Jenscats Countdown to Competition Log

[skittles]

Well I went to the gym today to do some cardio & the woman whom I competed against works there. Tried to catch her eye but she was walking around looking down the whole time. John (the desk guy) asked me to tell him about the show & while I was talking to him I asked if Maryanne was upset. He said she was VERY upset - came in yesterday looking like she had cried all day Sunday & turned around & left.

I left her alone & let her have her space. I feel bad for her cuz I guess she had expected a lot more.

Jen, you should be in your glory

Think about how hard YOU worked, how far YOU came, the fact that YOU worked your ass off ALL YEAR LONG

I don't want to sound b!&**y.....BUT you shouldn't feel bad.

This is a sport (where everyone who 'plays' gets judged) It's not your fault that you placed better. If anything, she should be talking to you, asking help & ideas from you.

I undersatnd she is down at the moment, but it's not very fair of her to ingore you.

I hope she cheers up, so you don't feel uncomfortable at your gym.

Sorry, I don't have any advice how how to approach her - I just want you to know you shouldn't feel bad.

 

[jenscats5]

Jen, you should be in your glory

Think about how hard YOU worked, how far YOU came, the fact that YOU worked your ass off ALL YEAR LONG

I don't want to sound b!&**y.....BUT you shouldn't feel bad.

This is a sport (where everyone who 'plays' gets judged) It's not your fault that you placed better. If anything, she should be talking to you, asking help & ideas from you.

I undersatnd she is down at the moment, but it's not very fair of her to ingore you.

I hope she cheers up, so you don't feel uncomfortable at your gym.

Sorry, I don't have any advice how how to approach her - I just want you to know you shouldn't feel bad.

Well I feel bad in a more sympathetic/empathetic way as I know how it feels to not place well after all the hard work, etc.......And I know it's not my fault either.

But like you said - I hope she's just down in the dumps & won't take it out on me........

 

[Miss24k]

So true Skittles

Jens, this is why you should never go into a compete with a set "expectation" sure we all want to win, but we have to remember that so does everyone else who competes, and everyone has done "their best" to get on that stage, you don't know what the judges are looking for the day of the show, she may have had what they were looking for last time, and you have it this time.

If we expect to win everytime we step on stage, then we're selling ourselves short.

I'm sorry she's upset, but this isn't a sport for sore losers. If she wasn't happy with her performance then she needs to pick herself up and work harder. There's no need to walk around with a sour face, and quite honestly you shouldn't feel bad for 1 second you worked your ass off for this. I was going to say something else, but I'll stop here. My mouth is to damn big sometimes lol.

 

[buffalogal]

Well I feel bad in a more sympathetic/empathetic way as I know how it feels to not place well after all the hard work, etc.......And I know it's not my fault either.

But like you said - I hope she's just down in the dumps & won't take it out on me........

I imagine she's just down and feeling sorry for herself, and probably doesn't have the strength or mindset to look you in the eye yet. I can't imagine she'd take it out on you.

In fact, she may end up coming to you later on for advice! I'm sure she just had her expectations up too high and just needs time to feel bad.

Just don't let her rain on your accomplishment. You did fantastic and should be extremely proud of yourself!

 

[skittles]

Well I feel bad in a more sympathetic/empathetic way as I know how it feels to not place well after all the hard work, etc.......And I know it's not my fault either.

But like you said - I hope she's just down in the dumps & won't take it out on me........

I undersatnd why you feel bad (I probably would too)

BUT - just think of this - you had a judge (even though he was being unfair) tell you you had no back & a fat ass. I'm sure you were down, but then you looked for ways to fix this. You even e-mailed the board to get other opinions. Even in your 1st comp, I'm sure you were down, but you jumped at the opportunity to recieve criticism & make yourself better.

Maybe you could tell her something like this to make her feel better?

 

[momsgettinfit]

Oh Jens your such a softy,LOL. Your a kind hearted person, hopefully she will get over being down on herself and pick herself up and realize you are not gonna please everyone. It's all part of competing. If she holds this against you Jens then she just really needs to grow up,but hopefully she won't take it there.

 

[jenscats5]

I agree with everything you all said........ she was kind of a sore loser Saturday as she had her stuff packed up & left right quick!! I'll just keep out of her way for a while - give her a chance to "get over it" so to speak.

 

[bluehen]

Hey Jen I'm 90% certain that the Gold's Classic will be held here Poland Spring Arena at the high school. I'm pretty sure they use the area for almost every event at the school.

 

[jenscats5]

Hey Jen I'm 90% certain that the Gold's Classic will be held here Poland Spring Arena at the high school. I'm pretty sure they use the area for almost every event at the school.

I thought it was actually AT Tom's River HS?? But not sure if it's the North, South or East school.........

 

[bluehen]

I thought it was actually AT Tom's River HS?? But not sure if it's the North, South or East school.........

It is they built that arena as part of the high school if you can believe that. BTW it is North.