tool instead of taking it hard, cause most likely he knows what uv been through lately and how hard being a single mom can be.

he really just hates your personality, and thinks you suck

is that the technique you use when you break up with girls?





oh , wait......nevermind.

 

[redsamurai]

no...he does something with cell phone technology infrastructure.

and he didn't make you analyze your dookie right?

 

[heatherrae]

99 times out of 100 our relationship with our father dictates our relationships with men. Women often (unconsciously) try to work out unresolvable issues through boyfriends that were the most painful/recurrent problems they had with their fathers.

My father and mother were divorced and I had to jump like a doggy through hoops to get attention. "Look daddy, I got straight A's." You get the picture.

 

[all the whey]

 

[heatherrae]

and he didn't make you analyze your dookie right?

No, but I'm sure he has a theory on that, TOO. He was sort of weird...lol.

 

[heatherrae]

he thought I was slamming the door because I was mad at him. He left my camera on the roof of the car when he was putting bags in the car and drove off. Ruined a camera that I had just bought a couple of months prior. Then, he said, "I can't believe a lawyer is upset over a $200 camera." He never admitted he broke it.

 

[heatherrae]

is that the technique you use when you break up with girls?





oh , wait......nevermind.