Is this strange?

[KillahBee]

lol at "hate".

Here's a hint to women, ESPECIALLY ex GF's - sometimes having a woman hate you is PREFERRED. I can't tell you how many times I've had a female hate me, just look at me like they want me to die, only to end up with them in some manner of the sexuals.

Emotions are emotions, whether they are labled "good" or "bad". I would rather have a woman hate me than be indifferent. If you can get a female to have strong feelings toward you - regardless of what those feelings actually are - you've already won. You're in. You trigger an emotional response from her and a very strong one at that.

It's much easier to turn strong "hatred" into something positive than it is to turn indifference into something worthwhile.

 

[Stefka]

Wow....selfish much?....lol. Totally kidding. Sounds like a strange situation indeed. Good luck Do you find you still have feelings for him? Is that what makes it seem strange? I just sort of got that vibe the way you described him.

Whin I see him I will kick him hard in the balls.
I'm not kidding.
He doesn't even get a hello hug.
Then, maybe from there we can get along long enough to deal with all of this other stuff.
I have lots of feelings for him - mostly anger.
This isn't a simple relationship gone bad type thing.
He dragged me into a bad scene, I tried to get out like three times.
There were legal and financial repercussions from our relationship - I took the fall for all of it.
I was young and dumb - I accept that - but he was still an asshole to bring me into it.
I know his type -
pretty (because he is too vain to be with an ugly/average girl)
smart (usually a bit smarter than him)
artistic (but not as an accomplished artist as he is)
with low self esteem (because he feeds off of that)
I just want to tell her how stupid she is to be with him - but i dont want to be involved in their lives.
I know she'll figure it out eventually.
It all just makes me sick.

 

[Stefka]

nothing good can possibly come from that.

True - that is this situation in the most simple form.

 

[bigmann245]

well out of respect to the mutual friend i would go. but i would leave it at that. i wouldnt get mixed up with them at all because even though your not tegether it sounds like he can still take you down.

 

[layinback]

But I HATE this guy.
It is a strange kind of hate though.
He is bad but charming.
He has done some bad bad things.
We went through so much.
It is easy to hate him when I dont have to talk to him/see him.
But when we talk he seems like a long lost friend - someone who was there through the worst of times (even though he put me in these worst of times).
But now I dont know what to think.
Part of me thinks that maybe he is getting better and that the new awesome girlfriend can keep him on the right track.
Most of me knows that he is still fucked up and that no matter how awesome the new girlfriend is he will still end up dragging her down.
I dont want to see that happen to anyone else.
I have no idea what I will be getting myself into by going back there.
I don't make good decisions when I am dealing with bad news.

stefka, killabee is right, fine line between love and hate....both are passions. apathy is a different story. you and the new girl got something in common. you are both "tuned" to the same frequency in that you "attract" the same kinda guy. your looking out for her emotional well being is honorable and certainly justifiable. either meet her or dont. chances are he will squash this meeting so as to not "let the cat out of the bag" or he will paint a picture making you the bad guy. cheating is a character disorder and doesnt stop there. you will be better served looking at yourself and why you drew this guy into your life. not giving him a pass but you cant change him. you can however examine this scene and learn about yourself.

 

[Stefka]

lol at "hate".

Here's a hint to women, ESPECIALLY ex GF's - sometimes having a woman hate you is PREFERRED. I can't tell you how many times I've had a female hate me, just look at me like they want me to die, only to end up with them in some manner of the sexuals.

Emotions are emotions, whether they are labled "good" or "bad". I would rather have a woman hate me than be indifferent. If you can get a female to have strong feelings toward you - regardless of what those feelings actually are - you've already won. You're in. You trigger an emotional response from her and a very strong one at that.

It's much easier to turn strong "hatred" into something positive than it is to turn indifference into something worthwhile.

I've thought about this so many times.
Love and hate are very close together.
I would love to be indifferent about this guy.
But when someone has such a bad impact on your life that just doesn't happen.
I like hating him.
I don't know if we will ever be friends again.
But I dont think I will ever be able to be indifferent about him.
That is the power of hatered - it sucks out a lot of energy.
i don't want to revist this part of my life - but circumstances have made it so that I have to deal with every fuckin person from this part of my life.
Can someone please just rip my heart out?
I don't want to care about these people.

 

[Jon79]

i know how u feel

foshizzle

 

[KillahBee]

I've thought about this so many times.
Love and hate are very close together.
I would love to be indifferent about this guy.
But when someone has such a bad impact on your life that just doesn't happen.
I like hating him.
I don't know if we will ever be friends again.
But I dont think I will ever be able to be indifferent about him.
That is the power of hatered - it sucks out a lot of energy.
i don't want to revist this part of my life - but circumstances have made it so that I have to deal with every fuckin person from this part of my life.
Can someone please just rip my heart out?
I don't want to care about these people.

These are conflicting. To be honest (without knowing you or your situation), in general, people LOVE to hate. Not just cause it's easy, but because it is a very strong emotion and sometimes, in our monotonous daily routines and generally boring lives, getting to experience a real and strong emotion is euphoric. Plus it gives us a purpose, something to think about, something to "do" or even "be".

Just something to think about.

 

[Stefka]

stefka, killabee is right, fine line between love and hate....both are passions. apathy is a different story. you and the new girl got something in common. you are both "tuned" to the same frequency in that you "attract" the same kinda guy. your looking out for her emotional well being is honorable and certainly justifiable. either meet her or dont. chances are he will squash this meeting so as to not "let the cat out of the bag" or he will paint a picture making you the bad guy. cheating is a character disorder and doesnt stop there. you will be better served looking at yourself and why you drew this guy into your life. not giving him a pass but you cant change him. you can however examine this scene and learn about yourself.

No - he won't squash the meeting.
He thinks that she and I will be great friends - which seems to be true.
The problems with him weren't cheating problems.
He was just nuts in so many ways.
I have looked long and hard as to why I let him into my life...He loves girls like me.
I have grown a lot since then, but I still feel the need to hit him over the head with a baseball bat and give his poor girlfriend a hug.
None of this would have happened if my dumb ass friend hadn't decided to kill himself.
Yeah, I'm mad at him too.

 

[layinback]

No - he won't squash the meeting.
He thinks that she and I will be great friends - which seems to be true.
The problems with him weren't cheating problems.
He was just nuts in so many ways.
I have looked long and hard as to why I let him into my life...He loves girls like me.
I have grown a lot since then, but I still feel the need to hit him over the head with a baseball bat and give his poor girlfriend a hug.
None of this would have happened if my dumb ass friend hadn't decided to kill himself.
Yeah, I'm mad at him too.

well stefka i know its the oldest cliche in the book but its 100% true "hell hath no fury like a womans scorn" being x womanizer i know this all to well. thats one of the reasons i quit womanizing.....aint worth it.