Is this strange?

[Stefka]

you mentioned keeping him out of jail.....hmmmm. dynamite in the sack. got you at odds with friends and family ? look up "antisocial personality disorder" sociopathic men have a magnetic effect on women. especially women prone to be codependent. any little crevice in the ole self esteem department will be sniffed out and preyed upon. you have described, unintentionally of course, a sociopath or at least someone with traits. do he do drugs? hard time holding a job and paying debts? immature emotionally but intelligent? charismatic, charming?

Yep, that is him exactly.
He is a nutcase, I know.

 

[digimon7068]

nothing good can possibly come from that.

unless you're hotter than new christine. . .

 

[Stefka]

So he called me today saying "So I hear you had a nice conversation with my girlfriend. What did you guys say about me?"
That made me realize that we didn't really talk about him at all, we were just chatting about all sorts of other stuff.
Meh, she's smart enough to figure out that he is evil.
We'll probably have fun when I go back there.
I still hate that asshole though.

 

[Smurfy]

But I HATE this guy.
It is a strange kind of hate though.
He is bad but charming.
He has done some bad bad things.
We went through so much.
It is easy to hate him when I dont have to talk to him/see him.
But when we talk he seems like a long lost friend - someone who was there through the worst of times (even though he put me in these worst of times).
But now I dont know what to think.
Part of me thinks that maybe he is getting better and that the new awesome girlfriend can keep him on the right track.
Most of me knows that he is still fucked up and that no matter how awesome the new girlfriend is he will still end up dragging her down.
I dont want to see that happen to anyone else.
I have no idea what I will be getting myself into by going back there.
I don't make good decisions when I am dealing with bad news.

i knew exactly what you're talkihg about. i feel this way about my ex husband. in the past he has really pissed me the fuck off like no one else has. ive hated his fucking guts for a while now but because of my son, we communicate in a amicable way most of the time. at times i find us chatting about stuff and even laughing on the phone and it;s like for a short time i forget who im talkng to and the fact that i fucking hate this guy. but then he'll say or do something totally fucking retarded and i'll tell him what a fucking moron loser he is.

 

[Smurfy]

oh and ;lumberg and my ex get along better than my ex and i do, that's for sure. lumberg says it's because he doesnt have the tainted history with the ex like i do. yeah lol. but even lumberg cant tolerate this man for very long.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

lol at "hate".

Here's a hint to women, ESPECIALLY ex GF's - sometimes having a woman hate you is PREFERRED. I can't tell you how many times I've had a female hate me, just look at me like they want me to die, only to end up with them in some manner of the sexuals.

Emotions are emotions, whether they are labled "good" or "bad". I would rather have a woman hate me than be indifferent. If you can get a female to have strong feelings toward you - regardless of what those feelings actually are - you've already won. You're in. You trigger an emotional response from her and a very strong one at that.

It's much easier to turn strong "hatred" into something positive than it is to turn indifference into something worthwhile.

Great point, and I'm glad you explained that so I didn't have to bother.
It's so funny how a women (particularly someone you're with) will mockingly say derogatory things about "this guy" like he's kind've a fag, metro, etc. bothering her at odd hours of the night, what a freak, etc. and you know damn well if you mess up with this chic that "this guy" will most likely be the next one to tap it, regardless if she's still with you or not.

Far cry this is from how men treat it. If I say that I hate a women and she's annoying me, etc. it simply means I'd love for her to vanish from the earth and everywhere else, period.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Whin I see him I will kick him hard in the balls.
I'm not kidding.
He doesn't even get a hello hug.
Then, maybe from there we can get along long enough to deal with all of this other stuff.
I have lots of feelings for him - mostly anger.
This isn't a simple relationship gone bad type thing.
He dragged me into a bad scene, I tried to get out like three times.
There were legal and financial repercussions from our relationship - I took the fall for all of it.
I was young and dumb - I accept that - but he was still an asshole to bring me into it.
I know his type -
pretty (because he is too vain to be with an ugly/average girl)
smart (usually a bit smarter than him)
artistic (but not as an accomplished artist as he is)
with low self esteem (because he feeds off of that)
I just want to tell her how stupid she is to be with him - but i dont want to be involved in their lives.
I know she'll figure it out eventually.
It all just makes me sick.

Out of curiosity, how long were you with this guy before you had sex with him?

 

[heatherrae]

Good girlfriends are as hard to find as good men are hard to find.

If you found a good GF, I wouldn't look a gifthorse in the mouth.

 

[Stefka]

Out of curiosity, how long were you with this guy before you had sex with him?

We were friends for like 3 months before we started sleeping together.

 

[layinback]

We were friends for like 3 months before we started sleeping together.

WHORE.