My bf in Texas dumped me

[velvett]

Good point!

That is weird. He actually said that I shut his door to his car too hard. I may have been dating the same man...lol. He told me I needed to let Devin cry. He told me that I should be working out 4 days on and 1 day off...lol...it was ENDLESS. He was such a NAG. I would try to help him in the kitchen and he would bitch that I put the glasses in the dishwasher instead of hand washing them. For some reason, he accused me on the first day there of getting into the pantry and eating the snacks. I didn't. I'm on a diet, but go figure. He was weird.

Whoa.

What a whack job.

 

[GUARDIAN]

I will cosole and comfort you.

 

[musclemom]

Good point!

That is weird. He actually said that I shut his door to his car too hard. I may have been dating the same man...lol. He told me I needed to let Devin cry. He told me that I should be working out 4 days on and 1 day off...lol...it was ENDLESS. He was such a NAG. I would try to help him in the kitchen and he would bitch that I put the glasses in the dishwasher instead of hand washing them. For some reason, he accused me on the first day there of getting into the pantry and eating the snacks. I didn't. I'm on a diet, but go figure. He was weird.

Okay, so stop and think ... why do you keep going for the same type? Because really, being anal retentive is the same thing as the fiancee who shoved you around. Control freak. The making the bed isn't about you being his mommy, it's a control issue, verging on OCD. Your leaving the quarter on the floor, closing his car door too hard driving him crazy, that shit is all indicative of a highly controlling personality.

Start thinking, girl. Take a long hard look at what ALL the men in your life have been like. Making a written list of each guys personality (i.e., funny, obsessively clean, sarcastic, etc.). Don't try to compare them immediately, just write the traits down, good and bad, and let them perculate for a few days. Then pull out the lists in a week or so, and start thinking about what the guys have in common (and they WILL have commonalities). You'll start seeing what you're drawn to. Then it's time to be brutally honest with yourself and figure out what inside of YOU keeps drawing you to this type of personality. That's how you break the cycle.

 

[heatherrae]

You guys should be ashamed! This young ladie has just suffered a break-up and all you guys can do is make these sleezy come-ons. If she needed someone (like me) to hold her tight in their big muscular arms(like mine) This is certianly the wrong time to go about it like this. She needs someone who understands( sublimental message ME)...

lol...very cute (like me)

 

[Turd Ferguson]

Yeah...those can't be the real reasons. If they are, he is one shallow fella.

I didn't care too much for Dallas, by the way. The salespeople are too pushy there and the scenery isn't as pretty as kentucky. It was COLD too. I brought all shorts and skirts and FROZE...lol.

Most likely he has another person in the works or on the hook. He was just manufacturing reasons.

 

[all the whey]

Good point!

That is weird. He actually said that I shut his door to his car too hard. I may have been dating the same man...lol. He told me I needed to let Devin cry. He told me that I should be working out 4 days on and 1 day off...lol...it was ENDLESS. He was such a NAG. I would try to help him in the kitchen and he would bitch that I put the glasses in the dishwasher instead of hand washing them. For some reason, he accused me on the first day there of getting into the pantry and eating the snacks. I didn't. I'm on a diet, but go figure. He was weird.

 

[heatherrae]

Okay, so stop and think ... why do you keep going for the same type? Because really, being anal retentive is the same thing as the fiancee who shoved you around. Control freak. The making the bed isn't about you being his mommy, it's a control issue, verging on OCD. Your leaving the quarter on the floor, closing his car door too hard driving him crazy, that shit is all indicative of a highly controlling personality.

Start thinking, girl. Take a long hard look at what ALL the men in your life have been like. Making a written list of each guys personality (i.e., funny, obsessively clean, sarcastic, etc.). Don't try to compare them immediately, just write the traits down, good and bad, and let them perculate for a few days. Then pull out the lists in a week or so, and start thinking about what the guys have in common (and they WILL have commonalities). You'll start seeing what you're drawn to. Then it's time to be brutally honest with yourself and figure out what inside of YOU keeps drawing you to this type of personality. That's how you break the cycle.

You are SOOOO RIGHT! Actually, this just occurred to me after this break up, because I realized that I did the EXACT SAME THING again! I tend to fall for guys who are VERY self absorbed and emotionally constipated...lol. The more they seem displeased with me, the more I try to please them and make things happy. I'm beginning to think that it is because this was the role I played as a child (mediator/pleaser) and I keep doing it.

 

[heatherrae]

I love you.

 

[redsamurai]

did he used to be an astronaut?

Good point!

That is weird. He actually said that I shut his door to his car too hard. I may have been dating the same man...lol. He told me I needed to let Devin cry. He told me that I should be working out 4 days on and 1 day off...lol...it was ENDLESS. He was such a NAG. I would try to help him in the kitchen and he would bitch that I put the glasses in the dishwasher instead of hand washing them. For some reason, he accused me on the first day there of getting into the pantry and eating the snacks. I didn't. I'm on a diet, but go figure. He was weird.

 

[heatherrae]

did he used to be an astronaut?

no...he does something with cell phone technology infrastructure.